People's Daily announced the latest "parental rules" in 2022, for the sake of children, please take a look at it patiently!

Bai Yansong, a famous host, said: "Family education determines a child's life. ”

The child's growth is only once, education can not be repeated, do not because of the negligence of parents, let the child's life leave any regrets, and then regret is too late.

To this end, the People's Daily has summarized a "parental rule", please take a serious look:

For the sake of their children's future, parents must be the first responsible person for their children's education.

1, the child's problem is a mapping of the parent's problem

On the road of education, many parents always blame the school teachers for their children's bad habits, blame themselves on the children themselves, but they do not blame themselves.

Professor Li Weijin, a well-known expert in child psychology, said in a speech:

"Most of the children's problems are the problems of parents, if you want to take your children to psychological counseling, parents can come by themselves, without bringing their children."

It is important for parents to realize that most of the habits in their children, whether good or bad, are intentionally or unintentionally developed by you.

There was a list circulating on the Internet that the wrong actions of parents led to bad behavior of children:

Fang Zhongyong's family has been a farmer for generations, and Zhongyong was able to write poetry at the age of 5 and was gifted.

Ten miles and eight townships were proud that Zhongyong wrote poetry for him, and even paid him to write poetry.

As a father, because of his profitability and short-sightedness, he even took Zhongyong around to visit the high-ranking officials and nobles in the county and prevented him from going to school.

Gradually, Zhongyong's mind dried up, and everyone was lost.

There are no children who do not want to learn well, only children who cannot learn well;

There are no children who are not well educated, only parents who cannot be educated.

Parents should understand that when children have problems, they should see their own problems through problems, see their own defects through their children's shortcomings, and seriously reflect on whether their words and deeds are appropriate.

2, the 7 knives of family education, hurt the child the most

The ancients said: The Son does not teach, the Father's fault.

A family is a school, and parents are the homeroom teachers who never retire.

But not every family can give their children a good atmosphere for growth, and not every parent knows how to educate their children.

The "seven knives" of family education, the knife is deadly, parents must stay away.

First knife:

Excessive coddling, giving special treatment to children, taking care of everything for children, making children incompetent.

Second knife:

Excessively high expectations, nitpicking on children, requiring children to do their best in everything, allowing children to bear huge psychological pressure and affecting children's personality growth.

Third knife:

Excessive enrichment gives children excellent living conditions, but cannot give children good moral education, but makes children's desires more and more heavy, making children become ungrateful.

Fourth knife:

Excessive protection, trapping the child in a cage, will only make the child into a delicate flower that cannot withstand the wind and rain, and cannot be independent and cannot bear the pain when he grows up.

Fifth knife:

Too much nagging, constant preaching and reasoning to children, exacerbating children's impatience and wanting to escape, affecting the parent-child relationship.

Sixth knife:

Too much accommodation, complete indulgence to the child, counting on the child to be self-conscious, so that the child misbehaves.

Seventh knife:

Too many blows, unwilling to affirm and encourage children, always saying that other people's children are much better, making children lose self-confidence and become worse and worse.

The biggest failure of parents is to use the wrong way of education to ruin the life of smart children.

Avoid these seven knives of homeschooling and you'll find your kids getting better and better.

3. High-level parents are willing to let their children suffer these 4 kinds of suffering

Professor Tsinghua said: "The child's appetite is fed out, the child's temper is brought out, and the child's shamelessness is coddled in every way." ”

It is true that parents love their children, but habits such as killing children, the consequences of doting on children often pay a heavy price.

As the saying goes: there are no towering trees growing in the greenhouse, and there are no thousands of troops and horses in the hutongs.

Parents should be strict and loving, willing to let their children suffer hardships, in exchange for tomorrow he will be treated gently by the world.

The first kind of suffering: the suffering of eating reading

Only in the life of reading can there be a way out, and the tears and sweat of those struggles will eventually become the child's confidence, supporting the child to see a higher and farther landscape.

The second kind of suffering: eating the suffering of independence

Children will one day leave the side of their parents, they have to deal with the big and small problems in life, as a parent should be willing to use the child, let the child do housework, let the child try to solve the problem by himself.

The third kind of suffering: the suffering of eating upbringing

Parents can not use the excuse of "the child is still young" as an excuse to blindly protect, let alone relax the parenting of the child, the parents' highest level of wealth is to raise a cultured child.

The fourth kind of suffering: the suffering of failure

People's life can not always be smooth, failure is a common thing, parents should guide their children to deal with failure with a positive and optimistic attitude, and establish a correct view of winning and losing.

For the sake of their children's future, parents must be fierce and force their children to learn to "suffer hardships".

4. Most of the most successful children in ten years are from these 5 kinds of families

The famous German philosopher Jaspers said:

"The essence of education is that a tree shakes another tree, a cloud shakes another cloud, and a soul summons another soul."

If you want to raise excellent children, you must first become excellent parents.

Ten years later, most of the children who have come out are from these 5 kinds of families, and parents are best to take a look.

The first type of family: a family that is never absent and accompanies by the heart

The real education must start from companionship, poor and rich, it is not as good as accompanying children, parents do not have to be with them all the time, as long as they are attentive, it is high-quality companionship.

The second type of family: a family that attaches importance to education and cooperates with the teacher

A family that attaches importance to education, supervision and discipline, correct guidance, and active cooperation with teachers will certainly be able to cultivate an excellent child who loves to learn.

The third type of family: a family that loves to read, reads every day

Books are the ladder of human progress, children who love to read are potential honor students, if parents love to read, leisure time are holding books in quiet reading, then children naturally develop a good habit of loving to read.

The fourth type of family: emotionally stable, positive and optimistic family

Children who grow up in a family atmosphere where their parents are emotionally stable and loving are destined to be more sunny, more optimistic, warmer, more motivated than the children in the family who argue all day, can smile and face all difficulties and setbacks, and have a sense of happiness.

The fifth type of family: a self-improvement, a family of continuous learning

The so-called near Zhu is red, near ink is black, parents are the reference targets for children to imitate and learn, as long as parents play a good leading role in life, they live into a beam of light, and children naturally shine.

5, educating their children is the biggest career of parents in life

Remember The Chinese mathematical genius Chen Gao?

At the age of 14, he was admitted to the junior class of the University of Science and Technology of China, went to the United States to study for a doctorate at the age of 18, became a doctoral supervisor at the age of 25, conquered the world's problems at the age of 26, abandoned the United States with high salaries to return to China for development, and returned to the University of Science and Technology of China as a special professor, with the same level of professorship.

In an interview, Chen Gao said that his father's family education had the deepest impact on him.

He said:

"The first is ambition, which he pursues every day; the second is self-study, which makes his learning more and more efficient; the third is that parents have an equal dialogue with him, which makes him very confident."

After reading Father Chen's education methods, you will find that there is no ordinary luck in this world.

Behind every child who stands out, there is the wisdom of parents, and it is soaked with the sweat of parents.

As the saying goes:

"Any good child is not a miracle that has turned out to be born, but a cause and effect that can be followed." Its cause, in the family. It's rooted in the parents. ”

The real education is to fight for parents.

Therefore, in the matter of educating children, parents cannot be afraid of trouble, let alone do whatever they want.

You know, in a person's life, any kind of success cannot offset the failure to educate children.

The child's growth is only once, can not be repeated, parents must be personal, must be careful to discipline.

Take the education of children as the biggest cause in life to operate, invest enough time and energy, in order to harvest a better life with children.

Educating children well is the most important cause of parents.