"Don't look for me, I won't come back"
"Desert singer" Dao Lang, before becoming famous, had a very downtrodden life, almost unable to eat, under such a premise, his ex-wife was disappointed in her.
Just after giving birth to her daughter, her ex-wife left ruthlessly, leaving Dao Lang alone with her daughter.
For his ex-wife's ruthlessness, Dao Lang cried bitterly more than once in the middle of the night, and it was not until the appearance of his current wife that he was redeemed in life and had a beautiful family.
But for Dao Lang, the hardships he has endured in this life are far more than that.
In 1971, Dao Lang was born.
When he was a child, he was very rebellious, did not study well, and knew all day that he was playing crazy with his friends outside, and even though his parents advised him many times, he still went his own way, and several times because he beat other people's children, causing the family to lose a lot of money.
In fact, it is no wonder that he can do this, after all, his parents were busy with work at that time, and usually only his brother could discipline him somewhat.
But Dao Lang once disobeyed his brother's preaching, and actually fought with his brother without saying a word, and his mother knew afterwards that considering that Dao Lang was small, his brother should be polite to him, so he did not teach Dao Lang a lesson, but scolded his brother.
Seeing his mother's unfair treatment, his brother was also angry, and ran away from home alone that night, so he never came back.
My brother, who was riding a bicycle outside, was hit by a sudden truck and died early.
Knowing the bad news of his brother's death, Dao Lang felt extremely sorry in his heart, but the matter was already this ending, and it could not be recovered in any way.
Dao Lang has a song called "Wandering Life and Death Child", which was written in memory of his brother, and he will later choose to leave his homeland and embark on the road of music, also to achieve the redemption of his brother.
At the age of 16, he said goodbye to his parents with a short note and embarked on an unknown journey in life.
But at that time, he did not even have the first Chinese, coupled with his young age, he had no skills, and he could not find a job, and at first he could only live by wandering, receiving handouts from well-wishers everywhere.
Fortunately, when he wandered to a restaurant, the owner was kind and gave him a chance to be a waiter, but this good life did not last long, and then Dao Lang moved to a song hall, and it was also at this time that he finally got acquainted with music.
Although he is still a waiter, because he works hard and is open, he quickly mingles with the singers, and from time to time runs backstage to get close to the singers, so he learned a lot of musical skills.
Dao Lang does have musical talent, in just one year, he has learned the instrument and practiced a good voice.
At the age of 18, he took the initiative to find several solo musicians and formed a band together, named "Scalpel".
But the ideal is very full, but the reality is very skinny, since the formation of this band, the performance opportunities have been pitiful, in just a few years because of survival problems, turned into birds and beasts.
The penniless Dao Lang can only continue to work, but because of his experience, he finds a job as a resident singer in a bar.
Slowly, he gained some fame in the small circle, and the bar owner also liked him, knowing that his life was difficult, so he gave him priority to singing work, and introduced him to other song halls to sing.
While singing at the bar, he met his first wife, Yang Na.
When the two met, Yang Na had just divorced, and she went to the bar alone every day to buy drunk, during which many men gathered around her with bad intentions.
Dao Lang is kind-hearted, and whenever this time, he will take the initiative to stand by Yang Na's side and turn into a "silent flower protection messenger", and after a long time, Yang Na naturally knows that this man has been quietly protecting himself.
And Dao Lang has long been fascinated by the young and beautiful Yang Na in the process of protection, so after drinking one day, he boldly confessed to Yang Na.
Faced with Dao Lang's affection, Yang Na came out of the haze of divorce and hugged Dao Lang, and they became lovers.
Yang Na's ex-husband's economic conditions are very good, so he divided a lot of money when he divorced, and he usually spent money lavishly, which became the fundamental reason for the divorce of the two later.
However, when she fell in love at the beginning, although Dao Lang didn't make much money, Yang Na never disliked it, but directly helped Dao Lang.
After affection, it is to talk about marriage.
Nai He Yangna is a divorced woman and eight years older than Dao Lang, so when Dao Lang's parents learned that they were getting married, they were very angry and kept persuading him to leave Yang Na.
But at that time, Yang Na was already pregnant with Dao Lang's child, and her parents had no choice but to agree.
Before giving birth to their daughter, their lives were still passable, but as Yang Na had fewer flowers in her hands, they finally began to stretch thin.
Especially after the birth of her daughter, only Dao Lang earned a meager salary alone, which was completely unable to support the expenses of the entire family, which gave Yang Na a taste of poverty life, and also let her see through love, and nothing was for nothing without money.
Thinking about this, Yang Na just finished confinement, just like when Dao Lang left home, she threw him an equally short note, and left Dao Lang's father and daughter forever without saying goodbye.
"Don't look for me, I won't come back."
Yang Na said very decisively, but Dao Lang was moved by her true feelings, he held his daughter every day to ask around about Yang Na, but day after day searched, it was a response to "no news".
Even if he found Yang Na's parents' home, he never got the slightest news about Yang Na.
Finally, Dao Lang recognized the reality, the love he once thought was "sharing tribulations" is a tragedy that has lost to reality after all, and he can only raise his daughter with his own strength in the future.
For two years, he had to give up music and work part-time to raise his daughter, and when her daughter was two years old, he handed her into the hands of her parents and embarked on the road to pursue her musical dreams again.
A guitar is all that Dao Lang has.
