In 1953, Zheng Dongguo sat in his home in Beijing. He had just received a letter from his wife who was far away in Shanghai with a divorce agreement attached to it. They have been in the Cold War for a long time, the direct reason is that Zheng Dongguo came to Beijing at the invitation of Premier Zhou, and his wife, who has always been dependent on her life and death, was reluctant to go on the grounds that the weather in the north was difficult to adapt. Since then, the two have looked at each other from a distance in the south and the north, and have slowly become a couple of grievances. But freezing three feet is not a day's cold, and the real reason is probably only two people who can break it.
Zheng Dongguochu was reluctant, the two spent twenty years together day and night, after the turmoil of war, but when peace came, Lao Yan flew apart, which could not be agreed. But as time went on, he felt his wife's firmness, and out of the maintenance of his own dignity, he slowly signed it.
This is Jeong Dong-kook's second marriage.
Figure | Jeong Dong-kook
Zheng Dongguo was born in 1903 in a peasant family in Shimen County, Hunan Province, and his father had high hopes for himself and his brother, so that the brothers received a good education. Like most men at the time, Zheng Dongguo's first marriage could not escape the word "arranged". Feudal etiquette teaches cannibalism, and educated men either resist death and make marriages yellow, or they ignore them and marry back and treat women as decorations. However, the situation of marriage arrangement is not unheard of. Li Dazhao counts as one, and Zheng Dongguo counts as one.
At that time, Zheng Dongguo had not yet become a general on the battlefield, but a cold student. At the age of 15, he obeyed the orders of his parents and married Qin La'e, who was eight years old. Although there is no basis for love, Zheng Dongguo is very content, because Qin's personality is like his own mother, gentle and simple, he really should not have any dissatisfaction, so life has been so delicate and long. After marriage, the two had three sons, and the years were quiet. He once recalled, "The wife and the mother are of the same temperament, diligent in their work, humble in their work... We've never had a red face."
But the ordinary life is temporary after all, in China in the 1920s, warlords were fighting, the people were not happy, where there was stability to speak of. In 1919, when the "May Fourth Movement" broke out and the remote county town of Shimen was also swept by the revolutionary wave, Zheng Dongguo and his classmates took to the streets to carry out patriotic propaganda and participate in the struggle to check and boycott Japanese goods. In the course of the struggle, Zheng Dongguo deeply felt that only by establishing the country by force could he find a way out. In 1924, Zheng Dongguo noticed that the Whampoa Military Academy was enrolling, so he immediately made up his mind to apply for the examination, and his wife also strongly supported it, so that he had no worries.
But bad news is always a surprise. In 1930, Zheng Dongguo had just been promoted and led his soldiers to fight in the Battlefield of the Central Plains. Suddenly, a telegram came that his wife died in Wuhan because of typhoid fever. Zheng Dongguo could not accept it for a moment and fainted.
Even if there is no love, the wife gives him the most prosaic and stable family, fulfilling all his imagination of home. But now, I am dedicated to the country, but my home is gone. He was not good at words, but he only used actions to silently comfort his deceased wife. He refused the introduction of those around him, chose to pay tribute to the dead of his wife, and lived like this for three years.
The second marriage is "falling from the sky." Once, Zheng Dongguo went to Nanjing to visit his sick compatriot Xiao Zhongzhen. In the hospital, I met the most beautiful first sight of my life. A young girl combed the most popular bun of the moment, and under the eyebrows of the two curved moths were big fluttering eyes, which made the whole person's temperament more and more agile, wearing a cheongsam, calling Xiao Zhongzhen a "brother-in-law!" ”
This young girl was Madame Xiao's cousin, Chen Bilian. Her father was Chen Hongzao, who studied law at Chuo University in Japan in his early years and was a well-known barrister during the Republic of China. Therefore, Chen Bilian is both talented and complete, speaks fluently in foreign languages, and writes beautiful hairpin flowers in a beautiful hand.
The general and the maiden were naturally in love at first sight, not one step earlier, not one step later, and without much practical consideration, and after a few months, they were married.
After marriage, the two did not have children, but adopted the daughter of Chen Bilian's younger brother. When his wife asked him if he had any regrets, Zheng said: "It doesn't matter, I already have a lot of children, in the future, it will be enough to have you and your daughter." ”
However, where can life after marriage accommodate flowers before the moon falls. Soon, Zheng Dongguo rushed to the front line to fight. He successively participated in the Defense of Baoding, the Great Victory of Taierzhuang, the Battle of Wuhan, the Great Victory of Kunlun Pass, the Battle of Western Hubei, and the Second Battle of Changsha. And Chen Bilian did not count her husband's return date in the rear, leaning on the doors and windows day by day, but went to the front line again and again to "chase her husband", interpreting with actions what is life and death.
