What is the last thing you can tolerate in a marriage that your partner does?
Some people will say that they are not motivated, some people will say that they are cheating, some people will say that they are cold and violent, and some people will say that they do not care about their families...... Each family's situation and needs are different, and the answer will naturally not be the same.
But there is a very common situation where one party changes his mind and does something sorry for the other.
Today we will talk about the psychology behind the man who changed his mind in marriage, but the woman did not choose to divorce, what is the psychology, a generally recognized statement is for the sake of the child, the women willingly recognize this reason, and the people around them also feel that they should do it for the sake of the child, it seems that not to divorce for the sake of the child is still a commendable sacrifice.
But is this really the case? The man has changed his mind, the woman is very painful in her heart, she has lost confidence and hope in this marriage, and even gets up all kinds of complaints and dissatisfaction all day long, but if she doesn't divorce, is it really for the sake of the children?
So, I would like to ask: Is it really good for a child to watch his parents dislike each other all day long, arguing and complaining at every turn?
You know, whether the parents are together or not, as long as the parents love him, he will not be very hurt to him. This kind of harm is far less than living in a family where the parents quarrel at any time.
Since this is the case, why do many women obviously can't accept a man's change of heart and can't accept a man's betrayal of themselves, but they just don't divorce?
There is only one real reason, that is, they are not confident, they think that they will have a worse life if they leave this man, although it is not much better if they do not leave, but at least they do not divorce, except that they are very painful, they do not need to face other things alone.
Mayer Musk has three children, but she still chose to divorce, although her husband didn't have much money when he married her, but the business did well after marriage, but Mayer Musk knew very well that once he chose to divorce, her husband would not give her money, of course, in the end, the law required that his husband must give her some property, so she got a house that had just paid a down payment.
But she doesn't have much savings of her own, so she can probably only be responsible for the house payment and living expenses for a few months after the divorce. Because for the nine years of her life before the divorce, his husband had been controlling her, and it was difficult for her to go out and make money. But was she scared? Did she give up?
Not really. She chose divorce without hesitation.
Of course, she also had hesitation, coupled with the legal problems at the time, so she stayed in that unhappy marriage for nine years, and she said that she lived in hell during that time.
Indeed, being subjected to domestic violence, being controlled, not even being taken care of when giving birth to children, not being able to have contact with the opposite sex, and being denied and suppressed by all kinds of people at every turn, such a day is really not acceptable to ordinary people.
When she managed to free herself from that unhappy marriage and the man who had caused her pain, she said she should have left sooner. She said that everyone has the ability to save themselves, to believe in themselves, and everything will be a thing of the past.
After the divorce, she took care of her three children while studying, of course, she had to work to earn money, but none of this made her go back, and she did not regret her choice, because for her, as long as she worked hard enough, her life was hopeful, and she could experience joy and happiness from it, which was much better than her life before the divorce.
As she believes, her life is getting better and better with her efforts, although she has moved many times, has been to three countries, but everything is okay, she said that every decade of her is better than the last, she is not afraid of aging, she is not afraid of age, in her sixties she became a famous model, that was just her side job, her main job is a nutritionist, after her divorce, she took two master's degrees for this.
Why can she live better and better under such difficult circumstances, not only successfully raising three excellent children, but also getting better and better?
The reason is that she believes in herself and she has confidence. She did not surrender in the face of the misfortune brought to her by fate, she chose to rebel, so that she could get out of the sea of misery and live another life that was difficult but very satisfying.
So, the topic goes back to those women who are cheating on men but are unwilling to divorce, they can't forgive men's behavior, their relationship with their husbands is getting worse and worse, and they are becoming less and less lovable, but they still endure and continue to live, in the final analysis, they don't believe in themselves and have no confidence, so they indulge themselves in the pain of an unhappy marriage, they can't change their fate, so they only complain and blame, and life falls into a vicious circle.
Here I want to say: everyone's attitude towards marriage is different, the same thing happens, because people are different, the result will be different, but no matter what you choose, remember that your choice is to make your life better, you can forgive, you can also turn away, but you must not neither forgive nor leave, let yourself live a particularly bad life all day.
A woman must always remember that you can love someone very much, or you can leave someone, and you must always be independent, financially and spiritually independent, so that no matter what happens, you have the courage to choose and the courage to bear the results.
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