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In fact, the pressure and depression of life are everywhere, and as a couple, they should understand and support each other.
But people's hearts are weak, and sometimes in the difference of a thought, they put the marriage in danger.
The heroine in the next case, in her own silly efforts, saw through her husband's thin feelings and coldness.
Sun Yan has been married for three years, and although she has not yet had children, her family's economy is still not rich.
Because the house is bought with a loan, the pressure of more than three thousand mortgages per month is not small.
So she wants to wait until the mortgage pressure is less, and then think about having a baby.
In fact, for her marriage, Sun Yan is not too satisfied in her heart.
Although her husband Wang Bin's income is stable, his monthly income of more than 5,000 is also stretched.
The conditions of the in-laws are also very general, and there is a sister-in-law who is in college.
Thinking that when the two were married, Sun Yan's family did not quite agree.
Because Wang Bin, as a man, can't get out of the car or get out of the house, his daughter will definitely suffer when she marries in.
However, Sun Yan had just graduated from college at that time and did not understand the world, and her mind was grinning, so naturally she did not feel that the economy could become a problem.
So she still married Wang Bin according to her own ideas.
Sun Yan's parents, on this precious daughter, can only support her decision, and also helped them pay a down payment to buy a house.
When buying a house, Wang Bin's mother did not chew her tongue with her son, which probably meant that Wang Bin wanted to find a way to add a name to the house.
The simple Sun Yan finally added her husband's name, because she felt that the house had a loan after all, and it was reasonable to add a name together in the future.
But now they have been married for several years, and this mortgage is paid by Sun Yan alone.
The husband's income is not much, he pays the utility bill and property fee, and the mortgage has not taken the initiative to give money once.
Sun Yan's income is limited, and there is little left to pay off the mortgage, so she often has to rely on her mother's family to help her.
Sun Yan's mother was anxious when she saw that her daughter was thirty years old, so she often advised her to have a child early.
He also said that if he gave birth to a child, he would bring them to them, and he did not need Sun Yan's two sons to spend money and work hard.
Although her mother said so, Sun Yan was still very embarrassed in her heart, because her mother's family had subsidized her a lot over the years.
Sometimes when she thinks about her parents' efforts, she will be dissatisfied with her husband.
But every time she complained, her husband would cry poor. One moment says that it is useless, and the other will say that the unit efficiency is not good.
Several times, Sun Yan did not want to argue with her husband anymore, so she worked wholeheartedly to save money.
But where does she know that her husband's income has risen a little in recent years, plus the bonus at the end of the year has an income level of 100,000.
But he has been hiding from his wife, hiding the real income situation to death.
Because Sun Yan's mother-in-law is not a fuel-saving lamp, the old lady privately told Wang Bin not to pay for the mortgage, anyway, the daughter-in-law's family has money to provide.
The old lady also instigated her son to give the money to her for safekeeping, and repeatedly said that they were the real family, and the daughter-in-law was an outsider.
Wang Bin, who had no idea, was led by his mother's nose and paid two-thirds of his income to the old lady every month.
Sun Yanbo's family also has a sister-in-law, and her husband and mother-in-law have always been very pampered, which can be said to be responsive.
This little sister-in-law went to college and lived on two thousand a month, not including the money to buy clothes and shoes.
The situation that the sister-in-law spent a lot of money gradually made Sun Yan suspicious.
Obviously, the mother-in-law's family can't even afford to buy a wedding car, how can they afford to spend so much money for their sister-in-law.
But every time the husband faced her doubts, he said not lightly: "Oh I asked, saying that her boyfriend gave her flowers." ”
Sun Yan didn't have much to listen to, after all, she thought it was reasonable.
Later, after the sister-in-law graduated from work, she spent money even more excessively, and bought a bag of 10,000 yuan as a gift before she went to work.
And Sun Yan did not have a sigh in her heart, to know that after marriage, she was not even willing to buy more than a thousand bags.
Therefore, this matter still made Sun Yan's heart sour, and once she returned to her mother's house, she couldn't bear to tell her mother.
My mother lived most of her life, and she had never experienced anything intriguing.
After hearing Sun Yan say that the sister-in-law spent so much money, she frowned.
She asked Sun Yan solemnly: "Has Wang Bin's income increased in recent years, and you don't know his money in the end." His sister I have seen, ordinary looking, can a man be so willing to spend money on her?"
