To My Senior Year "Divine Baby"
Text/Xu Jianli
Dear Piggy,
High school senior year hard!
After the exam two days ago, you didn't have any ease, watching your collagen-filled face with small acne, I know you are worried about the results. So that morning at breakfast, I sent you a passage from Zeng Guofan: things come to conform, the future is not welcomed, the matter is not complicated, and the past is not in love. In fact, like many mothers, I am ready to enlighten you, but I know more how much babies of your age hate nagging, so I only added one sentence: seize the moment, there may be a better future. I know that you will definitely understand the meaning of it while saying that I sing a high-pitched voice, Zhinu Moruomu, although you are a "god baby", but I will come to the palm of the god, right?
The other day, because of the epidemic, your school was closed for management. The children of colleagues around them called their parents to complain. I know that you, who were also raised by fine upbringing, will not adapt, you did not contact us, and we also pretend that you are all right. Because we know that this is also your rare opportunity to live independently, not to mention that the teachers are also with you. What you call suffering is nothing more than that some pampered habits have lost the soil of existence and are "disease-free groaning." In the end, you still can't hold on and cry on the phone. I simply comforted you twice, told you that this bit of bitterness is nothing, and gritted my teeth and passed. You are very wronged, let me understand you more. Piglet, you are the baby of your parents, and every tear of yours falls on our hearts. Mom left home for school at the age of twelve, how can she not understand your feelings? But what is the use of irritability and complaining? In a person's life, there will be a smooth road, and there will also be a step by step time. For an environment that cannot be changed, instead of complaining, it is better to work hard to adapt to it. You can vent your emotions, the so-called wise people cry for a while, stupid people cry for a lifetime, or you have to adjust your emotions as soon as possible and focus on the first important thing in your life - the college entrance examination.
The academic pressure of the third year of high school is undoubtedly enormous, and this is something we cannot change. If you want to relax tomorrow, you must work hard today, or try to turn this hard work into sweetness. Just like bees are busy among the flowers every day, although it is hard, but what makes them happy must be the final sweetness. Many years later, when you have achieved certain success and then taste this hard work, you will be proud of the tough you at this time, and it is the sweat of the moment that has made you excellent in the future. It is true that there are things in the world that want to succeed, and there are also things that backfire, but there is another role in the payment at this moment, that is, there will be no regrets in the future. No matter what the outcome is in the future, if you have worked hard in the present, you will not have regrets and regrets in the future.
You said that your best friend left school at a critical moment of the college entrance examination to give up, and I am very relieved that you said four words: irresponsible. You're right, everyone is responsible for themselves, for the people who love you, for the people you love. If you do not have a deep understanding and arrangement of your own life, with your own mood willful at every key point, it is not a personality, but an irresponsibility for yourself and love. What's more, each of us has a greater responsibility - social responsibility, and the day you enter the society, we will discuss this issue. Now let's extend this matter to the question of willfulness. You children are only called "Shenwa" by our parents, and I think it is largely because your active thinking brings us one helpless and even some overwhelmed surprises, but I still hope that the word "Shenwa" is more of a vigorous vitality than a willful waywardness. Life can allow us to have some small willfulness, or it can be seen as some small fun in serious life. But at the critical moment of life, we can't tolerate a trace of willfulness. You also often describe some wayward behavior as a search for freedom, but dear, willfulness is never the same as freedom, and a responsible person is never a wayward person. Spring and summer are long, autumn harvests are hidden in winter, all things have their own way of growth, and freedom is the extension within the rules. Freedom from the rules is like the invasion of alien creatures, and its so-called "free" growth often robs other creatures of their right to exist. All life is not an independent individual, it is closely related to everything around us, and so are people, so we cannot use such "freedom" excuses to act with our nature.
Piglet, we have always adopted the "free-range" model for you, and you may be able to understand it. Your stuff, my dad and I never got too involved. Probably what I care about you the most is that when you were in kindergarten, I searched around for excellent cartoons for you to "enjoy" when you finished your homework. Happily, this also invisibly cultivates the awareness that you can only freely dispose of your spare time after doing "the right thing". Later, when you learn to dance, we will accompany you for five years if you like it, and we will withdraw if you don't like it. You like to draw, but you don't like to be bound by the teacher to draw, so we let you "blindly paint" freely. Because I never accompanied you around to the training class on weekends, my colleagues joked with me: Are you a mother? Piglet, we give you full freedom, one is to let you discover what you really like, what you can do, and most importantly, we want to make your life as happy as possible. We as parents have come all the way and know that there is not much happiness in life, so when you can have it, we will give you as much as possible. Some people say that elite education is bitter, and if it is not bitter, it can become a superior person. We didn't want you to be the so-called "human being." How many so-called elites at that time were later lost to everyone. As a parent, there is no shame in admitting that your child will be an ordinary person in the future. Because 99.9% of people will be ordinary people. First of all, admit your own ordinary, do not give yourself too much pressure, do what you like in the allowable environment, and maybe you can become an extraordinary person who can freely dominate life in the future.
Piglet, there are less than two months to go before the college entrance examination, and we fully understand that sometimes you highlight your little temper. Still the same old way, not much to say, just one sentence: do what you think you want to do, what tomorrow is, tomorrow to say. At this time, many parents are beginning to act for the children's school, profession, and future employment. We don't want to plan your future at all, so we don't worry too much after listening to your opinions, and give you a little advice for you to choose. The future is nothing more than two outcomes: the elite and the ordinary. No matter who you are in the future and what you do, you are our beloved baby, what are you afraid of? There are hands and feet, as long as you are not lazy, you will not starve to death. So in the most stressful sprint stage, we still keep it easy to move forward psychologically.
The spring wind jumped on the branches, blowing open a tree of flowers, and thousands of purples and thousands of reds were only proud of the beautiful in the branches, because they survived the cold winter. Piglets, with this encouragement. Mom
Spring Night, April 2022
【About the author】Xu Jianli, an employee of National Energy Liaocheng Power Generation Co., Ltd., a member of The Liaocheng Writers Association, is an amateur entertainer with words. Essays, poems, newsletters, etc. are scattered in the industry media. The work "Many Things I Didn't Tell You" won the second prize of the first network moving competition of the Central Committee of the Communist Youth League.