Many people think that if they love each other enough, they can live happily together.
But after experiencing the wind and rain, I understand that life is not only love, but there are really too many factors that can affect the happiness of two people, so many that sometimes people are a little confused.
Many times two people obviously love each other, but they are not suitable for being together, two people together will only consume each other, and when the last bit of beauty in each other's hearts is destroyed, it will be born of love and hate.
In fact, love does not have to be together, sometimes standing next to each other and watching from a distance is also a kind of love.
So in a relationship, how to judge whether you are suitable or not, whether you are suitable or not to continue to go on, in fact, you can examine from these aspects.
The first aspect is whether you can be yourself
Love is to make each other better, it is two people to complete each other, it is two people to work together to create a better life.
But some people's love is a kind of unilateral demand, in order to please the other party, lose themselves, and strive to become what the other person likes in their hearts.
Love is not just a unilateral change for each other, change is a two-way change, if you find that in a relationship, you can't be yourself, then there is really no need to go on.
At this time, love is already a kind of bondage for you, so comfortable that you can't even show your true self, what is the meaning of such love?
Instead of two people torturing each other together, it is better to turn long pain into short pain, and two people should separate early and go their separate ways to find a new happy life.
In the second aspect, there is always only one person taking the initiative
One person can not afford to support the love of two people, good feelings can not be separated from the management of two people, only two people are personally involved in this relationship, happiness will continue and long-lasting.
But now there are too many people who love too selfishly, and they only want to get in their feelings but never want to give, so they don't have too many feelings.
When two people have a conflict, they can say the breakup very lightly, and then kick the affectionate person away.
If you find that in your relationship, only one person is active, whether the other person is taking the initiative or you are taking the initiative, the relationship has no need to continue any longer.
If only the other person is taking the initiative, it means that you don't love each other much, and if only you are active, then it means that the other party does not love you much.
The third aspect is that there is no sense of trust in each other
It is said that trust is the cornerstone of a relationship, and many things in the follow-up are derived from trust, if two people can't even trust, what to talk about staying together for a lifetime.
When a relationship is full of suspicion and distrust, even if the relationship between two people has been very good, those beautiful things will always be only once.
The other party does not tell you how much money they have, and even what they are doing every day do not want to tell you, you two are obviously the closest people, but the other party treats you like a thief.
Even after many people get married, they not only treat their other half as thieves, but even their own families treat each other as thieves, and what is the need to continue such feelings.
If two people can't trust each other, there's really no need to go on, believe it or not, trust is the foundation of love.
In fact, love or no love, many people already have the answer in their hearts, but many people are not willing to accept this fact, or do not want to be the evil person who proposed to break up.
Learn to face your heart, whether you love it or not, you must be brave enough to speak out.
It is said that life is like people drinking cold and warm self-knowledge, in fact, the feelings are not so, whether they live well or not, whether the other party loves you or not, the people in it understand best, and the outsiders are only judging a few words at most.
Just like when you buy a pair of shoes, others will only say how your shoes look, but the shoes don't fit well, only you understand.