More and more choose to be single, so what is it like to live alone? Perhaps we can glimpse one or two from Japan, which has long entered the "solitary" society.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="3" > is shameful to be single, but living alone is alarming</h1>
From a positive point of view, a person's life is exquisite and beautiful. With the development of the Internet, many people use the lens to record the daily life of living alone, healing and quiet, transparent and abundant, self-disciplined and at ease. Let the traffic outside the window be busy, and the soul living alone dances in the long stream of thin water. Let the world love and hate, and the romance of living alone quietly blooms in the silence of moisturizing things. There is no doubt that living alone gives women who live alone more choices, but in reality they always forget to lock their lives.
In Japan, "lonely death" refers to the death of a solitary person at home due to illness and other reasons without being cared for, of which the gentle and intellectual actress Reiko Ohara is "lonely to death". Reiko Ohara experienced two marriages of Ranin, the bumpy love made her choose to be lonely, and finally died of loneliness at home three days after cerebral hemorrhage, ending her 62-year-old life with a last word of "where is the love", which made people sigh.
In order for women living alone to live better and safer, there is a dizzying array of guidelines for living alone, most of which require ensuring the physical safety of women living alone by "pretending to be male". It can be seen that women living alone have both the freedom that can be seen everywhere and the dangers that are hidden.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="23" > have a sense of security to stand thirty</h1>
As Haruki Murakami said, "Where there are people who like to be lonely, but they don't like disappointment." "With the progress of society and the development of the economy, more and more women are no longer dependent on men to survive, they choose to live alone and enjoy being single, and their world is wonderful." However, as they get older, some women who live alone will also feel uneasy.
In a survey on "the uneasiness of 30-year-old single women", the top three were: 1, uneasiness about marriage and career; 2, uneasiness about money; 3, uneasiness about elderly care.
According to Maslow's theory of needs, human needs can be divided into five levels from low to high: physiological needs, security needs, social needs, dignity needs, and self-actualization needs. Unmet needs create uneasiness. Living alone means that there may be no one to rely on at critical moments, and the epidemic has captured and amplified the fragile voices of women living alone, who endure the torment of uneasiness, and under the threat of the epidemic, the desire of women living alone to marry has increased.
As Adler says in Out of Loneliness, "Humans are born with a sense of society—a very important trait, and it is the instinct of social animals to resist the cruel external environment through social cooperation." ”
In this world, there is always a dilemma that no one can cross, and if someone who knows cold and knows heat accompanies you, you will gain indestructible courage and warmth. Marriage requires two people to cooperate with each other and manage a happy future together.
Sometimes, a person's strength is very thin, and it is not possible to work hard to get a sense of security. Living alone brings purity, marriage brings hope; living alone requires being strong, and marriage allows fragility. Living alone has freedom, and marriage brings protection.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="27" > will not be done, do not give up the original intention of love</h1>
Robin Williams once said, "I thought the worst thing in my life was to end up alone, but it wasn't." The worst part is to end up with people who make you feel lonely. "A good marriage allows you to meet a better self, harvest a more secure future, and two people work together to achieve each other." Therefore, marriage is a very important choice in life.
No one is an island, and getting married doesn't mean giving up freedom. I have a good friend Xiaolin, she used to be a solitary woman, very much enjoy the feeling of reading a pot drama alone, cooking for herself in the kitchen every day, occasionally running and fitness, she is confident and happy in the circle of friends, excellent and exquisite, in the envious eyes of many friends, she suddenly got married! I was puzzled, Xiao Lin smiled happily: "Once upon a time, I enjoyed the good weather of a person, until his appearance made me feel another meaning of life." After marriage, Xiaolin did not give up her hobbies, but had an extra husband who pampered her. Living alone or getting married is not a contradiction of binary opposites, and we can fully enjoy the beauty of being alone in marriage, allowing true love to come when living alone.
If you choose to live alone, then first understand the precautions of living alone, and constantly enrich yourself in loneliness; if you choose marriage, then seriously love and love. The right marriage will only make you a better place, you can still live your own wonderful, he will also include you in the future plan, you are independent and interdependent, each other has a safe haven to live, with a sense of responsibility to protect the marriage together.