In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, if there are these three manifestations, then it means that your mother-in-law treats you as an outsider
As we all know, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult to deal with among all relationships, many people have encountered the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, some people say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is innate, to some extent, this statement is indeed a bit too extreme. After all, not all mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships are difficult to reconcile, and if you want to make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law stable, the most important thing is to let your mother-in-law treat you as her own. Only by being your own person will you not be too concerned about many things, which can also alleviate a lot of contradictions.
Although the truth is very simple, it is a bit difficult to put it into practice, after all, people are separated from each other, and it is difficult to judge what a person thinks in her heart without knowing her. What should we do in this situation? In fact, the method is also very simple, we only need to observe from these three aspects. If your mother-in-law often behaves in front of you, then it means that she treats you as an outsider.
1. Mother-in-law treats you as an outsider.
I often speak ill of you behind my back.
If you often hear bad things about you in the mouths of relatives, friends or neighbors, then you don't have to think about it, it must have been spread by your mother-in-law, if she doesn't say it, how can others know? If you have encountered a similar situation, then it means that your mother-in-law is not particularly satisfied in her heart, but she does not know how to break you, so she will use some means or methods to sabotage you, so that you cannot gain a foothold in the home.
Be picky about your words and actions.
After getting married, it is inevitable that you need to deal with your mother-in-law, if your mother-in-law often picks on your words and deeds, pointing fingers at your living habits, in her opinion, no matter what you do, it is wrong, even if you want to refute, she will come up with the old theory to educate you, if you are not convinced, she will take out the identity of the elder to pressure you, and even take the initiative to say bad things about you in front of her son. If this happens, then it means that your mother-in-law has not fully accepted you in her heart.
Often cold to you.
In the process of contact with your mother-in-law, if your mother-in-law is often cold to you, no matter what happens to you, she will not bother to reach out and always keep a distance from you. Even if you take the initiative to show her affection, it is an attitude of indifference, as if you have or not will not have much impact on her life. If this happens, it is likely that your mother-in-law has not regarded you as her own, in her mother-in-law's heart, you are an outsider, and your existence is to occupy her son.
What are the right responses?
If you find that your mother-in-law is not willing to treat you sincerely, then what kind of methods should you use to deal with it? First of all, we need to stay calm and rational, and never be affected by your mother-in-law's attitude. Once our emotions fluctuate, the mother-in-law will think that this method is particularly effective, so she will carry it out to the end, and then use this method to completely break our hearts until we take the initiative to file for divorce.
The second is to lower your expectations, you must not expect your mother-in-law to treat yourself like your own mother, after all, your mother-in-law did not give birth to herself, so it is impossible to devote herself to herself, and some things can be passed on the surface. When people's expectations are lowered, there are not so many worries.