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My name is Lin Xiao, I am 28 years old this year, and I have been married to my husband Zhang Qiang for three years. Zhang Qiang, who is five years older than me, is a project manager for a foreign company, and he is very busy at work, often having to work overtime, and he is already late when he gets home.
Zhang Qiang is not very good-tempered, and he is prone to anger and tantrums when he is under pressure at work. When we first got married, once he didn't come back until 11 o'clock at night, and I made a few dishes that he liked to eat and waited for him to eat together. As soon as he came back, he started to lose his temper, saying that the food I made was too unpalatable, and he also dropped two dishes and chopsticks.
At that time, I was taken aback by him, but I still gently persuaded him: "Zhang Qiang, you sit down and eat slowly, I will make these dishes according to your favorite taste." You're working so late, go home and get some rest. ”
Zhang Qiang continued to scold as if he hadn't heard me: "These things you make are also called meals? It's hard to swallow! I work overtime in the company so late, can't you prepare a decent dinner? And said that it is made according to my taste, and my taste is a fool who knows a hammer!"
I was aggrieved and scared when I heard this, tears rolling in my eyes, trying to keep them from falling.
After that, Zhang Qiang often lashed out because of the exhaustion of work. I also gradually learned to swallow my anger, because I knew that Zhang Qiang's temper came and went quickly, and it disappeared after a while. It's useless to argue a few words, it's better to let him.
And so we lived in our marriage for more than two years. Yesterday, Zhang Qiang worked overtime until 2 o'clock in the morning because of a delay in the progress of a project. I was going to sleep, but I got up when I heard the door open and went to the kitchen to heat up his meal and soup.
"You must be tired from working overtime so late, right?" I whispered, "I've got you a supper, you can eat some to cushion your stomach and get some good sleep." ”
"Shut up!" Zhang Qiang slapped the table hard, "Who wants you to heat this useless thing!"
The delay in the project is my responsibility, I am already distraught, and you are still rambling, which makes me even more annoyed! I work hard to support my family, and if you eat and drink at home every day, it will add to my blockage!" Zhang Qiang completely lost his mind, picked up the glass of water on the table and smashed it against the wall.
I turned pale with fright, and hurriedly persuaded him: "Zhang Qiang, calm down! Be careful if you break the cup! Let's talk about the project slowly, you are so emotional now, you can't solve any problems." ”
"Can't solve it? I'm telling you, there's only one way to solve it! Zhang Qiang shouted with red eyes.
I felt like the world was spinning, and I couldn't speak with my mouth wide open. We have been married for 3 years, how can he mention divorce so casually?
"Zhang Qiang, be sober! We have been married for three years, how can you say that we are divorced? Am I sorry for you somewhere? You tell me, I can correct it. I choked up.
"Can it be corrected? What do you have to change?" Zhang Qiang sneered, "Weren't you a stupid woman before you married me? You are still a stupid woman now! You know how verbose you are every day, do you understand my work pressure? Do you know my hardships? What qualifications does a woman who can't even cook have to point fingers at me!"
"Then why did you marry me in the first place? You weren't forced, were you?" I couldn't help but raise the volume.
"I was blind when I married you, and now I finally see your true colors!" Zhang Qiang shook this sentence fiercely, turned around and was about to walk towards the bedroom.
I looked at his back, tears finally burst out of my eyes, and I choked up and said, "Zhang Qiang, you think clearly, our relationship is not the same after so many years of marriage
Feelings are not something that can be broken overnight. It's irresponsible for you to deny our marriage just because of a project that went wrong! I'm sorry for you, but you are also responsible for our marriage!" I cried.
Zhang Qiang stopped, turned his back to me and said, "Responsibility? My responsibility is to support my family! I can't raise a man well, so what qualifications do I have to talk about responsibility?"
"Then you tell me where I am not good enough, and where I need to improve! You say that I am not good at cooking, and I can learn to cook what you like; You say I'm verbose, I can talk less and not bother you. As long as you tell me, I will change, we can't just divorce so hastily!" I pleaded.
Zhang Qiang was silent for a while before he said coldly: "I'm tired, and it doesn't help to change it." Anyway, I've seen you for what you are, so what's the use of pretending to be gentle and considerate? ”
"Zhang Qiang, you obviously still love me in your heart, it's just a momentary anger, we shouldn't just break up like this!" I said with red eyes.
"I love you, I've never loved you!" Zhang Qiang's words were like a basin of cold water, completely extinguishing the last hope in my heart.
I sat on the ground in despair, tears welling up in my eyes. Our marriage came to naught overnight, and I couldn't believe it all.
Just then, the doorbell rang suddenly. I mechanically stood up and went to open the door, and outside the door stood my own sister Wang Mei.
"Xiaoxiao, what's wrong? crying like this at home alone!" Wang Mei looked at me with concern.
I cried and told her about the quarrel with Zhang Qiang just now.
"I knew he wasn't going to be nice to you!" As soon as she heard what happened to me, Wang Mei immediately became angry, "Let him dare to bully you again, I will tell him to leave the house!"
