Because of the epidemic, many people are facing an unemployment crisis, and they are deeply afraid of being pointed out by their families. How do you bravely face the eyes of others and start again?
Have you recently left your job, worried about your financial income after losing your job, and worried that your wife will look down on her when she knows that she is unemployed and does not tell her about her unemployment? Well, you're not alone... There are international authoritative organizations in Brazil survey to get relevant data - Brazil averages 377 people are unemployed every hour, and so on, the economy with strong risk resistance is better, what about those countries or regions where the economy itself is underdeveloped? I'm afraid that the actual situation is much more serious than we think. You can also observe the people around you or your circle of friends, hmmm... It should also be no better than you. This situation is like you in the car, moving towards your goal, and now the car is suspended in the parking space next to the road, waiting for the next start.
Feelings after losing your job
During this period of waiting to leave, as a conscientious gentleman, as the only source of income in the family, it is inevitable to worry that unemployment will affect the family's income; you are a good father who cares about his daughter's upbringing; you are worried that unemployment will affect the education costs of children; you are also a good son who takes good care of his parents; and you are worried that unemployment will affect the maintenance of parents. These important life roles and responsibilities may be affected by unemployment, no wonder you are so worried; at the same time, in your heart, as a man, you are responsible for the family economy, which is also an important source of self-worth, no wonder you also guess that if your wife knows that she is unemployed, she will look down on you.
Try to feel where your attention will be when you are caught up in this cascade of worries. Physical health? Entertaining and relaxing? Or do you start self-doubting and self-reflection? You must have been confused and confused by this time. It's also a reasonable reaction that you don't dare to share your job with your wife.
In the Japanese drama Tokyo Sonata, the protagonist Sasaki met his college classmate Kurosu in the central square that provided free lunch for the unemployed, just a moment of cold noise, Kurosu's mobile phone rang, he spoke loudly, he could hear that he had just negotiated a big business, it turned out that Kurosu was setting up the mobile phone to ring regularly, pretending to show himself on the phone to talk about important business, so that others thought that he was still an important employee, hiding his unemployment. When Sasaki and his classmates confessed to each other that they were unemployed, they relaxed a lot and supported each other.
In the face of life stress, self-doubt is normal
When faced with major stressful events in life, worry is a common emotional response. In many men's values, losing a job, in addition to the anxiety of money caused by the loss of financial resources, also affects self-worth. Therefore, it is not an easy task for men to face unemployment. For some, the sense of loss caused by unemployment is indeed a big blow. Men are often anxious to lose their valuable and economic resources, and in the theory of resource retention, people tend to compensate for the loss of resources from other places. In order to increase the sense of control, you may try to control the neat placement of items in the home, or ask others to obey their opinions, and at the same time, the mood is often unstable, and it is easy to be irritable and impulsive; or to supplement the sense of accomplishment, indulge in video games.
The car from the pause in the parking grid, starting again, at the beginning need to carefully move out of the parking grid, can not be too fast, the same, in the process of re-starting, learning to face this difficult road in the journey of life, is not an easy and comfortable process. Let's take a look at what we can do to get back on our way back and embark on the next journey of our career.
1. Learn to settle yourself gently and accompany yourself with courage in the face of worries and the eyes of others
When we focus on our own pain, it is easy to trigger instinctive avoidance response patterns, unconsciously falling into paralyzing feelings of activities, such as long-term video games or dramas, especially when the end of this activity, feel not happy satisfaction but loss hit the heart. It is recommended to replace it with activities that nourish yourself, such as exercise, meditation, walking, increasing interaction with family or friends, etc.
When you are worried that others look at your unemployed eyes, it is more hindering you from facing difficulties, then try to expand your horizons, see that you have also assumed the responsibility of your family in your own suffering, let the courage accompany yourself to face the eyes of others, and begin to take the first step to clarify what you want to get from the workplace!
2. Go back to the original intention
Returning to the original intention of entering the workplace, clarify your desire for the workplace, perhaps hoping that through work you can get financial independence, support your family, or want to engage in work that you are interested in, play your own value, and have a sense of achievement. Real-life work often fails to meet all the conditions at the same time.
At this time, clarifying the priority of the assessment work will help you choose your own work. After struggling and adjusting his mindset, Sasaki of the Tokyo Sonata chose to accept a job that did not meet his expertise and was different from his past treatment, in order to settle himself in from work first.
3. Make a commitment to action and take a step forward
The process of waiting for the next job often faces a lot of uncertainty, and the pressure is often too much to lift to do what should be done. Write down the to-do tasks, prioritize them, assess the difficulty, start with the easy things, let yourself develop a sense of accomplishment from completing the to-do tasks, experience the satisfaction of the step-by-step, and serve as a source of motivation to move towards the goal.
Dear little friend, bless you, in this difficult journey, you can learn to accompany your lost and frustrated self with gentleness; you can face yourself who has stepped out of your comfort zone with courage; you can use wisdom to make beneficial choices for yourself, of course, if you need further assistance, Fuxi can accompany you through this road. endeavor! struggle! You must be able to, I am optimistic about you [China praise]
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