Jane Austen, as a British national treasure female writer, is as famous as Shakespeare.
The famous writer Maugham once said of her: Most novelists have ups and downs. And Miss Austin is the only exception I know of,
She proves the principle that only mediocre people can maintain their usual level, and she is always at her best.
In Austen's short life, he created a total of 6 classic works.
In particular, "Pride and Prejudice" has endured for a hundred years, establishing her position in the history of world literature.
The novel tells the story of a series of marriage and love stories that revolve around the squire Bennett's family in 19th-century England.
This lifelong unmarried woman is famous all over the world for describing love and marriage stories, using sensual language and rational thinking to explain all kinds of human nature and write all kinds of marriage.
Gorky once said: Marriage is the spiritual union of two people, and the purpose is to overcome all the hardships and hardships of the world together.
More than a century later, the reflection and respect for marriage conveyed in this novel still shines with wisdom: the best marriages have nothing to do with appearance or origin, but to go hand in hand and achieve each other.
Love begins with appearance, and marriage is faithful to the three views
Mr. and Mrs. Bennett have been married for more than 20 years, but they have never been able to resonate with each other in life and spirit.
As a young woman, Mrs. Bennett was so good-looking that Mr. Bennett fell in love with her.
Not long after they met, the two who fell in love got married in a hurry.
However, marriage is a mirror that can be seen over time.
Mrs. Bennett is coarse and philistine, bent on marrying her daughters into wealthy families;
Mr. Bennett, on the other hand, was a well-read squire.
When Mrs. Bennett offered to let her husband visit the new neighbors early so that his daughters could have an opportunity to climb the high branches, Mr. Bennett refused her request because he was disgusted by the behavior.
When she heard that her second daughter, Elizabeth, was going to marry someone she didn't like, Mrs. Bennett was very happy to know that her daughter would be able to marry the rich second generation.
But Mr. Bennett was anxious and advised his daughter to choose carefully.
The marriage between the two who only relied on appearance left only a torn body in the gradual wear.
Compared to the tragedy of her parents' marriage, Jane, the eldest daughter of the Bennett family, is much luckier.
She inherited Mrs. Bennett's beauty and made Mr. Bingley fall in love with her at first sight at the ball.
The two people who are suitable for their appearance are very similar in personality and in dealing with people.
Jane is kind-hearted, and in her eyes, those little people who are not popular also have something to be respected;
And Bingley was equally generous, and even Mrs. Bennett was able to listen patiently to her end, even in the face of the gibberish Mrs. Bennett.
Both of them are very pure and single-minded in their relationship, and the wealthy Bentley does not care about the difference between him and Jane;
And Jane is not greedy for money to love Bentley, even if the two are separated due to misunderstanding, they always care about each other.
The marriage of two couples began with a similar beginning, but had different endings.
The reason is that superficial people mistakenly regard beauty as a preservative in marriage, while smart people only regard beauty as a plus in marriage.
I have seen such a sentence: Love each other to see the three views, get along with the facial features. The five senses are easy to combine, but the three views are difficult to combine.
In your eyes, the sightseeing may be the other party's way of loving life;
What you think is calculating may just be the other party's habit of being diligent and thrifty.
It is difficult for two people with different views to have the same frequency and resonance.
The pas de deux of marriage, if you can't step on the same beat, it will inevitably end up.
Money is the threshold of marriage, not a bargaining chip
Charlotte is a good friend of the heroine Elizabeth.
Her family is poor, and as she gets older, she can't find a home and is disliked by her family.
But what she wants is simple, she just wants to have a comfortable home.
Affection is just icing on the cake for her.
So in the face of worldly pressures, she weighed the pros and cons and agreed to Elizabeth's cousin Collins' marriage proposal.
Collins has a decent income and has his own property.
Moreover, according to the limited inheritance law of the United Kingdom at that time, since Mr. Bennett only had a daughter, he could still inherit his estate as a cousin according to the law.
Although Charlotte knew in her heart that Collins was not likeable.
But marrying him can at least ensure that you will be free from food and clothing for the rest of your life.
After marriage, the husband and wife kept each other in a good way, matched properly, and kept the house in order.
Although it's not sweet, it's decent.
In contrast, in the book, Bennett's youngest daughter, Lydia, eloped with Weiken for what she thought was her true love.
Wei Ken is not only a man of bad character, greedy for vanity, fond of gambling, and only wants to get rich by getting married.
The reason why he eloped with Lydia was only because he was forced by gambling debts.
And this is not the first time he has done such a thing, he has used all kinds of rhetoric to try to deceive other rich girls.
