Dictation: Deng Lei
Author: Xiaoya
I'm 31 years old this year, I'm not married, 1 year ago I finally met a girl through a blind date, carefully managing our relationship, hoping to smoothly enter the palace of marriage with her, and solve lifelong events.
Not long ago, I took the opportunity of Double 11 to propose to her, and she did not refuse, saying that she would ask her parents' opinions. Just as I was waiting for the good news with great anticipation, she said in a cold voice: "Deng Lei, let me ask you something, you have to tell me the truth, you can't hide it from me." ”
Seeing her reaction, I realized that something was wrong, so I had to bite the bullet and say with a hippie smile, "What's wrong with you, honey?
Her expression was still very serious, and she said word by word: "Don't give me a hippie smile, get down to business!" I asked you why you broke up with your ex-girlfriend, and you said it was a discord, right?"
When I heard the words ex-girlfriend, I chuckled in my heart, and I felt even worse. Sure enough, she continued: "Now, can you tell me what the so-called emotional discord means, and why did you break up in the first place?"
I wanted to divert the topic, but my girlfriend didn't give me a chance at all: "You don't dare to say it, right? Of course you don't dare to say it, you're afraid that if you say it, the scumbag's hat will fall on your head, I'm afraid that I will leave you! Coax the other party to get pregnant before marriage, and then drag on not giving the bride price, and want to marry a wife without spending a penny, you can figure it out." Your ex-girlfriend is really blind to fall in love with someone like you. ”
I hastened to explain: "No, you misunderstood. My mom came up with the idea, and I didn't want to do it. ”
Her voice became louder: "Deng Lei, do you want to be shameless? You are not only a scumbag, but also an unfilial son." Then I ask you, if you really think this idea is irresponsible to your ex-girlfriend, why don't you refuse? If you insist on not doing it, your mother can still force you to get her pregnant? She is pregnant with a child, it has nothing to do with you, right?"
I was speechless, speechless. In fact, I knew very well that although my mother came up with the idea in the first place, I never turned it down.
Eleven years ago, I was 20 years old and in college. Due to the poor family conditions, the living expenses given by my parents were not enough, so I had to choose to go out part-time. In the process of working part-time, I met my ex-girlfriend from the same school as me.
Since the two of us are from the same school, we quickly get to know each other, and the boss often arranges for us to act together. We often went out together, came back together, fell in love over time, and became a pair of lovers.
After graduating from college, the two of us planned to talk about getting married.
In terms of family conditions, I am even worse than my ex-girlfriend's family. My parents came from a small mountain village, and my father worked outside the home all the year round to support the family, while my mother stayed in her rural hometown to take care of the elderly and children, and took the money my father sent back from time to time to support our sister and brother.
Although her ex-girlfriend is also a rural girl, her parents both have jobs, especially her mother is a math teacher in the township junior high school, and her retirement treatment is quite good.
As an only child, my ex-girlfriend has been pampered by the whole family since she was a child and lives a carefree life. When she went to work part-time, she simply wanted to find something to do for the boring college life, unlike me who was forced to make a living.
On the way to my ex-girlfriend's house, I felt uneasy because I was afraid that my ex-girlfriend's parents would not approve of this family business. Fortunately, although my ex-girlfriend's parents had some opinions about me, they respected their daughter's choice more, and when they saw that my ex-girlfriend was desperate for me, I didn't marry, so I nodded and agreed to this family business.
After agreeing to this family, they also made a request to me: "For the sake of your family's poor conditions, we don't want to buy a house, and we won't help you, you husband and wife start from scratch and work your own! There is also the bride price, the bride price here is not too high, you can give 80,000 yuan!"
I was so happy to hear this that I thanked my ex-girlfriend's parents again and again, and then took my ex-girlfriend back to my house and introduced her to my parents.
Seeing that I had a partner, my parents were very happy and killed chickens to entertain their ex-girlfriends. However, when I told my mother's ex-girlfriend's parents that they wanted a bride price of 80,000 yuan, my mother was in a hurry.
"What? You still need bride price money? Haven't you been together for more than two years? She is already your person, our daughter-in-law, why do you still need money?"
Hearing this, I subconsciously retorted to my mother: "When my sister gets married, don't you also want the bride price? I remember that it was more than 80,000 yuan! It is normal for a daughter-in-law to give a bride price!"
My mother gave me a blank look: "What do you know? Your sister met on a blind date, and when she got married, she was an innocent yellow flower girl, so of course she has to give the bride price, how can she be like you?"
I hurriedly retorted: "My girlfriend is also a yellow flower girl!"
My mother was even more anxious, and reprimanded me in a tone of hatred: "What? You've been together for two years, and you haven't cooked raw rice with her?
Then, my mother gave me advice: "In this way, you first promise their family, stabilize their family, and then find a way to cook raw rice with her, and let her conceive my eldest grandson first, so that their family has no reason to ask for bride price." It's not like you don't know, your dad just had a serious illness, and your sister's bride price money was used to treat your dad, where can we get the money to give their family a bride price?"
I subconsciously felt that this was not good, but my mother tried to brainwash me, and gave me an example, saying that in order to save money on the bride price, my cousin first cooked raw rice with the woman, so that the woman could marry without anything while pregnant with the child. After my mother's repeated persuasion, I wavered.
80,000 yuan was not a small amount for my family at that time, and I also thought that I could save it, so under the guidance of my mother, I took the opportunity to celebrate my birthday to get drunk with my ex-girlfriend and took the last step with her.
When my ex-girlfriend woke up, she felt very angry, and I hurriedly coaxed her: "Anyway, we won't be married soon, and you will be my wife soon, right?"
Half a year later, my ex-girlfriend was pregnant, and after learning the news, my mother was ecstatic, and immediately wiped her tears, saying that the family's money was used to treat my father, and she really couldn't get the bride price money, so let her ex-girlfriend understand and marry like this.
Hearing my mother's words, my ex-girlfriend was very angry and asked me what was going on. I hurriedly coaxed her: "Sissi, my mother didn't fool you, our family really has no money." The two of us are true love, why do you have to ask for bride price? You can't force my parents to death for 80,000 yuan, right?"
What I didn't expect was that my ex-girlfriend, who had always been responsive to me, changed her attitude and asked me, "Your dad was sick a long time ago, definitely before I got pregnant." Why didn't you say it sooner, after I got pregnant?"
Her words left me speechless, my ex-girlfriend turned her head and left, my mother saw it and cheered me on, saying that my ex-girlfriend has my children, and it is absolutely impossible to fall out with me, so I gritted my teeth.
I gritted my teeth and insisted on not going to my ex-girlfriend for a month, but I didn't think about it, my ex-girlfriend came to the door with her parents and threw me a surgical sheet: "The child is gone, you can get out, I wish you a lonely life, I hope that no girl will look at you if she is blind." ”
My ex-girlfriend's mother took a bullhorn and told the villagers what I had done, and then dragged her daughter away, and since then my reputation here has been infamous.
After the breakup, no one would introduce me to anyone, and I once brought back a girl, but it didn't take long for her to find out about it, slap me hard and leave. Therefore, when I was with my current girlfriend, I specially asked my parents to move to the city and did not dare to let her go to my hometown again.
The current girlfriend snorted coldly: "Hmph, do you think that if you get your parents to the city, you can hide your ugly behavior? My parents have already gone to your hometown and inquired about the matter clearly." Your ex-girlfriend is right, girls will marry you when they are blind, and you are only suitable for lonely old age. ”
After saying that, my current girlfriend also left, blocked me, and I felt very lost leaving me alone.
Am I really doing something wrong? Am I really going to die alone because of a thought? Why?
END.
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