Have you worked hard in the workplace for many years, but often feel confused and difficult to break through the bottleneck?
Do you envy those bigwigs with an annual salary of 1 million, but you often sigh to yourself?
Why are they so proficient in the workplace that they can easily achieve that others can't achieve?
And where is the difference between yourself?
When Xinyan'er just graduated, she also experienced countless times of confusion and hesitation, and even wanted to "resign and start over" several times.
However, calm down and think about it: does resignation work?
Can changing companies change everything?
Now, Xinyan'er has already passed the period of confusion in the workplace, not only found the right track, but also made it smoother and smoother, and his life has embarked on the fast lane!
Looking back, if someone had told me a word in time, it would have saved more time and avoided countless detours...... If you happen to be in a period of confusion in the workplace and don't know how to break the game, then you might as well read today's article carefully.
Learn the secrets of "Mental Awakening" with Teacher Effie with Xinyan'er, quickly achieve a counterattack in the workplace, and live the life you want!
1. Embrace failure
A lot of people don't like to hear the word "failure".
I always feel that once I am labeled as a "loser", this life is over.
In fact, life has not yet reached the end, who can guarantee that they will always succeed in everything?
In the workplace, failure and frustration are the norm.
The difference is that there are two very different attitudes in the face of failure:
One is evasion and self-blame;
The first is to face up to and reflect.
is like a former colleague of Xinyan'er - Wang Jingjing.
I remember that it was the spring of 2020, and 32-year-old Xiao Wang joined our team as a software project leader.
It didn't take long for her to receive a development project with a new way of interacting and intelligent function modules.
At the beginning, Xiao Wang said that he was bound to win, and "he will definitely complete the development task before the deadline"!
However, the reality is that the progress of the project is like a winding mountain road, and there are many difficulties......
After more than half a year of difficult progress, in the end, due to changes in market demand, the core technology has not been overcome. Xiao Wang's project had to be interrupted, which became a painful experience that lingered in her heart.
"This is my first project on the team, how can this be?"
To be honest, seeing that Xiao Wang is like a frosted eggplant every day, she has no energy to do anything, and we don't know how to persuade her.
But who knows, within a week, the original Xiao Wang will come back!
"Winning or losing is a common thing in soldiers, and if we didn't do well in the last project, it doesn't mean that we can't do it." Everyone explained.
"It's okay, I've also reflected on my problems in the past two days. As a project leader, I have to be able to take responsibility and learn from successes and failures to keep moving forward. ”
Later, Xiao Wang took on countless projects, large and small.
It was easier than the other, and the results soared.
Today, Wang Jingjing has become the head of the software development department and has become an indispensable backbone of the company.
On the podium at last year's annual meeting, Xiao Wang said sincerely: "To this day, I want to thank my first failed project. It made me aware of my shortcomings and shortcomings, and I was able to continue to improve and improve myself. ”
So, you see, who says failure is necessarily bad?
Of course, no one can deny that failure is a very disturbing thing and must be avoided as much as possible.
But if unfortunately, you encounter failure, it is best to see it as a good teacher for your own growth and progress.
In the book "Awakening of the Mind", the author says:
Only by truly facing failure can you find the root cause and cause of the problem, and find the direction and method of improvement.
I think so!
So, can you do it to embrace failure?
In the process of facing up to one's own shortcomings and mistakes, we should constantly reflect and learn, reshape our self-awareness, and ultimately improve our ability level and realize the awakening and growth of our mind.
In this way, are you worried that there is no chance of continued development?
2. The perspective of others
In addition to changing from failure to becoming better and better, there is another important link in the workplace, that is, communication.
After all, everyone's background and position are different, and it is almost impossible to make the other person understand your thoughts and needs with "one look".
At this time, communication skills are particularly important.
I remember when I first started leading the team, I was in my early 30s.
Convinced that "treating people with sincerity will inevitably be rewarded", I became the leader of a new smartphone software development project.
To be honest, when I first received the project, I was under a lot of pressure, so I broke down the work for everyone on the team overnight, and arranged all the details I could think of to each individual.