At this point, in order to protect the family's reputation, it is the best choice to promote the marriage of the two.
In this "buying and selling" marriage, everything is clearly marked.
On the condition that he not only pay off his gambling debts, but also pay him a hundred pounds a year, and that he receive a share of Mr. Bennett's estate.
"Transactional" marriages are destined to be vulnerable.
After marriage, the two had a meager income, but they spendthrift, and even needed to rely on Lydia's family to get by.
And Wei Ken had bad habits that were difficult to change, looking for pleasure everywhere, and soon the relationship between the two gradually flattened.
Charlotte faced the difficulties of life, and it is understandable that she chose to marry someone who could give her material security.
However, like Wei Ken, using marriage as a bargaining chip to break through the bottom line of being a human being, he can only fall deeper and deeper into the quagmire of desire in the end.
As the book says: a marriage that only thinks about money is ridiculous, and a marriage that doesn't think about money is stupid.
Most of modern people's marriages are linked to houses and cars, and in the end, they will fall into the triviality of a meal and a vegetable.
There is no shame in talking about money in marriage, it is your safety belt to maintain your married life.
But if you treat marriage as a bargain to fill the abyss of your endless selfish desires, you will only sink in the lost.
The best marriages are soulmates
Compared to others, Elizabeth's marriage is probably the dream of all girls.
Although she is not as beautiful and elegant as her sister Jane, she is witty and intelligent, and she talks well.
In the face of the harassy contempt of the upper-class wife, she is neither humble nor arrogant.
Her self-confidence and talent attracted the handsome and golden Mr. Darcy.
However, the two did not fall in love at first, and even parted ways for a while.
In Elizabeth's eyes, Darcy was arrogant and conceited.
Not only did she sneer at her lowly relatives and friends, but she also interfered in Jane's romance and betrayed her old friend Wei Ken, which made her very disgusted.
So when faced with Darcy's first marriage proposal, Elizabeth did not hesitate to reject him.
I thought that my love for Elizabeth's "condescension" would be moved by her, but I didn't expect to be slapped on the head, which made Darcy fall into deep reflection.
Thinking back on his arrogant words and deeds, he was in great pain.
In order to gain Elizabeth's understanding, he wrote a long letter explaining the ins and outs of the matter.
It turned out that for Jane and Bentley, he was just reminding Bentley from the perspective of a friend;
As for Wei Ken, he knew that this person was misbehaving, and he had already done his best to be benevolent to him.
Elizabeth realized that she had misunderstood Darcy because of her own blindness and narrow-mindedness, and she was ashamed of herself.
When the two met again, Elizabeth clearly felt that Darcy was not the same as before.
He was respectful and modest, courteous to those around him, not only meeting Elizabeth's uncle for fishing, but also taking the initiative to introduce his sister to Elizabeth.
Elizabeth's previous prejudices against him began to slowly change.
He even defended Darcy when others misunderstood his character.
A strange affection began to sprout.
Not only that, but after Lydia eloped with Weiken, Darcy went to great lengths to mediate as much as he could.
Not only did he help the Bennett family pay off Weiken's gambling debts, but he also helped him find a job and persuaded him to marry Lydia.
Elizabeth, who learned all this, was deeply moved, and the two finally let go of their previous suspicions and poured out their long-standing apologies and love for each other.
The two of them stood side by side again.
After reflecting on their wrong words and deeds and self-precipitation, they bravely changed themselves for love, and finally achieved a good story.
"The World of Adults Is Not Easy" wrote: Love is not sweet, and marriage cannot solve the problem of happiness, only if you become better, your love and life can be saved together.
Happiness does not fall from the sky, it is all achieved by yourself.
Learn to understand your own shortcomings in getting along, and continue to introspect and grow in the run-in, so that we can grasp happiness and grow into the best partner for spiritual matching.
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The reason why "Pride and Prejudice" can take the world by storm is perhaps because everyone can find what their marriage looks like in it.
We fall in love with the person we love at first sight, but we can't live happily ever after.
We rush into marriage because of worldly preconceptions, and live a boring life in ordinary relationships.
Or maybe you are extremely lucky to find a love partner who can grow hand in hand with you and stay with you for a lifetime.
What kind of view of marriage you have is destined to what kind of life you have.
Marriage can be a sky full of romantic stars, or it can be a pot and pan in our hands, which is worth exploring for a lifetime.
In the vast sea of people, I hope that each of us can find the other half of the two hearts and souls.
When night falls and thousands of lights are on, there is always a light for you.