The ancients had a poem: "Unsatisfactory things are often eight or nine, and they can be the same as others." ”
The unsatisfactory things in life account for as many as eighty or ninety percent. Even if there is only one or two percent left, it is not necessarily a good thing, it may be a bigger bad thing.
For the unsatisfactory life, many people lament that their lives are miserable and lament that the world is not worth it. If you live with this kind of concept, you will never be happy, but you will only suffer for a lifetime.
If you feel that your life is miserable, I suggest that you have these 5 kinds of awareness. When you are enlightened, you are relieved.
Enlightenment 1: If you can't change the environment, then change yourself.
Su Shi, a great genius in the Song Dynasty, said: "Bamboo canes and shoes are lighter than horses, who is afraid? The steep spring breeze blows the wine and wakes up, slightly cold, and the mountain is obliquely shining but welcomes. Looking back at the bleak place, there is no wind and rain and no sunshine. ”
Su Shi stood in the wind and rain, not anxious, nor lamenting, but indifferent. In his opinion, it is inevitable that it will rain and his mother will get married, so he can only adjust his mentality and adapt to the environment.
The outside is stormy, but the sun is rising inside, and the dark clouds on the outside cover the sun, but the inside is full of birds and flowers. As long as the inner attitude changes, the quality of life will rise.
Ordinary people are prone to complain, either complaining here that it is unfair, or complaining there is not worth it. To tell the truth, what can you change by complaining and complaining? It will only increase sadness.
Life in the world is not material, but a state of mind. The mood is calm, and it no longer increases sadness, and it is naturally happy, chic, and content.
Enlightenment 2: If you can't get rich and expensive, then you can be rich and secure.
When you are 20 years old, you will long to be rich and rich, and become a master. When you are 30 years old, because you can't be rich and rich, you will feel lost in life.
After the age of 40, everything has been figured out, since you can't be rich and expensive, then accept the reality that a little wealth is peace. It's nice to be well fed, warmly dressed, and have a stable life.
Why do we have to be rich? Because we are all bound by worldly standards of success. Isn't it stupid to hold yourself to worldly standards and make yourself do things that are simply impossible?
If you are an elite, then you will make a lot of money, and if you are an ordinary person, you will go back to an ordinary life. There is nothing inferior, nothing is inferior to others, there is just our paranoia.
Isn't it true that if we cherish the stability of being rich and prosperous and control our desires, we will naturally not feel that our lives are miserable.
Enlightenment 3: Accept yourself and everything around you.
There is a famous saying: "See yourself, see heaven and earth, see all beings." ”
Only by understanding and accepting oneself can one see the wider world. The real pattern is never competition, but "acceptance".
If the parents are ordinary, then accept the reality that the parents are ordinary people, if the partner is average, then accept the truth that the partner is an ordinary person, and if the child is mediocre, then accept that the child is the result of ordinary people.
Why accept it? Because we ourselves are ordinary people. Ordinary people do not accept ordinary life, so what do they accept? Don't have a heart higher than the sky, otherwise your life will be thinner than paper.
There are 8 billion people in this world, and there are always people who are stronger than us, and there are always people who are weaker than us. In this case, find your own position, accept yourself, and accept everything around you, and blessings are coming.
Enlightenment 4: See through the ultimate truth of "an emptiness".
In the past, I used to be anxious all the time, either cynical or restless. Since seeing through the ultimate truth of "a void", there is no anxiety at all.
As "Song of the Awakening World" said: "I wasted tens of millions of dollars in life, and I left a pair of empty hands after death." Hugh has to compete to win, and a hundred years of Hugh is a drama field. In an instant, a gong and drum stopped, and I didn't know where my hometown was. ”
Before we were alive, we made all kinds of demands and calculations, and we couldn't take anything away after death. Fighting so much, asking for so much, is just a void. As the suona blows, the gongs and drums sound, the eyes are closed, and the legs are kicked, where is the hometown?
What is the difference between the great men of the ages and the present, like us ordinary people, who do not bring them in life and do not take them away in death? This is the greatest fairness in the world.
When you figure this out, you won't feel miserable, but feel that you're okay. You know, everything is empty, why not keep a positive mindset and be kind to yourself?
Enlightenment 5: No clear conscience, no regrets in natural life.
Professor Zeng Shiqiang said that money, fame and fortune cannot accompany you to old age, but your conscience will definitely accompany you to old age. When everyone leaves, they will accept the ultimate judgment of conscience.
When it comes to conscience, I believe many people will laugh and think that this thing is meaningless and is all a liar. Is that really the case? Not really.
Countless people in their old age, why can't they sleep well or eat well? It is because they have a guilty conscience and do things that are sorry for others. I did bad things in my life, and in my later years, I was afraid of ghosts knocking on the door.
People live for a lifetime, the grass grows for an autumn, do their duty well, complete their mission, be worthy of themselves, worthy of the people around them, and worthy of heaven and earth, naturally have a clear conscience and no regrets.
Whether life is bitter or not is only our subjective feeling. The heart is sunny, and it is natural to be fearless and sad. The heart is depressed, and the natural winter is coming.
Author: Shu Shan Youlu, amateur emotional author