In those years, he traveled to many places and saw many landscapes, but he still failed to realize his musical dreams.
His only achievement was to compose a song "Child" to pay tribute to his "dead love".
In 1993, Dao Lang wandered to Hainan, still wandering around looking for inspiration for making music, and just when he almost fell into despair, a woman who saved his life appeared.
In Hainan, he met his current wife, Zhu Mei.
Zhu Mei is a sweet Xinjiang girl, like Dao Lang, she is a depressed wandering singer, and she saw it at first sight and quickly chatted together.
Faced with what happened to Dao Lang, Zhu Mei was very distressed and gave birth to a little pity, plus Dao Lang did have some talent, but fate was not good, so she came together with Dao Lang without thinking.
Although Dao Lang has no money, and although Dao Lang's future path is still unknown, Zhu Mei still has no hesitation, and she wants to take care of this big boy who "has no talent".
In 1995, Zhu Mei's parents persuaded her to return home, and Dao Lang also went to Xinjiang for the sake of her lover and began to live in Urumqi.
Zhu Mei's parents were very open-minded, they respected their daughter's ideas, so two years later, Dao Lang and Zhu Mei entered into marriage and became a husband and wife who supported each other.
Zhu Mei was very good to Dao Lang, and when he learned that his daughter was still with his grandparents, he took the initiative to let Dao Lang take his daughter to their home in Urumqi and began to take care of her as her own.
Even if Zhu Mei later gave birth to a child with Dao Lang, she did not discriminate and gave Dao Lang's daughter a maternal love that she never enjoyed.
After marriage, Dao Lang's performance opportunities were more, life was barely able to live, Zhu Mei still did not complain, she accompanied Dao Lang to wait together, waiting for a day of fame.
At that time, they had no money to buy a house, so they could only rent a small house, and not far from the house, was the "eighth floor bus stop".
In 2002, on a snowy winter day, Dao Lang looked at the goose-feathered snowflakes outside the window, and his mind was full of thoughts, and a No. 2 car parked on the "eighth floor" became the only focus of his mind at that time.
As soon as the mood arrived, the song "The First Snow of 2002", Dao Lang waved.
At the time of composing this song, Dao Lang had already released an album and had a bit of research on Xinjiang folk music, so this song was the one he used the most deeply and skillfully at that time.
But because of the mixture of rock, folk music and other styles, it was not well received by the record company, and they felt that it was a hodgepodge, so they never published.
The following year, Dao Lang's "Love Songs of the Western Regions" caused a musical boom in Xinjiang, and he took the opportunity to publish "The First Snow in 2002".
For a time, Dao Lang became popular all over the country with these two songs, and he was no longer the nameless wandering singer.
But after the explosion, Dao Lang, because the music style is different from ordinary pop songs, many mainstream singers stand on the perspective of "mainstream", accusing Dao Lang's music of lack of professionalism, which means "wild road".
Even Wang Feng, who was regarded as "betrayal of rock" by the rock circle, bluntly said: "Dao Lang's fame is the sadness of the music industry." ”
Gossip surrounded Dao Lang's ears, and he once doubted whether his music was correct, and every time he received a performance, he was afraid of being scolded, and he stayed at home for a long time, doing nothing.
Fortunately, Zhu Mei has always been by her side affectionately and helped Dao Lang survive that dark time.
For Dao Lang, Zhu Mei fulfilled all the responsibilities of a wife, taking care of the family, educating children, and assisting her husband, and did not complain for many years.
If the loss of Yang Na is Dao Lang's despair, then meeting Zhu Mei is a new life.
Of course, Dao Lang is also a grateful person, and his most common thing to do after work is to spend time at home with his family and make up for his wife as much as possible.
In addition, he is also a very kind singer.
In 2008, in the face of the Wenchuan earthquake that was like a "national disaster", although Dao Lang had just invested a lot of money at that time, he still took out 100,000 yuan to relieve his compatriots.
In 2020, when the epidemic was raging, he, a singer who was almost ignored by everyone, quietly composed music for "Volunteer" for free, so as to cheer up the people of the whole country.
Compared with those singers who once called him "wild road", Dao Lang is more open and powerful.
Today, he and Zhu Mei have been married for 26 years, and the husband and wife respect each other like guests, and their love is still the same.
And Yang Na, who once abandoned Dao Lang's father and daughter, had a messy life, and when she learned that Dao Lang became famous, she still wanted to turn back and get back together with Dao Lang.
Faced with his ex-wife's desire, Dao Lang did not know her intentions, so he refused without hesitation.
In Dao Lang's heart, only Zhu Mei is the woman who should be cherished the most in this life.
The feelings for Yang Na have long been quietly disappeared in the passage of time, she is just a memory of Dao Lang's difficult period, and to him, it is meaningless.
The current Dao Lang may still not be very famous, and has even been gradually forgotten, but his once classic songs are still a must for KTV, and have become eternal memories in the hearts of many post-80/90 generations.
Recalling the life of the wandering singer back then, Dao Lang's heart is not only a little embarrassed, but also cherishes the existing life, it is precisely because of such a miserable day that he will meet Zhu Mei and have a happy family.
Fate is fair to everyone.
When you fall into the trough, you will not be decadent, do not give up on yourself, adhere to your ideals, and seek rebirth in a desperate situation like Dao Lang, you will definitely work hard and sit on happiness.