People, the most difficult to see clearly is themselves, and the most difficult to read is the human heart.
But in fact, a person's most real state is often exposed in the details.
To see a person thoroughly, you don't need to have an in-depth understanding of his life, and you don't need to communicate too much, you just need to observe how he behaves in some specific situations.
The choice before the interests is seen in the personality
There is a cloud in the Analects: "A gentleman is a man of righteousness, and a villain is of profit." ”
In the face of interests, a person's choice can best reflect his personality.
Some people, who usually seem to be very righteous, but when it comes to self-interest, they become selfish and completely indifferent to the feelings of their friends.
And some people, even in the face of huge interests, can stick to their principles and maintain their original intentions.
I remember one time, a friend was talking about a business, and there was a lack of an introducer in the middle, so I found an old classmate of mine, hoping that he could introduce it, and the classmate thought it was a trivial matter, so he helped with it.
Later, the business was negotiated, and the friend also made a profit, and afterwards he wrapped a big red envelope for the old classmate to express his gratitude.
As a result, the other party politely declined, saying that he had done a small favor and did not have to break the bank.
My friend was surprised and admired the character of this old classmate.
On the other hand, some people may smile at you at ordinary times, but when it comes to their own interests, they will turn away from them.
This kind of person often only values his own interests and ignores the feelings of others. When dealing with such people, we need to be vigilant at all times and not easily believe their promises.
Source: Douban
The way you behave when you are angry, see Cultivation
Everyone has times when their emotions are out of control, but how to deal with this emotion can see a person's cultivation.
Some people tend to lose their minds when they are angry, and they even act impulsively.
And some people, even when they are angry, can stay rational and calmly solve problems.
Once, two of my colleagues had a disagreement over a matter at work.
They were both very angry, but one of the female colleagues walked out of the office after a few arguments.
After a while, she came back and said to another colleague, "We're all angry right now, and we can't solve the problem properly." It's better to calm down first and then discuss a solution. In this way, a conflict was resolved, and the two men finally solved the problem together perfectly.
A person's behavior when he is angry often reflects his cultivation.
A cultivated person is able to control his emotions and solve problems with reason when he is angry, while a person who lacks cultivation is often swayed by emotions and even hurts others.
Therefore, when interacting with people, try to stay calm and avoid impulsive behaviors because of emotional out-of-control.
Source: Douban
The choice when you are down, see people's hearts
Life has its ups and downs, with highs and lows.
The support and help a person receives when he is down, can often reflect the sincerity of the person he is with.
I once had a friend who was surrounded by a lot of buddies and friends after he started a successful business. However, when the company suffered a setback and the company went bankrupt, many of the friends who had previously called them brothers chose to leave.
Only a few friends stayed behind to help him get through the storm. These friends not only gave him financial support, but also gave him moral encouragement.
On the other hand, those who choose to leave when their friends are down, they only value their own interests, and the friendship has little weight in their hearts.
Whether a person is malicious or full of kindness, whether he is greedy and selfish or selfless, is often best reflected when the people around him encounter difficulties.
Those who are good will not weigh the advantages and disadvantages when others are in trouble, and show selfish behavior, on the contrary, people with evil attitudes tend to see the wind and steer only their own interests.
Maybe sometimes we all look at the wrong person, but no matter how a person hides it, there will always be a time when the flaws are exposed.
Only true kindness can stand the test of time.
Source: Visual China
In our interactions with people, we often meet all kinds of people, some of whom seem simple but are actually elusive.
Understanding a person is not a simple matter, in addition to the superficial speech and demeanor, there are many details that can reflect the inner qualities of a person.
To truly understand a person, you need to be good at observing details.
In interpersonal communication, we should treat each other with sincerity, be kind to others, and exchange sincerity for sincerity.
Only in this way can we gain more friendship and true feelings, see people's hearts clearly in this complex world, stay away from villains, and embrace a beautiful life with wisdom and courage.
Finally, I would like to give you a sentence: "The road knows the horsepower, and the people will see it over time." ”
With a little more patience and rationality, I believe that time will reveal more truths for us, so that we can continue to move forward on the road of growth!
Source: Horse Catchers
Editor: Wang Na
Editor in charge: Niu Dong