If the pattern of people is large, they will not sink in the trivialities of life, and everywhere you look is the quiet appearance of the years. A person with a big pattern in the chest often has these 3 characteristics.
First, the attitude before the interest
"A gentleman is righteous, and a villain is a profit." People who really have a pattern, in the face of interests, will always make three points shrewd and retain seven points of sincerity. They always believe that they can be refined, but not yin.
In "Dream of the Red Chamber", Wang Xifeng's image is always criticized by the world. She lived in Jia Province, was in charge of the affairs of the province, and could have always enjoyed the treatment of pampering. But there was no end to her greed. In order to get more benefits, she arbitrarily withheld other people's monthly silver and collected bribes everywhere. In the past year, the large and small money, just through Wang Xifeng's hands, is no less than 100,000 taels. But she could never change the problem of being calculating. After forcing Sister You to die, she not only did not apologize in the slightest, but also took away Sister You's belongings. The ridiculous and sad thing is that even though Wang Xifeng calculated all his life, in the end he still ended up with nothing and empty hands.
If a person's pattern is too small, and he calculates everything for the sake of immediate interests, it is tantamount to laying a curse for himself. The more the pattern opens, the more they will understand that instead of struggling in the vortex of interests, it is better to go with the flow and give the soul a moment of rest. With a big picture in mind, you can live a good little life.
Second, the grace in the details
Any change does not happen suddenly, but is inadvertently chosen little by little. A person's greatest ability and deepest upbringing are hidden in the details. Some people are good to you and want to say it a thousand times, while some people are good to you, but silently make the subtleties impeccable.
Napoleon once said: "Know how to think in the other's shoes, can really stand in the position of others to see the problem, the world is yours." "You will find that those who have an extraordinary pattern in life can always do it knowingly and without asking, seeing through it and not saying anything." No matter how good the relationship, they will not lose their measure, no matter how big things, they will not be chaotic. Details see demeanor, pay attention to small things, in order to win people's hearts and minds, raise the pattern.
Third, the scale of quarrels
In our lifetime, we will encounter many forks in the road. And the ultimate fate is determined not only by luck, but sometimes by temper. As Mr. Lin Yutang said: "A person with a clean heart, a clear mind, and no unnecessary emotions and delusions will bring people a sense of security." "People, when there is always something wrong, they lose their temper carelessly, and when things are outdated, they regret it. In contrast, those who can grasp the scale well when quarreling are not only emotionally intelligent, but also more patterned. The last thing people should do is to win the current quarrel and lose the happiness of the whole life. The world is full of traps, and anger will lead you to the worst outcome.
With a pattern in mind, when doing things, we must be open-minded, grasp the scale, understand tolerance, and worry less. Speaking out and playing with moderation is a kind of advanced cultivation. People who have a big pattern in mind do not lose themselves for small profits, maintain a measure in front of all sentient beings, and tolerate generosity between heaven and earth. For the rest of your life, may you and I cultivate our character, achieve patterns, and live a better life.
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