"Sister, calm down. This is also a matter between us as husband and wife, so I will explain it to him myself. I discouraged.
"What is there to explain!
Do you still want to kneel and beg him to change his mind? This kind of scumbag should be taught a good lesson!" Wang Mei walked into the back room angrily, and I hurriedly followed her, for fear that she would really hit someone.
I saw Zhang Qiang sitting on the edge of the bed, Wang Mei walked straight up to him and grabbed him by the collar: "You bastard, my sister is so good to you, how dare you bully her and threaten divorce? Who do you think you are!"
I hurriedly grabbed Wang Mei and persuaded her to calm down: "Sister, you let him go first, let's talk about it!"
Zhang Qiang shook off Wang Mei's hand and sneered: "Wang Mei, don't you have to make an inch! This is a family affair between me and your sister, and it is not your turn to point fingers!"
"Family matters? Wang Mei was even more angry, "When my sister married you, you were a poor bastard with nothing! You have made money and bought a house all these years, all relying on my sister to support you! Now you want to divorce her, why can this house still occupy you?"
"Every penny I make is my own hard-earned money!" Zhang Qiang also raised his voice and said, "I paid the down payment and mortgage on this house, why can't I take possession of it?"
"Okay, you said that you paid for the house alone, but my sister has done all the housework and taking care of your daily life in the past few years!" Wang Mei approached Zhang Qiang, "You owe her, you can't run away with a point! If you dare to divorce her today, you will leave the house for me!"
I saw Zhang Qiang's face turn red as soon as I saw it, knowing that Wang Mei's words woke up his conscience.
After a while, Zhang Qiang said in a sullen voice: "I was really too impulsive today and said something excessive, but it has not been easy for me to work in the past few years." Xiaoxiao, I have a bad temper, so you can be more tolerant
Bear with me. ”
I looked at Zhang Qiang, but my heart softened: "I know that you have a lot of pressure at work, and both of us have been at fault over the years." As long as you don't casually mention divorce in the future, we can slowly adjust and move on. ”
"Cut, you're still so weak!" Wang Mei said dissatisfiedly, "He just broke your heart so much, now you can forgive him if you say something nice?"
"Sister, if you are not a sage, who can be without fault?" I advised Wang Mei, "We are all ordinary people, and we all have times when our tempers get out of control, so we should understand and tolerate each other." ”
"Xiaoxiao, you are still as kind as ever. Wang Mei sighed, "I heard you cry so sadly today, I couldn't help but teach him a lesson." But you have to settle your own family affairs. ”
"Thank you, sister, I am very content to have you care about me so much. "I hugged Wang Mei gratefully.
"Then I'll go back first, and call me at any time if anything!" Wang Mei glared at Zhang Qiang fiercely, and then left.
Closing the door, I returned to Zhang Qiang and saw that his face was full of guilt.
"Xiaoxiao, I'm sorry, I went too far. Zhang Qiang whispered, "Over the years, I have vented all the pressure at work on you, and I really can't help you." ”
I gently shook his hand: "I am also at fault, I did not understand your hard work, and I did not learn to resolve the contradictions between us. We all need to reflect on and correct. ”
"This time I really saw the wrong person. Zhang Qiang blamed himself, "I shouldn't casually mention divorce to hurt your heart." Let's calm down for a while, adjust our condition, and then move on with our married life, what do you say?"
I nodded, hope rising in my heart. Maybe after this quarrel, our relationship will become more harmonious. I believe that as long as two people have a heart, any problem can be solved slowly.
Zhang Qiang began to take the initiative to reduce overtime and try to go home early to accompany me. I also learned to cook some nutritious home-cooked food, hoping to improve Zhang Qiang's temper problems.
One night, Zhang Qiang returned home on time and saw a steaming meal on the table, as well as a fruit salad that I had carefully prepared.
"Wow, today's meal looks great!" Zhang Qiang exclaimed, "I'm hungry, let's eat quickly." ”
We chatted about our recent lives while eating. Zhang Qiang said that the pressure at work is indeed less, and he has begun to learn to arrange his time reasonably and no longer always work overtime until late.
"Thanks to your good care these days, my temper has improved a lot. Zhang Qiang said gratefully.
"If you encounter something unhappy in the future, you can tell me directly, don't hold it in your heart. I patted his hand and said, "I'll give you my full support." ”
"yes, I see. Thank you for always being so considerate of me. Zhang Qiang's eyes welled up with apologies.
After dinner, Zhang Qiang offered to wash the dishes. I was very relieved to see him give in like this.
"Xiaoxiao, you must have suffered a lot all these years of marrying me. Zhang Qiang said while washing the dishes, "I want to start over with you and give you a warm home." ”
"Let's start today. "I gave him a big hug.
Since then, Zhang Qiang has become more and more gentle and considerate. He was no longer vexatious, but listened patiently to my thoughts. I've also learned to express my feelings and stop holding my breath away.
We started doing chores together and going to the supermarket together. Zhang Qiang will carefully ask me about my needs, and will also take the initiative to help me massage when I am tired.
As the days passed, our relationship became more and more stable.