Recently, a shocking incident occurred in Chongqing, a man who did not go home because of his mood was slapped down by his wife. This has led to reflections on the identity and role of the son-in-law. In the traditional concept, the door-to-door son-in-law seems to always have to swallow his anger and obey the orders of his mother-in-law's family. However, we cannot ignore the men who are less privileged and have limited financial means but are brave enough to propose. This article will explore the family dilemma behind it, in a colloquial way, so that readers can understand and resonate more easily.
The phrase "it's not good to be a son-in-law at the door" seems to have been verified in many traditional families. Once he becomes a son-in-law, a man must accept the reality, his identity and status have changed, and he must swallow his anger, obey his words, and seek perfection. Especially when the environment is stronger, men are more likely to lose autonomy. They can't go east and west, but they have to live under the arrangement of their wives and mothers-in-law.
However, we cannot ignore the men who are disadvantaged and have limited means. In real life, in order to get married and start a family, many people can only choose to plug the door upside down and marry a woman with better conditions than themselves. This means that they have to give up some rights and autonomy and become sons-in-law under the fence. For them, it is not that they have no guts, but that they can only swallow their anger in the face of reality. The awkward situation brought about by this change of identity is poignant.
The role of the door-to-door son-in-law clashes with the traditional notion of male dominance. In today's society, equality between men and women has become a consensus, but in some families, the mother-in-law's strong position still exists. This makes men lose their voice and dominance in the family, and they don't even have the opportunity to make emotions. This poses a challenge to the balance and health of the marital relationship, and we urgently need to re-examine and adjust traditional concepts.
Marriage is supposed to be a partnership based on respect and equality. For sons-in-law, listening to their mother-in-law and taking care of their wife's needs is a sign of respect, but this does not mean that they have to lose their right to self and emotional expression. Every member of the family should have an equal voice and decision-making power, and men should not be left with a silent role.
The world is diverse, and every family has a different cultural background and family values. When dealing with the issue of door-to-door sons-in-law, we need to respect diversity and should not be judged by one standard for all families. More importantly, we should cultivate mutual understanding and tolerance among family members, and build a harmonious, equal and respectful family environment through communication and compromise.
Whether a man voluntarily becomes a door-to-door son-in-law or is forced to accept the role, we should be aware of the challenges and dilemmas they face. Marriage needs to be based on equality and respect, and neither party should be deprived of the right to self and emotional expression. Through diversity inclusion and mutual understanding, we can build a more harmonious and equal family environment.