"Why do you always mention these rotten sesame seeds?" It's a phrase that men often say to women. So why do women always love to turn over old accounts? In fact, there is a root cause to this phenomenon.
First, the landing point of men's and women's feelings is different: men are rough and outward, women are delicate and introverted, and the difference between the outside and the inside, one sheet and one receipt, is bound to doom men and women to deal with problems in the opposite way. If men are not satisfied with something, they will directly vent this emotion, and then the rain will pass, while women generally behave calmly, but their hearts are already turbulent, and they will bury something that stabs them deep in their hearts and never forget it. This is the fundamental reason why women love to turn over old accounts.
Second, the woman's nostalgia psychology is at work: in the world of two or a family of three, we often find that there are very few private daily items belonging to the husband, each of which is basically a necessity of life, especially in the proportion of the distribution of the wardrobe, many couples are three or seven open, or even two or eight open, of course, here is only a daily life item, not a book, painting or other collection of items that belong to many men.
Third, women's memory methods are different from men: behind women's memory, there is also a special way for women to remember things, this special performance, in their memory of things, often do not pay attention to the overall logic, but tend to fragment memory.
Turning over old accounts is a way for women to express their dissatisfaction with men and ask for more attention. In the process of turning over old accounts, women are actually sending such a message to men: "You used to be bad to me, and now you don't repent, but you are more arbitrary!" They add up past and present events to remind and condemn men and make them understand why they are angry today.
In addition, the nagging nature of some women and the temper of being calculating are the reasons for their love to turn over old accounts. Although they can vent their anger and negative emotions by turning over old accounts, if they use it too frequently, it will inevitably cause men to be bored, even if women's grievances will initially make men feel guilty, this guilt will also dissipate in women's "enduring" countdowns and complaints. In the minds of men, women will gradually become an image of a mother-in-law who is both a small belly and a mother-in-law.
Therefore, everything must be properly mastered, and men can neither let it go nor be forced to be bitter. Different women are also turning over old accounts, if you can grasp the priorities, it will turn out different effects, the old accounts are turned over, can make men more distressed about you, love you, feel that they can marry a wife like you, it is his three lifetimes lucky; And when the old account is turned over, the man will feel that you are unreasonable, and even lose his temper on the spot.