Such an act seemed extremely rare at the time, but for Zheng Dongguo, it was a touch of comfort and brightness in the military career of repeated defeats.
Slowly, Chen Bilian began to be gradually known in the army. In the winter of 1939, the Japanese gathered a large number of troops on the Border of Yunnan and Burma, intending to attack Yunnan. In order to show that they would coexist and die with Yunnan, the generals of the expeditionary army took their families to Kunming, and Zheng Dongguo also took his wife Chen Bilian. Chen Bilian's arrival was big news in the military, because she not only had a good face, but also had a cheerful personality, regardless of gains and losses. When presiding over the military charity fundraising ball, Chen Bilian often received the most support and was praised by the military as "the flower of the Nu River".
Figure | Zheng Dongguo and Chen Bilian newlywed group photo
As the battle line grew longer and longer, Chen Bilian's pursuit of her husband also began to cross the border. In 1943, Zheng Dongguo went to India to serve as the commander of the New First Army of the Chinese Expeditionary Force. At that time, the combat conditions were extremely harsh, and for Chen Bilian, this "husband-chasing" trip was even more difficult than before. Geographically, it is necessary to cross many borders, fly over hump routes, and the climatic conditions are extremely uncooperative, and getting on a plane is tantamount to putting life and death aside.
But Chen Bilian did not say much, but proved with actions that her pursuit of her husband is not limited by time and space, and she crossed the route of life and death and finally arrived at her husband's side.
There were more and more wars, and after the end of the War of Resistance Against Japanese Aggression, civil wars began, and the frequent shift of the front made it impossible for Chen Bilian to follow as before, but the spatial barriers could be connected through letters. In countless family letters, she poured out her heartfelt feelings and uneasiness, as well as her deep thoughts about her husband.
"Gui Ting: For your safety for several months, people can never forget it, and sleep and eat restlessly." Gui Ting, what makes people weak and haggard is not the years, but the sorrow, and my body has deteriorated for several months, and I am much thinner than before! Gui Ting, you are trapped in this isolated city, does it matter?
...... You are so careless, you are doing it with your life, what is it for? I am very sad to think of all this, and I am still suffering from this, what else can I say! Heaven bless you with peace. It should be very peaceful, because you have always been good to everyone, your heart is better, and there should be good rewards: the autumn wind rises, and you are more worried about people..."
Great feelings, beyond the chaos of war, beyond the sorrow of people, the distant distance has produced the ultimate beauty and illusion, so that Chen Bilian rushed again and again, so that Zheng Dongguo sighed again and again that he had a wife and so much to ask for.
But when life is stable, contradictions loom. This time, the distance is no longer a two-way rush, but an irreparable rift.
Figure | After the victory of the Anti-Japanese War, he lived in Shanghai
In 1948, Zheng Dongguo surrendered, and three days later, Nanjing's "Central Daily" published a memorial article entitled "Zheng Dongguo's Heroic Chengren, Three Hundred Officers and Soldiers Died in the Line of Duty", and Zheng was forced to die socially. Unaware of everything, Chen Bilian mistakenly thought that her husband had been martyred, and she was in pain and washed her face with tears all day. Later, it was learned that her husband did not die, but surrendered. Under the ups and downs, this once delicate girl also has a slight change in her heart, and what is needed from the final emotional explosion is only a fuse.
The fuse soon came. A few years later, Zheng Dongguo was invited by Premier Zhou to take up his post in Beijing, and Chen Bilian, who had always followed her husband's steps at all costs, finally called for a pause this time, for such a reason: "The north is cold, the water and soil are not satisfied, and they are unwilling to go north." ”
Is this a ridiculous reason? People familiar with Chen Bilian understand that these words are just excuses for the dignity of each other, behind which there is more resentment towards her husband, and there is also a fear of the unknown future, and she is accustomed to being a petite miss, she really does not want to leave the Shanghai she is familiar with, leave the social life that has been at ease, and then adapt to the new environment and deal with new interpersonal relationships.
No matter how to guess, only the parties concerned know the most about the cold and warm. The result ended with Zheng Dongguo going to Beijing alone. At this point, the number of times the two people met in the south and the north began to count.
A year later, Chen Bilian handed over the divorce agreement to Zheng Dongguo, who was puzzled, but out of respect for his wife, Jia Xin also carried a breath of anger and signed it indignantly. Since then, it has been a different and two-wide, and each is fine. The couple's subsequent encounters briefly coincided with this proverb: Chen Bilian married a capitalist in Shanghai, and Zheng Dongguo reorganized his family a few years later.
