10 years ago, I bought a house for my son and refused to take money to save my granddaughter, and 10 years later, my daughter: I don't have a mother

Psychologist Frank Kadler said: "One of the most unfortunate facts in life is that the first major tribulation we encountered came mostly from the family, and this tribulation is heritable. ”

If the person who brings you suffering is the person who meets in pingshui, you may be rude to them, do not give them the opportunity to take advantage of you, give you the opportunity to block, anyway, with the person who will only cause trouble for yourself, it is beneficial to yourself; if the person who brings you trouble is relatives and friends, you can also stick to your bottom line, relatives and friends are not many, it is worth fellowship.

Even if this person is your spouse and the other half, you can choose to separate from him, since marriage brings you only pain and annoyance, it means that you are no longer suitable, and letting go is also the fulfillment of each other.

However, if that person is your parent, it will be difficult to deal with, after all, blood relations cannot be changed in a lifetime. No matter how much you complain about them, it can't change the fact that they are your parents, even if they are no good to you, they can still hang on to words like "you were born of me, without me there would be no you", give and take what you want, and accuse you from the moral high ground.

Children face those parents who do not love you, want to communicate, want to arouse the love of their parents for you, often show only to meet the soldiers, reasonable does not make sense, you reason with them, they talk to you about filial piety, even if you are reasonable, there is no choice.

As the Japanese writer Kotaro Isaka said, "It's terrifying to think of parents not having to go through exams." ”

"My mom, it's good to sue me." Knowing that the 65-year-old mother had sued herself, ms. Liu, 40, was not at all surprised and felt relieved.

"Or, how to judge, how to execute!" At that time, I will see what reason she has to come to my house to mess around. She gave birth to me, raised me, basic alimony was indispensable, and besides, don't try to ask me for a penny. It's not that I don't have filial piety, but that my parents are unkind, so why should I ask my children to be filial? ”

Indeed, if you complain that Ms. Liu is not filial piety, if you want to complain, you will complain that Ms. Liu's mother is a woman, but she has carved the idea of son preference into the bone marrow, not only hurting her daughter, but also hurting her granddaughter, and completely chilling her daughter's heart.

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"I haven't been back to my mother's house for 10 years, and in those 10 years, only my parents have called me, and I never take the initiative to contact them." They came to me, nothing else, nothing more than scolding me for being cruel and disrespectful, and then the conversation turned to ask for money. As soon as they asked for money, I hung up. If my mother-in-law was present, it would be more convenient, and the phone would be handed to my mother-in-law and asked my eloquent mother-in-law to rebuke them for me. ”

Ms. Liu does seem to be very desperate for her parents, but there is a reason why she resents her parents so much, mainly because of what happened 10 years ago.

10 years ago, Ms. Liu's 4-year-old daughter was seriously ill and was sent to the hospital for rescue, and the doctor asked Ms. Liu to raise money as soon as possible, estimated to be 100,000 guaranteed.

"At that time, my salary was only 3,000, my husband was more than 4,000, we didn't even buy a house, rented a house, although the money was enough for a family of 3 to spend, but there was no savings, in an instant, my daughter's illness crushed us."

In order to save her daughter, Ms. Liu and her husband had to do their best to raise money everywhere and call relatives and friends to borrow money. At that time, Ms. Liu's mother's economic conditions were acceptable, and the old house located in the urban-rural junction was demolished and a compensation payment was obtained, so Ms. Liu believed that even if she could not borrow 100,000 yuan, she could borrow tens of thousands of yuan to help herself save an emergency.

"It's borrowing, it's really borrowing, my husband said, he came to write an IOU, agreed on a repayment date, gave interest, as long as my parents are willing to borrow money and save our daughter, he is extremely grateful."

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However, when Ms. Liu and her husband went to Ms. Liu's mother's house with hope, met Ms. Liu's parents, made it clear that they would pay back the money, but were ruthlessly rejected by Ms. Liu's mother.

"As far as your income is concerned, you don't have a thousand left in a month, how long will you be able to afford it?"

