"Tearful" parents quarrel, children are helpless, kneel down and pray!
This is a piece of news that I swiped today, and I don't know exactly where it is, but the content of the news makes me break my defense!
This boy in red clothes hovered in front of his house and knelt down directly to pray! The reason was that the child's parents quarreled so fiercely that they scared him! As a child, he could only use this method helplessly!
Afterwards, the father regretted this scene! He is also a good father, and he should have reduced the quarrel with the child's mother in the future, or at least avoided the child's quarrel!
At the very least, reduce the harm to children!
And I fell into the comment area, it turns out that so many people have such an unfortunate childhood.
"When I was a child, my parents quarreled, so I secretly hid behind the house and begged God not to let my parents quarrel again"
"I'm the same way, my parents have quarreled since I was a child, and now I'm 38 years old, and I still haven't come out of this shadow, and what's even more terrifying is that now I feel more and more like my parents."
"When I was a child, my parents quarreled, I cried in the middle, and I forgot many things when I was a child, but this one was not forgotten."
"I knelt in I don't know how many places when I was a child, but my dad still beat my mom."
Behind the unfortunate childhood, there is a mother who has suffered a lot!
When I was young, I couldn't understand why my parents always quarreled, but I did forget many things, but I didn't forget the things that my parents quarreled about!
How much harm does a parent's quarrel do to a child?
The most obvious is the influence of personality, and I know it very well!
In my parents' generation, the phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters was still relatively serious, and my mother just gave birth to two daughters, so my mother was not treated well by my father!
Dad loves me and my sister very much, but he always beats Mom!
Later, there were many quarrels, and my sister became numb and never cared anymore! But I still felt sorry for my mother, crying and trembling!
What I never understand is why Dad loves us but not Mom! I'd rather he doesn't beat Mom than love me!
So, a lot of the time, I think that my mother's unhappiness is caused by me, and how nice it would be if I were a boy!
When I was young, my classmates called me "tomboy" and the reason is here!
Even the clothes and hairstyles, I tend to be boyish!
Later, my personality became inferior, sensitive and fragile!
I love my parents very much, but the images of their quarrels in the past are lingering!
Even though my parents are now older and can't make noise, I still feel sorry for my mother, the good mother who has worked hard all her life and suffered a lot but still doesn't complain!
So, in my marriage, I became a people-pleaser!
I'm afraid of fighting, I'm afraid of fighting, I refuse to fight! But it's okay, I'm happily married!
I remember that in our village, there were many young fathers who loved to beat their mothers! Either they drank and played drunk, or they directly beat them with sticks, and we outsiders could hear the cries of women!
These memories seem to be sealed, but in fact, they have always been there and have been influencing me!
Marriage is for happiness, why are there so few people who are truly happy in marriage?
But no matter what, we adults should not let our children bear the quarrel! We must take good care of our children's young hearts!
Really, don't quarrel if you don't quarrel in marriage, even if you keep silent, even if you go out for a walk with your children, don't waste time on your other half who doesn't know how to love us, it's not worth it!
Gorky once said, "A happy childhood heals a lifetime, but an unhappy childhood takes a lifetime to heal."
Don't let yourself live in shame, be kind to your children, be kind to your family, be kind to yourself!