I have been an outlier since I was a child, I never envy others, and I don't need the sympathy of others. My life path has always been my own choice, and I have never regretted it, even if it was a difficult one. Just like the heroine Huang Yimei in the play, her life is constantly pursuing independence and freedom, and bravely facing the ups and downs of life. After reading this "The Story of Roses", I can't help but feel a lot of emotion, the persistent qualities in this girl who cannot be bound by the world undoubtedly sound a wake-up call for us ordinary women.
Many people may feel that Huang Yimei's life trajectory is a bit ups and downs, and her emotional experience is quite tortuous. But I think that's the real picture of life. In this impetuous era, we are always taught to fall in love, then get married, have children, and live a so-called "happy life". However, the reality is often far from the ideal, and many people end up passively accepting the dilemma of life.
But Huang Yimei is different, she has never been bound by the values of society. Even at the age of forty, he still dared to pursue his own happiness. This kind of courage and determination undoubtedly makes me, a self-proclaimed "independent woman", feel ashamed. We keep saying we want to be free, but we are afraid to make decisions and suffer the consequences of failure. But Huang Yimei told us that failure is not terrible, and it is important to have the courage to face failure.
I remember a line in the play that says it well: "Have the courage to make decisions, and also have the courage to accept failure." This sentence was like a slap in the face, and I couldn't help but reflect on what I had done over the years. I've always considered myself independent, but in fact I've often been bound by some of my past regrets and scared to try again. Just like Huang Yimei in her relationship with Zhuang Guodong, she knew that this relationship had come to an end, but she was still reluctant to let go. It wasn't until a certain moment that she finally had an epiphany and made a decisive decision.
In fact, life choices and choices are never easy, but we must learn to face them and accept them. Sometimes, a single epiphany is enough to change the course of our lives. I think this is what is admirable about Huang Yimei - she has never been bound by the past, but bravely looks forward, and interprets what it means to "I am completely and absolutely presiding over me" with her actions.
Many people may think that Huang Yimei's approach is too rebellious and too bold. But what I want to tell you is that this is the quality that a truly independent woman should have. In this day and age, we should get rid of the old ideas of the past and be brave enough to make our own choices. Don't be bound by the eyes of others, and don't pin your happiness on others.
As Huang Yimei said, "I completely and absolutely preside over me." We must learn to take good care of ourselves and cherish our happiness. Whether it is in our relationship or career, we should insist on ourselves and be the leader of our own life. Of course, this does not mean that we have to completely reject others, but rather that we should build on mutual respect. Only by being truly independent can we find our own peace in this chaotic world.
Speaking of which, I can't help but think of another classic line: "The ultimate password to a happy life is to learn to love yourself". This sentence speaks to the essence of life. We are often taught to love and care for others. But the importance of the self is often overlooked. In fact, only when we truly love ourselves can we gain the inner strength to face everything calmly. Because you'll never be afraid of losing yourself.
Sometimes, we do feel sorry for what we once had. For example, emotional frustration, or career setbacks. But Huang Yimei's story tells us that what is lost never belongs to us. We only possess and keep them temporarily. So, we don't need to be sad about it, but we should cherish what we have now. Because what truly belongs to you will never be lost.
Thinking about it this way, I suddenly felt that there are many small blessings in life that we have overlooked. For example, the smile you can't hide when you see your beloved; Or the satisfaction of doing something you're passionate about. In fact, even if it is just a moment of happiness, it is worth cherishing. We need to learn to have fun in time and enjoy the good times in the present and not be bothered by the future.
However, in order to truly live a happy life, in addition to learning to love ourselves, we also need to have another important ability, which is financial independence. As it is said in the play, "As a woman, you must first strive for financial independence". Only with our own economic power can we truly control our own destiny and not be bound by others.
Remember that there is a good saying: if you depend on others for your life, then all your efforts will be in vain. Therefore, each of us should make the struggle for economic independence a top priority. Only in this way, when we encounter unsatisfactory things, can we have the right to choose and stride forward.
Of course, this does not mean that we have to completely abandon the past, after all, those things that have been experienced are also important factors in shaping our character. But the point is that we must not be imprisoned by the past, but learn to let go of it and focus on the present and the future. As Huang Yimei said, "The past is not important, the present and the future are the most important."
I think this is also the reason why Huang Yimei can live a wonderful life. She was never defeated by the failures of the past, but bravely looked forward and explained what it means to be "brave" with her actions. Many people believe that to be brave is to stop being afraid. But in reality, true bravery is to move forward with determination even if you are afraid, and to work hard for what you love.
This is the quality embodied in Huang Yimei. She has never been bound by the eyes of society, always insists on herself, and has the courage to face all kinds of challenges in life. Even at the age of forty, she still dared to pursue her own happiness, and this perseverance and courage are undoubtedly worth learning and emulating from each of us.
I believe that as long as we can keep a clear head and make our own choices bravely, like Huang Yimei, we will be able to find our own peace in this impetuous era. We should not be bound by the past and pin our happiness on others, but learn to love ourselves and cherish the good times of the present.
Perhaps, you will say that these all sound simple, but it is not easy to actually do it. But what I want to tell you is that if you put your mind to it, you can do it. As Huang Yimei said: "From now on, the world is in front of me, pointing to wherever I want to go." This is the goal of life that each of us should pursue.
So, don't be bound by the eyes of the world, and don't be shrouded in the gloom of the past. Let's learn to be independent, bravely face challenges, and write our own wonderful life in our own way!