Parents with many sons in the family ask themselves, can they really achieve a bowl of water to be flat?
It is said that families with many children pay the most attention to a bowl of water. But in real life, many parents often can't do it. It is not that they do not understand the principle that when the water is full, it is that they think that who is weak is justified, and who is poor is justified.
Under the view of parents, it has become a natural thing for parents to rob their children with good economic conditions to get rich and help the poor. Even if the son and daughter-in-law have opinions, parents will only think that the money is their own, and they will give it to whomever they love, and the children cannot control it.
Over time, under the pressure of such eccentricity of parents, children will eventually slowly deviate from their parents.
01, the mother-in-law four thousand pension, every month to ask the daughter-in-law for three thousand
Xiao Yan couldn't understand how her mother-in-law, who had been providing for the elderly in her own home, obviously had a monthly pension of four thousand, but still asked her to give three thousand a month, saying that it was a filial piety fee. The filial piety fee in the mother-in-law's mouth became a poverty alleviation fund for the little uncle after the sister-in-law came to the house.
Xiaoyan and her husband have been married for five years, and her mother-in-law has been living with them. The father-in-law died very early, and the husband and brother separated after marriage.
The mother-in-law originally wanted to live with the younger son, but the younger daughter-in-law has always refused, turning over and over at home, and finally the mother-in-law can only retreat to the eldest son's home for the elderly. Although Xiaoyan does not like to live with her mother-in-law, her husband is filial piety, and she is not easy to refute.
Before Xiaoyan and her husband got married, her mother-in-law had been taking money to subsidize the little uncle and his wife. After Xiaoyan got married, her mother-in-law also moved over, and the mother-in-law directly subsidized the little uncle's money on the surface, which was less.
For this reason, the sister-in-law has always been angry, saying that the mother-in-law is biased and selfish. When the eldest son went to college, the younger son went out to work, resulting in a growing gap between the two families. The four thousand monthly pensions in the mother-in-law's hands must have been all pasted upside down to the eldest son.
Xiao Yan thought that her sister-in-law was just complaining and complaining, after all, they had never taken a penny of their mother-in-law's pension. On the contrary, she told Xiaoyan very categorically that she kept her four thousand yuan a month for her pension, and no one could move this money. To this end, the mother-in-law and Xiaoyan asked for 3,000 yuan per month for living expenses to serve the daily life of the eldest son's family.
02, the sister-in-law came to the house for a visit to the daughter-in-law did not give a penny
Since then, all the expenses of the family have been covered by the mother-in-law. Although Xiao Yan complained that her mother-in-law was an iron rooster, she did not subsidize them at all. But if the mother-in-law has a headache and brain fever, Xiao Yan rushes to the front every time and pays for it. As for the younger sister-in-law, she never asked about her mother-in-law's body.
Summer vacation is almost over, and the children are about to go to school. Not long ago, the sister-in-law, who had not been in contact with her, came to the house with her two children in the name of visiting her mother-in-law.
Xiao Yan hurriedly cooked and entertained them, and while she was busy, she intimately cut a large plate of fruit and prepared to send it to her sister-in-law's two children to eat. As a result, when she arrived at her mother-in-law's room, she heard a conversation between her mother-in-law and her sister-in-law.
And the dialogue between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law suddenly annoyed Xiaoyan. The mother-in-law told her sister-in-law that the two children will start school soon, and the 20,000 yuan is the tuition and living expenses for the children. The sister-in-law rushed to pick up the past, but still a little unhappy to ask, when can we give them a down payment of 300,000 to buy a house? The kids are getting bigger and bigger, and the rooms are getting more and more untenable. And it has been staying in the county, and the child's education has become a problem, which will delay the child.
When the mother-in-law heard that she was going to delay the study and education of her two precious grandchildren, she was immediately anxious and promised in a loud voice: You can rest assured, your sister-in-law gives me 3,000 per month, and I can save 2,000. Coupled with my four thousand monthly pension and many years of savings, the 300,000 down payment will definitely be able to make up for you in half a year.
After the mother-in-law finished speaking, she also conveniently stuffed her salary card into the hands of her sister-in-law and asked her to hide it so that she would not be discovered by her sister-in-law. Hearing this, Xiaoyan finally understood that the original mother-in-law's monthly pension of four thousand was not at all reserved for herself, but was ready to buy a house for her uncle and improve the living environment.
03, the daughter-in-law resolutely stopped to three thousand per month
The mother-in-law was distressed about her young son, believing that the little uncle and his wife had low wages and many children, so they took the initiative to cover all the tuition and living expenses of the two grandchildren. But for Xiaoyan's daughter, she has always been lukewarm, has not paid a penny, and is not even willing to buy a decent dress and toy.
It is false to say that it is not cold, after all, the mother-in-law eats her own house, and now she actually takes the money she gives to subsidize the little uncle's family. This really made Xiao Yan intolerable.
Xiao Yan directly withdrew her mouth and asked her mother-in-law why she was so eccentric? When you were homeless, we took you in. You are sick and hospitalized, have headaches and brain fever, and pay for things that only look for us. But the good thing of posting money upside down was only given to the little uncle.
Xiao Yan's words made her mother-in-law's face turn red and white, perhaps she did not expect that her true words would be heard by Xiao Yan. The mother-in-law tried to explain, but after half a day of explanation, she could not say why, only said that the money was given to them, it was theirs, and no one could take it away.
Xiao Yan already knew about the mother-in-law's dead duck's hard mouth. She didn't say anything more, directly helped her mother-in-law pack her luggage, and asked her sister-in-law to take her mother-in-law away. After all, over the years, it was the younger daughter-in-law who received the most favor from her mother-in-law, not her daughter-in-law, who had to rush to the front and be filial once she needed it.
After Xiao Yan wanted to understand, she drove her mother-in-law and sister-in-law away and let them take care of themselves. At night, the husband came home from work and directly quarreled with Xiaoyan, thinking that she was too aggressive, his mother's pension, she loved to give to whomever she wanted, the son had no right to interfere, and the daughter-in-law had no obligation and position to interfere.
Xiao Yan resolutely stopped the 3,000 yuan that she gave to her mother-in-law every month, which was not a large amount for her, but it was not a small amount. But with her mother-in-law's eccentricity, Xiaoyan did not want to indulge her mother-in-law so much anymore. After all, she gives her mother-in-law a pension, which is equivalent to earning money for her brother-in-law's family.
The husband asked Xiaoyan to call or drive back to apologize to his mother overnight, and said that he would invite his mother-in-law back. Even if the mother-in-law didn't do anything, Xiao Yan couldn't yell at her
No matter how Xiaoyan explains, it is all a cover-up in her husband's view. Xiao Yan was angry and told her husband directly that there was no me in this family. She didn't want to raise an eccentric mother-in-law anymore. If her husband had to force her to drink water on the head of a cow and ask her to accept her mother-in-law, then Xiaoyan could only divorce.
Today's Topic:
Do you think Xiaoyan is obligated to raise her mother-in-law again?