What should I do when a long-distance couple misses each other? Their approach is worth learning

Regarding the relationship between husband and wife, Bacon said: "In marriage, the wife is the lover of youth, the companion of middle age, the guardian of twilight age." ”

Good marriages are like this, whether it is a wife or a husband, they also play different roles at different stages of marriage. As long as this is balanced, the marriage can be happy and long-lasting.

Qin Guan wrote in "Queqiao Immortal Qianyun Trick": "If the two loves are long, they are in the twilight of the dynasty. ”

There are many such couples in life, in order to live, for the sake of family, have to choose to separate the two places. As a husband and wife, living in a long distance for a long time, they will definitely miss each other and be tormented by this thought.

Life is like this, in order to get something you must give up some things, the husband and wife can only temporarily sacrifice themselves and choose to live separately in order for the family to get better and better.

Living in a different place is their helpless choice, and what they can do is to learn to arrange their own lives before they learn to dispel their thoughts, and try not to worry about each other.

So, how should long-distance couples deal with each other when they miss each other? Let's listen to their hearts.

01 Mr. Wu: "Every day, as long as there is time, I will send a video to my wife. ”

We were married for five years, which is also my third year out to work. When I first got married, I worked in my hometown, but the salary in my hometown was too low, and after the birth of the child, the cost was large, and then I had to go to school, so I discussed with my wife, she took the child in her hometown, and I came out to make money.

Only married for more than two years to be separated for a long time, all year round to get together, at first it must be very reluctant, but for the sake of life, for our family, this is no way to do things.

From the time I left home, I basically showed videos to my wife whenever I had time, mainly to see her and also to care about her. After all, it is not easy for her to take care of her children at home, and if I don't contact her for a few days, she will definitely be lost in her heart, and maybe she will think about it.

There is no way, since they have to be separated for a long time, they can only rely on this way to alleviate the thoughts in their hearts.

Osborne said: "The wife also has needs. She needs love, care and protection. When she feels that her husband is caring for her, bringing her security and happiness, she feels safe. ”

For long-distance couples, if they want to stabilize the relationship between husband and wife, men occupy a great responsibility. When separated from his wife, men care more about their wives and take the initiative to contact their wives, and wives can feel the care of their husbands, and the relationship between husband and wife will naturally be more stable.

Couples in different places should also try to be like Mr. Wu and contact the other half more when they have time. Even if you are separated, don't forget to run your own marriage and let the other person feel your care and love.

02 Mr. Liang: "When I am bored, I go out for a walk alone, and sometimes when I think of her, I buy her something." ”

In fact, when we first got married, I was with my wife, and our life was simple and happy at that time.

Later, the company arranged for me to work in a branch office in the field for a period of time, about two years, saying that it was not long, and it was not short for a time. At first, my wife didn't quite agree, after all, we hadn't been apart for such a long time, and we were reluctant and worried about what was wrong in the middle.

But the thought that I would be promoted to department manager when I came back in two years really didn't want to miss such a good opportunity, and my wife was worried that I would change my mind, and with my assurance, she finally agreed.

When the two people are together every day, they don't feel anything, and once they are separated, they can't stop missing it, but after more than a month, I began to regret it. At this time, my wife was comforting me, telling me to work hard, and said that two years would be very fast.

I've always remembered my commitment to my wife, so when the company went out to a party, in order not to worry my wife, I refused what I could refuse. After work, I have a lot of free time, and when I am bored, I will go out for a walk alone, to get familiar with the new city, and plan to bring my wife to play in the future.

I really miss her, and I will buy her some things to send over. I think that when she receives something, she must be happy in her heart and can feel that I care.

Romain Rolland said: "The only great thing about marriage is the only love, the mutual fidelity of two hearts." ”

It doesn't matter if the two people are not together, but if the heart is gone, the relationship will collapse. Therefore, to ensure the stability of the marriage, first of all, the husband and wife must be able to be loyal to each other.

Just like Mr. Liang, although he misses his wife, he still thinks about his wife, afraid that his wife will think that he will change his heart and will doubt their marriage. Therefore, even where the wife cannot see himself, he will always be loyal to his wife, and he will also care for his wife and let her feel that she cares.

Liang Qiushi said: "Sooner or later, trees and people are the same fate, they all have to fall, only a little difference, the tree is worried about the external danger, people are worried about the inner turmoil." ”

The most feared thing in marriage is the inner turmoil, the couple who are separated from the two places, once the idea of infidelity arises in the heart, the marriage will come to an end, and happiness will be far away from them.

Therefore, couples living in different places should learn their way, when separated from the other half, not only to take the initiative to keep in touch, maintain a heart that cares about each other, but also to do a good job of themselves, to be loyal to their marriage.