Figure | Zheng Dongguo and the new wife Gu Xianjuan
With a grudge or discouragement, life still goes on. If it continues like this, it is not too much regret, after all, most divorced couples in the world are also like this.
But the yin and yang differences in the world have never stopped, and fate's teasing of people is even more impermanent. Life after marriage was soon wrapped up in the tide of the times, floating and sinking, looking at the tall buildings, and then collapsing in a flash. Chen Bilian's situation was once again like a leaf of duckweed, and those who wanted to stay could not stay, so they had to sigh that the good things in the world were not firm.
With the advancement of the times and the process of life, Chen Bilian's family has suddenly changed, and her assets have disappeared. Feng Shui took turns, and the husband and wife were driven to the countryside of Suzhou, and their lives were once very poor. It wasn't long before her husband died of hunger and cold. With a hint of indifference and embarrassment, Chen Bilian sadly returned to Shanghai and lived with the help of her brother.
At this time, Zheng Dongguo, in the new post, shines and feverishly, and regains the value of his life.
In 1972, the new Mrs. Zheng died of illness, Chen Bilian heard the news and went to Beijing, but with a hint of "homesickness", did not want to go directly to Zheng Dongguo, but lived in the home of his old friend Hou Jingru, polishing the words of meeting one by one, thinking about whether there was a possibility of breaking the mirror and reuniting. She knew that this time she had come with great courage, no shells, no smoke, no enemies, but it was more difficult than ever to chase her husband on the battlefield.
After struggling for a long time, Chen Bilian still did not take that step. I can't help but sigh that the situation at this moment is very similar to the woman in the "Book of Poetry": "Even if I don't go, I won't come?" Fortunately, Zheng Dongguo still came, and Chen Bilian's eyes lit up instantly, but then it darkened. Because Zheng Dongguo was still followed by him and his youngest daughter Anyu, who died not long ago.
Silence is better than sound, and this meeting has a hint of rejection and does not carry any affection.
After all, after 20 years of getting along day and night, Chen Bilian understands that her ex-husband, who has always acted in a generous style, will not speak too bluntly. But for Chen Bilian, the wordless action made her embarrassed and embarrassed more than the harsh words. Still, Chen Bilian returned to Shanghai in disgrace, never mentioning the remarriage again.
Figure | Chen Bilian took a group photo with her mother when she was young
The two returned to the geographical pattern of one south and one north, and from then on, the south sea and north never saw each other again, and each other became the admirable "grandfather" and "Shanghai grandmother" in the mouths of their grandchildren.
So many years have passed. "Your grandfather loves to eat my braised pork!" Chen Bilian often talked to Zheng Jianbang (Zheng Dongguo's grandson). Coinciding with Zheng Jianbang's new marriage, he and his wife went to Shanghai to travel, and incidentally visited the "Shanghai grandmother", before leaving, Chen Bilian hurried to the station again, stuffed the braised beef into Zheng Jianbang's hand, and repeated the old words he had said before.
The bowl of braised beef flew from Shanghai to Beijing, and When Sun Tzu talked about the current situation of his grandmother in Shanghai with great interest, Zheng Dongguo would still prick up his ears and listen. In terms of details, the grandchildren captured their grandfather's attachment to grandma in Shanghai, but when they tentatively said what the two meant to be reunited, Zheng Dongguo immediately silently, or frowned slightly, and at one time even showed displeasure. The grandchildren were so blessed that they never mentioned it again.
Love is true, and resentment is also true.
In 1991, Zheng Dongguo died of illness in Beijing. Chen Bilian in the south finally stopped talking about the cold in the north, because the people who listened to her complaints were no longer there. She came to Beijing again, dressed in black to bid farewell to her former husband. No matter how much love, hate and anger have turned into a piece of yellow earth with the departure of the deceased, and gradually Chen Bilian seems to have deliberately forgotten the unhappiness of the past, and only remembers the goodness of her ex-husband.
"My biggest mistake in my life was to divorce him."
"Your grandfather is so nice, the most memorable time in my life is the 20-year marriage life with your grandfather..."
Figure | Chen Bilian
There is a sentence in "Rolling Red Dust", "Maybe this is the honor, so that those who do not love me in this life, children and grandchildren spread the rumors of his love with the secret me." Chen Bilian and Zheng Dongguo's half-life is luckier than the people in the lyrics, they have fallen in love. But when the two widened, the woman's delay could not be taken off, Chen Bilian was like a person in the play, and could only whisper the past with him to her children and grandchildren over and over again.
Text | Sub-fish