In the Korean movie "Parasite", there is a thought-provoking line:
Money, like an iron, irons out all the folds of life.
Life is like this, and so is marriage.
What makes us grow old together is often not affection, but poverty.
Most ordinary people's marriages are about to come. And the reason why we will be successful is only because we do not have the psychological courage to break up and the economic confidence to be separated from each other.
Making money can bring psychological courage and economic confidence, and the end of marriage is to make good money.
One
When she had the earning power of 300,000 yuan a year, the first thing Lilac did was to file for divorce from a man.
The man was furious: I said that you came for my money back then, and that was exactly what happened.
Lilac didn't bother to explain again, and even felt that it was a waste of effort to say one more word to this man.
Under the contempt, ridicule, and suppression of men, Lilac struggled 5. She had enough of this kind of suffering.
But life is like this, the economic foundation determines the superstructure, the economic income determines the family's right to speak, and when your palms are up, you have already sold your personality and dignity.
Lilac and the man are in campus love, from acquaintance and love to the end of marriage, the two have walked hand in hand for 15 years.
In the past 15 years, I have tasted all the ups and downs of life, the spicy and salty, and the cloves.
Both of them are from ordinary families, especially men, born in rural areas, their parents are farmers, and their mothers are not in good health. It is naturally not easy for such two people to survive and take root in this provincial capital.
In the first few years, the two of them lived a life of fingers and hope for wages. But life is bitter and sweet, two people think in one place, and work hard in one place, although financially stretched, but spiritually, there is a sympathy for sharing hardships and hardships.
After all, two people have nothing but each other.
Two
It's a pity that it is easy to share hardships and hardships, and it is difficult to share wealth and prosperity.
In the final analysis, marriage is actually a contest of strength and ability, and once the two ends of the scale are out of balance, life will quickly get out of control.
Things are slowly changing, due to the huge increase in men's incomes and the return of Lilac to the family.
After 4 years of work, the man became a project manager, his income increased significantly, and then he successfully bought a house.
At this time, Lilac was already 30 years old, and the matter of childbirth was naturally put on the agenda.
The process of pregnancy was very hard, Lilac's pregnancy was serious, and there were even signs of threatened miscarriage, and the man felt sorry for Lilac and insisted that she resign. Although Lilac was reluctant from the bottom of her heart, she was also worried that it would be too hard for a man to support his family alone, but a man's words made her change her mind.
The man said:
Is money important, or is it people that matter? Without you and children, what do I want money for?
In this way, Lilac became a baby-friendly mother, and then a full-time mother.
Lilac, who became a stay-at-home mother, found out that the man was cheating on her while she was pregnant and breastfeeding.
Three
The man knelt down to apologize, saying that he had drunk and lost his morality, so he had done such a shameless thing.
Although Lilac was grief-stricken, she also believed the man's words. As the man said, since she became pregnant, the little things between husband and wife can indeed be counted on one hand.
He may have been suppressed for too long.
Lilac comforted herself like this, and this matter passed like this.
But human nature has always been a bully of the soft and afraid of the hard.
In marriage, interests are real, and feelings are by-products of interests.
Maybe I saw Lilac's softness, maybe I saw that the child was Lilac's weakness, and maybe, just because I felt that I was the breadwinner of the family, Lilac needed to rely on herself, in short, the story of extramarital love was staged many times by men in the following years.
When she was really awake for the first time, Lilac had no tears, but she didn't mention divorce either.
There is no black and white in the adult world, and the biggest difference between marriage and love is that marriage must learn to calculate the general account and find the cost performance.
Lilac began to settle herself, she picked up the pen in her hand again, and began to read, write, and then, publish books, start classes, and teach.
When she could easily earn 300,000 a year, she directly put the divorce agreement in front of the man.
There is a saying that says:
Money can solve 99% of life's problems, and the remaining 1% does not need to be solved.
When you have the ability to make money, you have the confidence to live well no matter how you live.
At this time, it doesn't matter who you live with, it doesn't matter if you are separated, even if you live alone, you won't have a bad time.
The end of marriage, to put it bluntly, is to make good money.