"Learning Dad" reveals the inside story of chicken dolls: everyone is running, do you dare to stop?
After the release of "Learning Dad", many parents in the circle of friends were in Amway, and they all said that the plot was too real and heart-wrenching.
The movie tells the story of 4 children who are young and young, several families have their own characteristics, but the goal is the same, that is, to let the children enter key primary schools.
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Parents are also divided into different types: there are chicken and baby pies, take their children to various training courses, and hope that their children will go to private with their specialties; Those who have resources will invest money trust relationships, buy school district houses, and get places in key public schools; There are "Roman" schools, parents are knowledgeable, family background, children are born in Rome, sitting on enviable educational resources.
Although the overall style of the movie is humorous and witty, many parents say that they cry when they laugh and laugh.
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Education is "a place where a hundred schools of thought must compete"
Lei Dali, a single father played by Huang Bo, was originally an optimist who never chicken dolls. He opened a foot bath shop, and his son Lei Xiaomi has been familiar with acupuncture points and acupuncture since he was a child.
When asked what the child would do, he said confidently, "He knows everything, he doesn't need to be taught." ”
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However, when communicating with Liu Zhenzhen, who has full experience in chicken babies, he found that the physiotherapy techniques that children know are of no use at all when they are young.
"At the age of three, I began to prepare for the kindergarten and elementary school, I was familiar with 3,000 words, I could understand ancient Chinese, and I read more than 100 books in English." This is the necessary skill to enter a key primary school. And mastering these, the child is likely to not be able to escape the huge competition.
So, Lei Dali also panicked. Like other parents, he began to stand in line at the school gate all night for public school enrollment places; In order to obtain a local hukou for the child, fake marriage with a local single mother; Send your child to a variety of cram schools to learn knowledge that is beyond your child's ability to accept.
One competes for enrollment quotas, two competes for local hukou, three competes for school district housing, and four competes for private interviews. Lei vigorously fought himself from a small white parent who did not understand anything to a professional household with a young connection.
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Nowadays, why are more and more families joining the ranks of "Lei Dalian" and desperately fighting for their children's education?
On the one hand, there are more and more parents with knowledge, some people have tasted the sweetness of "knowledge changes destiny", some people see others use knowledge to change destiny, and they all hope that their children will become a member of the destiny.
On the other hand, mainland education has developed rapidly, but the distribution is uneven, parents do not want their children to go to ordinary schools, so they have to use chicken dolls to increase insurance for their children's further education.
Many people think that with a good primary school degree, only with a good junior high school and high school education will they have an advantage in the college entrance examination and overseas applications. Therefore, the time of the chicken baby is constantly advanced.
So when is the advance of the head? Liu Zhenzhen said categorically, three years old.
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The following wind will only spin in place
After watching this movie, the biggest feeling of the old mother is tired, a tiredness that even Huang Bo's funny can't heal, because it's too rolled.
The parents in the film are rolling from beginning to end, rolling children, rolling themselves, rolling partners, rolling friends, and even going to cram school gathering places, and taking strange parents to roll together.
There is an episode where the fire sister-in-law breaks down in the heavy rain and says: "Sometimes, I am so tired that I hide in the house and cry secretly. Everyone was running, and I didn't dare to stop. ”
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Chicken babies are like this, obviously they and their children have been tired to the limit, seeing the people around them are crazier than the other, no one dares to stop and take a breath.
However, the result of everyone rolling together can only be that everyone is spinning in place.
High-quality educational resources are always merit-based, and all children have become better, which is equivalent to raising the benchmark of excellence, and everyone stands on the same level.
You learn dance, I also learn dance, and there can be class meetings in the dance class; Of the 49 children in the class, 47 can play the piano and the remaining 2 learn violin. Such a specialty is not called a specialty, it is called a basic skill.
Of course, some people feel that "more skills do not weigh down", so that children can master more knowledge and cultivate more hobbies, it is always a good thing.
However, parents often forget how their children feel, and they may not be happy if they forget that their children are not happy.
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At an age when you should be playing freely, sitting at the study desk and brushing up on questions; At an age when he should have been fairy, he practiced the standard answers of the interview over and over again; At an age when I should have been excited and curious, I spent my days between training courses.
Children who grow up in this way are deprived of their childhood and lose their smiles.
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Soaking in water all the time, how does life come ashore?
As the "chicken and baby king" in the movie, Liu Zhenzhen uses the term "landing" to describe the child's entry into key schools.
However, in reality, successfully entering primary school is far from "going ashore", at most it can only be "going to the island". A child's life is to swim between countless islands, sometimes landing, sometimes going into the sea, sometimes choking on water, sometimes sinking to the bottom.
The bitter sea is endless, the islands are thousands and endless, and those who have been immersed in the water will never be able to go ashore.
Until one day, when parents are no longer obsessed with landing on the next island, but recognize the child's current situation, the child can be regarded as truly ashore.
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In the movie, Lei Dali takes his son to attend the entrance interview of a private elementary school. Lei Xiaomi stood on the podium, could not speak a few words of English, could not vocal dance, but was able to tell the examiners about the acupuncture points of the human body.
"Point the tendons, cupping and knocking the back, dispelling the fire and passing the meridians, and live a long life." Looking at the child's confident appearance and listening to him skillfully talk about the knowledge he is good at, Lei Dali was relieved at once.
He suddenly discovered that every child is different and has a way of growing up that suits him. Parents do not need to use unified standards and frameworks to require their children to become standardized products on the assembly line, and the difference of each child is their most precious thing.
Some people say that looking away is not the same as giving up. Parents see the truth of chicken dolls, and they do not give up the education of their children.
On the contrary, parents from "looking narrow" to "looking open", in fact, see more possibilities in their children, as if the little carp not only has the option of jumping the dragon gate, but also can swim to the vast rivers, lakes and seas.
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There is such a paragraph in the hot review of the movie: "Many people want to win at the starting line, but ignore whether we start running with a relaxed and happy mood and enjoy every moment of life." ”
As parents, we should all ask ourselves, do we want to tell our child how to live his whole life when he is three years old.
Or let go of the demanding requirements for children, let children travel light, and live their own wonderful future.
As the movie's tagline says, "As long as you're happy." Perhaps, making a child a happy child and growing into a happy adult in the future is the most valuable thing in education.