May affection and love be with you
Many people want their marriage to be happy and harmonious, and do not have to fall into endless troubles all day because of family chores.
There is a very classic sentence describing marriage in "The Siege": marriage is like a city, people inside want to go out, people outside want to come in.
However, whether they are people who have not yet entered the "siege" of marriage, or who have been in marriage, their understanding of marriage and their feelings about marriage must be different. But in the end, marriage is a stage that people must go through in this life, and it is also a life that must be experienced.
In fact, for a woman, the degree of marital happiness mainly depends on these 2 aspects, on the one hand, the feelings with the husband, on the other hand, the way of getting along with family members, it can be said that if you want to be happy in marriage, both of which are indispensable.
Of course, if you have to arrange these two aspects in a sequence, the harmony of feelings with the husband is naturally put in the first place, after all, the future life is with the husband, only the husband and wife are harmonious, in the face of family conflicts, the husband will also be biased towards himself.
01 After marriage, he was despised by his mother-in-law
Fifi did not expect that on the eve of her graduation, her father would fall into an economic crisis due to the failure of his business, and most of his income after graduation was also mailed to the family.
Looking back on the previous life, although Fifi has a younger brother, in terms of eating and drinking, her parents have never favored either side of the sisters and brothers, eating, drinking, using, and wearing, each time the parents will prepare two sets for the use of the sisters and brothers.
It can be said that throughfifi's entire childhood plus the memories of her student days, they are beautiful and happy.
Her parents had promised Fifi that when she got married, she would be very prosperous, but now it seems that all this will come to naught.
But fortunately, Fifi's boyfriend Li Qiang is still inseparable from her, and after learning about the situation of Fifi's family, he also took the initiative to assume all the rent and the problem of eating and drinking.
For this reason, Fei Fei is also very grateful to Li Qiang in her heart.
And Fifi's parents are also distressed about their daughter, do not want to be dragged down by the family situation to Fifi, and Fifi also found the man who is willing to take care of her life, so, under the strong persuasion of her parents, Fifi and Li Qiang entered the palace of marriage.
Before getting married, Fifi's parents said to Fifi: Daughter, it is your parents who are sorry for you, they could have married you out of the scenery, and finally made us break our promise, you must live well after marriage, your bride price, we will not leave a point, and after you get married, you and your father do not ask about it.
However, unexpectedly, shortly after getting married, Fei Fei felt the unwelcome from her mother-in-law, and later learned from Li Qiang that her mother-in-law was despised because of her family situation.
02 Full-time at home, buying a pound of strawberries was ridiculed by the mother-in-law
Since Li Qiang's family and Fei Fei's family are in two different cities, Fei Fei naturally went to Li Qiang's city after marrying Li Qiang.
Suddenly coming to a strange city, it naturally takes a while to adapt, so after marrying Li Qiang's family, Fifi worked as a full-time wife at home for a period of time, Li Qiang went out to work during the day, while Fifi was cleaning and tidying up at home.
Fifi's house is also a five-minute walk from her mother-in-law's house, so her mother-in-law will often come to Fifi's house to help her get familiar with the new environment as soon as possible.
At the beginning, Fifi's impression of her mother-in-law was quite good, but with the continuous contact between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law ensued.
The mother-in-law saw that Fifi had been idle at home and did not go out to work, the family's source of income all depended on her son, plus she had heard her son say about the situation of her daughter-in-law's mother-in-law's family before, and combined with the fact that Fifi did not even have a dowry for dowry when she got married, for a time, the concept of contempt slowly grew in the mother-in-law's heart.
As a result, the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law began to show its first signs.
Once, when the mother-in-law pushed open the door of Fifi's house, she found that Fifi was eating strawberries at home, and when Fifi saw her mother-in-law coming, she beckoned her to sit down, and pushed the bowl containing strawberries in the direction of her mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law did not pay attention to Fifi's actions, but said to Fifi: The current strawberries are off-season, these strawberries should not be cheap, right?
Fifi's hand with the strawberry stopped in mid-air, not knowing for a moment how to deal with her mother-in-law's ridicule.
03 The husband returned home
Just when the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were embarrassed because of the strawberry thing, the husband Li Qiang pushed the door in, looked at the looks of his wife and mother, and then looked at the half-eaten strawberries on the table, and guessed the matter for a while.
The husband said to his mother-in-law: Oh, Mom, this strawberry I brought to Fifi, you always like to ask about everything.
After hearing Li Qiang's words, the mother-in-law stopped speaking, and Fifi threw a grateful look at her husband.
This kind of thing is not the first time, before this, whenever there is a contradiction between Fifi and her mother-in-law, it is Li Qiang who is leaning toward Fifi and protecting her behind, and this time is no exception.
After the mother-in-law left, Fifi hugged her husband, looking at her husband's face close at hand, Fifi was very happy in her heart, although her mother-in-law was prejudiced against herself, but her husband has been defending herself.
Thinking of this, she hugged her husband's arm and unconsciously tightened it a few points.
Conclusion: In fact, marriage is almost all of their possession for women, if after marriage, the husband does not love, the mother-in-law does not care, this kind of marriage for women, almost a kind of suffering. However, if the husband can think about everything for himself, and when facing the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, he can also mediate from it, for this kind of marriage, it is undoubtedly happy.
As a mother-in-law, you should also know that your son is equivalent to the head of the family after starting a family, and he has obviously become an outsider, if you interfere in the life of your son and daughter-in-law at this time, it will definitely cause many unnecessary contradictions.