Text/Ah Nian, Jiang Zuo Mei Niang
In life, everyone wants to live a prosperous life, but not everyone can do it. Life is never easy, and each of us will fall into the vortex of troubles, such as imprisonment.
There is a saying that goes: "To influence others is to save others; to change oneself is to save oneself." "True growth begins with changing yourself.
When you start to change, with the following three signs, your life path will become more and more open.
01. Widowhood: More words will cause trouble, and less right and wrong
As the saying goes, "There is a ruler in words, and there is a degree of ridicule." ”
If a person has no measure to speak, and only cares about himself as soon as he spits out, then, even if his ability is strong, he will eventually cause trouble.
Neighbor Xiaoqian works as a customer service in a listed company, she has strong work ability and good personality.
Logically, such a girl in the company, must be a "fragrant food". But she has performed well, but she has not been valued by the leadership.
It turned out that the problem was in Xiao Qian's mouth. Not only did she talk a lot, but she didn't have a little measure, so inadvertently, she offended many people.
When chatting with colleagues, she would often complain that the leader did not have a little eyesight, saying that she was obviously outstanding, but she had not yet been promoted and raised, and even questioned how the manager climbed to the leadership position.
The manager held a plenary meeting to assign tasks to everyone. But before the manager could finish speaking, she was the first to answer the phone and gushed out her thoughts and suggestions.
Even more excessively, the customer came to sign a contract with the manager, and after the manager signed, the customer praised it one after another: "Your words are really atmospheric!" It is worthy of the word like a person! ”
Xiao Qian immediately interjected, "Can it be atmospheric!" Our manager has been practicing autographs all day! ”
Suddenly, the scene was awkward. The manager was so angry that he did not speak for a long time. In the end, it is still the customer who circles the field with interest, otherwise everyone will not be able to get off the stage.
Later, Xiao Qian's contract period arrived. The manager directly cut Xiao Qian, the reason is known to everyone, only Xiao Qian still feels that she is very confused and very wronged.
The most taboo thing in the workplace is that the mouth is not covered, and Xiao Qian, who is obviously very capable, but because of the mouth is not covered, he has ruined his career, which is really not worth the loss.
The writer Hemingway once said:
"It takes two years for people to learn to speak, but it takes a lifetime to learn to shut up."
Yes, speaking is an instinct, but being able to speak is a skill. A truly mature person knows how to be silent at the right time and speak with measure.
Speaking out is not only a shaping of personal cultivation, but also a kind of respect for others.
If you are quick in your mouth, you can only win a moment; only by being careful in your words and deeds can you win this life.
02. Physical diligence: people are not idle, people are busy to solve a thousand worries
The old saying goes: "Teenagers can't go through a good situation, middle age can't be idle, and old people can't experience adversity." ”
Yes, when people are young, people are busy and have nothing to do, and people are idle. People who are too idle and have nothing to do all day will magnify the details of life, be calculating, and be angry.
Only by keeping yourself busy can you forget those trivial things, not only will your mood be smooth, but you will also be able to concentrate closer to your ideals and goals.
When I first got married, I would always have an awkward fight with my husband because of the chickens and dogs in his family, and at that time we often quarreled, and the relationship once reached the freezing point.
Later, I liked to write, and also signed up for a writing class, the teacher asked everyone to write 3 pages of material, I took the initiative to write 6 pages.
Engaged in writing for more than 6 years, I have maintained the amount of one article a day, never broken, and every afternoon after work, I will be like the office workers, on time and on time to open the "writing mode", every day from nine o'clock in the evening to eleven o'clock, thunder and lightning.
I found that once I entered the writing state, the whole person's attention would be concentrated, and there would be no spare time to think about those troubles, and the more I wrote, the more inspired I became.
Later, I had more and more self-media fans, more and more letters from readers, and I still had heavy teaching work during the day every day, which led to my busyness every day and I couldn't idle at all.
I found that my husband and I could no longer argue, because instead of arguing, it was better to argue and lose both ways, and the income from writing could also subsidize the family.
I saw a passage that day, which made me very emotional, saying that if you are a person who has done business, you will not argue with others, because they will never do anything that only invests and does not return, and most of the people who like to quarrel are readers.
This paragraph makes me dumbfounded, to tell the truth is really reasonable, businessmen are shrewd, know that disputes are the most exhausting physical and time-consuming, but they can never compete for the results of the bloody things, so they never fight, readers will be more Geng, like to argue about right and wrong, but the truth is worth fighting, what is right or wrong in the parents?
After figuring this out, I spent more time on writing, arranging my life every day, not only producing a book, but also making my wallet bulge, enriching my spirit, and my relationship with my husband was also much more harmonious.
Master Nebula said:
"Busy is also a kind of practice, too idle, it will make people delusional."
Yes, busy is the clear key of troubles, which can eliminate people's inner sorrows; busy is the restart key of decadence, so that you have more ability to perceive happiness.
Therefore, when you let your head and body move, all your heart diseases will not heal themselves.
You will find that the dream you want will get closer and closer to you. Your life will also be given a deeper meaning by you.
03. Peace of mind: upset Pepsi, the heart is relaxed and worry-free
The most difficult road in the world is the heart road, and the most difficult obstacle to cross is also the heart barrier. As long as the heart is big, the matter is small; if you want to open, the road will be smooth.
There was an uncle in my hometown who was a little depressed a few years ago and went around for medical treatment, but his illness still did not improve. When I went back to see him last year, he seemed very anxious and confused.
After a few conversations, he confided in us.
His son has just gone to work in a big city, but he has no money to buy a house, his daughter has just divorced, and he washes his face with tears every day. The body is also not good, just checked out to have a slight cerebral thrombus.
I said that it is already remarkable that the son can go to the big city to get a foothold, compared to those who nibble at the old at home, you don't know how lucky it is, the daughter divorce is not very good, but leaving a scumbag is better than being trapped in an unhappy marriage! The wife's body has some conditions, it is not very good, but this problem is only a common disease of the elderly, and there is no need to worry too much! There is a saying that you may not like to hear, some elderly people, early loss of their wives, is not worse!
He thought about it and thought I was talking about it too.
Master Dazhao once said:
"No worries are blessings, and a wide heart is worry-free, so a wide heart is a blessing." The heart is as wide as the sea, and the hundred blessings have come. ”
Yes, the true meaning of life is to relax the mind. If you are calculating, Pepsi will be disgusted; if you have a broad heart, you will tolerate it.
The heart is wide, the troubles are naturally less, and if you want to open everything, you will win.
04. Mei Niang said
A hundred people go to see the world, there will be a hundred different scenery, whether you see darkness or stars, wilderness or hope, will change with the improvement of their own ability, the increase of wisdom, the change of angle.
Seeking inward, focusing on yourself, and making yourself better is the key to solving all problems. So, the sign that a person is getting better is to focus on the present moment and try to improve himself.
Speaking out can avoid your risks; being busy can approach your dreams; relaxing your heart can make you live open-mindedly and transparently.
People reach middle age, this is the three signs that a person is getting better and better, have you hit it?
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