A woman without money will have two significant performances to the outside world, and it will be clear at a glance

I don't know when it began, our lives are full of all kinds of exquisite beauties.

Everyone in their own small circle or circle of friends, basking in beautiful poetry and distant places, or exquisite life fragments, let people mistakenly think that this is a fashion blockbuster, or a rich day of the top rich.

They never seem to show the difficulty and grounding of their own fireworks in the world, always hanging in the air to show their exquisite and different beauty, attracting more eyes and envy.

But if you really think this is the other person's real state of life, you're dead wrong.

Some women do not live really, and the delicacy and beauty displayed to the outside world are just deliberately created personalities, not their own inherent true appearance.

I have seen an example of a woman whose income is not high, her husband's income is not very much, and her monthly income is very little except for debt repayment and expenses.

However, she liked to love vanity, saw the appearance of some exquisite women in the circle of friends, imagined that she could be like them, and thought that this would become a scenery that others envied.

So, without the consent of her family, she secretly took her savings to buy tens of thousands of women's bags, and also continued to dry in the circle of friends, which let her husband know, and began to divorce her in a huff.

The days are for oneself, not for others.

If you look closely, you will find that a woman without money will have two significant performances to the outside world, and it will be clear at a glance.

1 Like to show off in a high profile

There is a view in psychology: "The more you lack something, the more you will show off something." ”

When some women openly show off their exquisite lives in the circle of friends or other occasions, many times they do not really live such a life, but attract attention by showing off.

They themselves do not have such a life, and their hearts are extremely eager to live such a life, but they do not have the ability and money to have such a life at the moment, and they can only satisfy their sense of vanity by showing off.

Therefore, once they get a little praise from others, they will mistakenly think that they have found happiness in life, and then they will begin to "disguise" tirelessly, without considering their real income situation, in fact, they are more and more miserable.

In fact, some people have already understood the truth, but they just haven't said it explicitly.

In their circle of friends, there has never been a sense of self-struggle or quiet life, almost all of them are showing off their own high-end jewelry or luxury life, which undoubtedly proves that they are deliberately packaging their own personalities, rather than real wealth, so there is often an ulterior motive behind such packaging.

On the contrary, really rich women do not like and are not good at showing off everything they have, they pay more attention to the tranquility of the heart and the improvement of self-worth, and will not let themselves stay on the ostentation of material life, because they have it, and there is no need to prove it.

Therefore, the more women who like to show off in a high profile, they often run counter to everything presented, they try their best to whitewash the beauty of the show, but in fact, they do not have all this, and eventually they are suffered by their own pursuit of materialism, and they begin to decline.

2 Often caught up in tangled contradictions

The writer Maugham once said:

"Of course, what man pursues is not wealth, but he must have a life sufficient to maintain his majesty, so that he can work unhindered, can be generous, can be cheerful, can be independent." 」

Women who have money are the bottom line and can make themselves more independent; women who have no money will have resentment, and in the real world, they will often worry about money.

Although having or not having money is not the only condition for giving yourself self-confidence, living in the moment, too often because of things related to money, too often embarrass yourself.

When a woman has no money, she will often let herself fall into the contradiction of entanglement, and the heart will obviously not change herself with more money and less money, but when there is no money, she will also make herself embarrassed, so the two states of life will swim around, or let yourself have some inferiority, but you will feel that you are not living for money.

This is because, at present, I don't have the ability to have a better material life, but I don't want to run my whole life for money, so I will swing left and right.

They will have emotional fluctuations, will make themselves inferior, only because of the embarrassment caused by that time, so it will become more entangled and contradictory.

Actor Liu Mintao was once no different from an ordinary housewife, for 7 years in a row, at home to meet her husband and teach her children, no job, no income.

Once, when I went out on a trip with my husband, I thought of an ice cream that I especially wanted to eat, but because I had no money, I could only pass by.

After the divorce, she understood a truth: women not only live for marriage, but also for themselves.

So, she began to take on various roles again, and after becoming popular, she achieved financial freedom, she could buy what she wanted, and she could reject what she didn't want.

She once said: "Since the life of following the rules and going with the flow has not brought me the expected happiness, it is better to be myself, rely on myself, let go of myself, and achieve myself." ”

In fact, this is when you are strong, you have enough money to bring confidence, so that you have more right to speak, but also have more choices.

There is nothing shameful about women having no money for the time being, there is really no need to pretend to be money to fool others, deceive themselves, and make themselves better and richer by struggling.

When you have the ability to make money, you actually have the ability to control a happy life, so that you have the ability to resist various risks in the future.

The road ahead is still long, don't be anxious, may you have light in your eyes, have money in your body, live thoroughly, and live without fear of darkness.

-EDN-