"You are a deadbeat who disobeys, people are married, they know that they take money from their in-laws' houses, they help their mother-in-law's family, you are good, not only do not take money from us, but also run to us for money." 」

"When I first let people introduce you to such a rich object, and you broke your mouth, you refused to marry, you had to marry a poor boy, let me lose face, are you still willing to come back to me?"

14 years ago, Ms. Liu was 26 years old, in love with her husband for two years, and wanted to get married, but was opposed by her parents. Her parents did not look up to the working boys, and they had to marry Ms. Liu to a man with a lot of assets in the family.

If the man has good character, it is another matter, but the man is five years older than Ms. Liu, not to mention, he has also been divorced, and the reason for the divorce is actually beating his wife, is this not pushing Ms. Liu into the fire pit?

Under Ms. Liu's resistance, she married her husband as she wished, and also offended her parents, especially her mother, complaining that her daughter's marriage did not bring profits to the family, could not help her mother's family, and was very dissatisfied with her daughter.

Ms. Liu did not want to marry her mother, she only wanted to save her daughter, begging bitterly, begging them to help save her daughter, in the end, even Ms. Liu's father softened and relaxed, but Ms. Liu's mother broke Ms. Liu's fantasy with a word.

"There is no money, I have already shown my son the house, the money has been spent, not a penny." The daughter who married out spilled out the water and found a way to go by herself. ”

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In the end, it was Ms. Liu's husband's in-laws and relatives and friends who helped, the in-laws took out their own pension money, and the relatives made up a part of the family to collect the treatment costs for the daughter, so that the daughter could recover and be discharged.

10 years ago, buying a house for her son and refusing to take money to save her granddaughter, Ms. Liu's mother made Ms. Liu feel cold, and now she thinks that she has no mother's family and is unwilling to have any contact with her mother's family.

"I don't want to be in touch with them, they're not going to let me go, too, it's not the same as in the past, the economic situation is different, right?"

Today, the situation of Ms. Liu and her husband has improved greatly, and they have successfully started a business, not only paying off their arrears, but also having their own house in the city, and their living standards have improved a lot. However, Ms. Liu's younger brother has long been spoiled by his parents, and he is obsessed with the old age, even if there is a golden mountain and silver mountain, sooner or later there will be a day of defeat.

Therefore, Ms. Liu's parents called their daughter again, called every day to ask for money, and when they saw that their daughter did not give it, they took the grace of birth and adoption and said: "Have you forgotten that you still have parents?" We have raised you for 26 years, count 20,000 a year, take 500,000 out, we will no longer look for you, otherwise, I will sue you, let everyone know that you are not filial piety, regardless of your parents, let you be drowned by the spit star. ”

"I don't have a mother, as early as 10 years ago, I didn't have a mother's family. Didn't you say that? The water that the daughter who marries out spills out, well, you tell me, how can the water splashed on the ground return to the bowl drop by drop? It was difficult to harvest the water, and the mother-daughter relationship between us came to an end. ”

Seeing that her daughter refused to give money, Ms. Liu's mother did not believe in evil, really sued her daughter, at present, there is no trial, but Ms. Liu's husband has hired a lawyer and is ready.

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The playwright Wanqing once said: "Regardless of whether you are related by blood or not, there is only one kind of relative in this world, that is, people who care about you and hurt you, and vice versa." ”

The fact that parents don't love themselves is incredibly cruel, and the damage it causes needs to be healed for a lifetime. At this time, you need to understand that we can't choose the original family, but you can choose what kind of road to take in the future and what kind of life to live.

Knowing that your parents do not love you, only use you as a cash machine, you still respond to their needs, and even hollow out the property of the small family to subsidize them, willing to become a brother demon, then, the death is yourself, you not only can not get the love of your parents, but also anger the other half, even your own small family will be lost.

It is good to have a partner who loves you, a good in-laws, and children who need you to love. As for people who don't love you, let them know that you're not a persimmon to be manipulated.

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