After listening to her mother's words, Sun Yan also had some understanding in her heart. She thought about it and realized that she knew nothing about her husband's income.
So that night, she was ready to let her husband explain his income to him.
But who knew that as soon as she opened her mouth, her husband went to the study on the pretext that he was not busy at work.
In the face of such a weak heart, Sun Yan couldn't help but clench her fists.
She did not ask her husband next, but secretly learned about it.
First, she unlocked her husband's phone while he was in the shower and read all the text messages.
Sure enough, she learned that her husband's income had risen a lot over the years, and more importantly, there were many transfer records.
Needless to say, it was all spent for the mother-in-law and sister-in-law, looking at the intimate chat of their family of three in WeChat, Sun Yan only felt that her eyes hurt.
The sister-in-law is particularly close to Wang Bin in WeChat, and always asks for money in a petite tone.
Hundreds of thousands of transfers were received, while Sun Yan and her husband's dialog box had only a few cold words.
After turning off the mobile phone, Sun Yan knew that the crying and poverty of her husband and in-laws over the years was fake, and her hard life was real.
That night she pretended to be indifferent, but the dark circles of the next day proved that she had been sleepless.
In fact, she was not ready to swallow her anger, but she did not know whether to end this marriage.
Until the visit of the sister-in-law, she made up her mind to make a decision.
On that day, the sister-in-law's unit issued a welfare and was preparing to send it to her.
Although she did not welcome the sister-in-law in her heart, she still had to treat her politely on the surface.
The sister-in-law is wearing bright clothes and looking east and west at home.
Seeing that Sun Yan was sorting out the poured mask, he asked: "Sister-in-law, what kind of mask are you, is it good to use, I just recently had acne." ”
Sun Yan did not look up, but said lightly: "Just ordinary mask, ninety-nine five pieces." ”
After saying this, the sister-in-law made a fuss and said, "Ah! Can this 99-dollar mask also be used? Sister-in-law, you are not afraid of bad face with this. ”
After saying that, she laughed happily, while Sun Yan's face was flushed and she entered the room without saying a word.
The next day she consulted a lawyer about divorce, mainly on the distribution of property.
In the end, she filed for divorce without consulting with her parents, and in the face of her mother's shock, she said sadly: "Mom, in fact, when she knew that Wang Bin had deceived me, she had not yet made up her mind to divorce." It was the sister-in-law's ridicule that made me give up the pro-poor marriage. Mom, I'm sorry, blame me for not listening to you in the first place. ”
In the face of Sun Yan's regret, her mother could only touch her head with pity...
The heroine in the case finally sees through the selfishness and coldness of the in-laws and can only choose to divorce and start over.
This tells us that marriage not only needs to be honest with each other, but also to keep the following two principles in mind.
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One: In marriage, neither husband nor wife can have "different intentions".
Marriage needs to be based on sincerity and trust.
Once you incorporate calculations and lies, you are not far from falling apart.
In fact, living a life is more like a cooperation, and only by working together can we achieve happiness and win-win results.
If one party begins to have different intentions, then the day the other party finds out, it is the moment when trust collapses.
Couples who have lost trust are already scattered, and being blown apart by the wind is an inevitable trend.
The couple in the case has a serious asymmetry of payment, and the husband should have done everything to the wife.
As a husband, he even secretly gave all his income to his mother and sister without his wife, how can such an excessive behavior keep the marriage?
Once your partner has two hearts, all you can do is try to protect your rights and interests.
And those who are cold and selfish also need to know that since you have chosen stupidity and paranoia, you do not deserve marriage and family.
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Second: No matter how strong the feelings, they often cannot withstand the "demolition" of poverty alleviation marriage.
The best way for couples to get along is to support each other and understand each other.
Although it is easy to say, there are not many couples who can do it.
Because behind the small two, there are also the original families of both sides.
These unstable factors are shaking the relationship between the two husband and wife.
It should be noted that the way marriage is related is actually based on equality.
A pro-poor marriage like the one in the case is basically unacceptable to a partner.
In the long-term exhaustion and consumption, even the strongest feelings will not be able to hold on.
In the end, all that is left for two people is resentment and fatigue.
It is hoped that every couple can pay equally and help the family together.
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Marriage is a relay race in which couples work together.
Not a conspiracy of interests, a chance to calculate.
I hope that all couples will be combined into a new family because of love.
Text/No Pen