I thought that the project would go smoothly, but I soon found out that despite everyone's efforts, the atmosphere within the team was becoming more and more tense and communication became extremely difficult.
That's when I realized that the key to the problem is not the work arrangement, but the communication!
Soon, I found a senior.
Although we are in different departments, I have always admired the communication skills of this senior -
I began to quietly observe how he communicated with his subordinates.
Then I also learned to take the initiative to talk to people and understand the difficulties and challenges they encountered in their work.
Try to think from their perspective by listening to their ideas and suggestions.
In this way, I found that people are more concerned about their own growth and development than the progress and achievements of the project, and I know how to provide them with the necessary support and help.
Let's just talk about that time, Xiao Li told me after the regular meeting that he was afraid that his ability was not enough to complete the development of the responsible module.
If it was in the past, I would probably tell him directly to believe in himself, or put pressure on him.
But this time, I chose to put myself in my shoes.
I said to Xiao Li:
"It's normal for you to have such worries, it's okay, let's do it first. In addition, I will do my best to provide you with resource support. You can also talk to other experienced supervisors and listen to their opinions and suggestions. ”
In this way, I gradually broke down the boundaries of communication within the team. When people feel my understanding and support, they are more willing to share their thoughts and confusions with me. At the same time, I was able to learn more experience and knowledge from them.
This kind of two-way communication and exchange not only improves the cohesion of our team, but also allows us to work closely together to face the challenges of the project.
Of course, you may say: empathy is to do what others want without losing yourself?
In fact, such concerns are unnecessary.
In the book "Mental Awakening", Effie said:
Because empathy does not mean that we have to completely abandon our own views and positions, but rather that we understand others more comprehensively, find common ground and interests for both parties, so as to promote teamwork and win-win.
So, if you haven't used empathy yet, you might as well start today and take the initiative to break down communication boundaries, better understand others, improve emotional intelligence and communication skills, and achieve greater success in the workplace!
3. Reverse learning
Most people think of learning as acquiring career-related knowledge and skills so that they can better cope with the challenges at work.
However, after going through several workplace changes, I am deeply aware that:
Traditional industry knowledge and experience, while important, often also limits our thinking.
Especially in the department split in 2019, most of the colleagues who only focused on their own work could only passively "wait for the arrangement". Those who usually pay attention to accumulating interprofessional and cross-departmental thinking have more choices.
It was also from that time that Xinyan began to pay attention to reverse learning in the workplace, which is mentioned in "Mental Awakening":
Learn a completely different field of knowledge from your own industry, such as psychology, philosophy, art, etc.
Since then, I seem to have found a shortcut to break free from the shackles of conventional thinking, not only to see the wider world, but also to absorb a variety of perspectives.
With this new knowledge, we can design new solutions with new ways of thinking in the face of problems, and find new ways to bring "shortcuts" to the success of the team.
Perhaps, you may feel that reverse learning will be distracting and affect your own work.
But in reality, reverse learning does not mean that we give up our jobs, but that we maintain an open and curious mind, and continue to explore and learn new areas of knowledge. This kind of learning not only enriches our knowledge base, but also improves our thinking ability and innovation ability.
Especially in today's era of rapid technological progress, it is particularly important to have cross-border knowledge to meet the challenges of our work!
Fourth, write at the end
In these fast-changing times, each of us is like a ship sailing in rough seas, constantly adjusting its course to cope with unknown winds and waves.
Mind Awakening is like a beacon for the workplace, helping us light the way forward and guiding us on how to find our place in this challenging world.
We often hear the concept of "lifelong learning", but true lifelong learning is not only about learning professional knowledge, but also learning how to learn, how to think, and how to face failures and challenges. As Effie says in the book:
Learning is a kind of life attitude, and it is a process of continuous exploration and discovery of one's own potential.
In this process, we may encounter a lot of difficulties, and there may be countless moments when we want to give up.
But remember, every failure is an opportunity to grow, and every challenge is an opportunity to surpass yourself.
So, in this uncertain world, are you up for the challenge?
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