In the world of love, we all crave each other's cherishment and passion. However, when men start snubbing you, have you ever been in a humble and flattering predicament? In fact, this will not really solve the problem, but may make him more alienated from you.
Rowe Herrick once said, "Passionate love never lasts." ”
So, once the man is not so in love with you, you need to adjust your state in time and don't let this cold relationship continue.
In short, when a man snubs you, it is useless to humble and flatter, and doing so will rekindle his enthusiasm.
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He's cold, and so are you
"If you bloom, the breeze will come." When a man starts to snub you, don't rush to please him, but learn to keep your posture.
You can try to reduce the frequency of contact with him so that he can feel the change in you. In the process, you may feel anxious and uneasy, but remember that you are fighting for dignity and respect for yourself.
As Shakespeare said, "Don't waste your time for someone who doesn't care about you." "Keep yourself in a good position and let him see that you are independent and strong.
Just like I watched a TV series, when the female protagonist faced the snub of the male protagonist, she did not choose to be humble and flattering, but chose not to contact the male protagonist anymore. In the end, the male protagonist turned around and took the initiative to call her, and the two rebuilt the old relationship.
02
Show a carefree attitude in front of him
When he snubs you, you have to show your freedom and charm in front of him. Not only should you not lose your self-confidence because of his neglect, but on the contrary, you should work harder to show your strengths and charm in front of him.
That is, you must show him that you can live well even if he snubs you.
Just like Jane Eyre in "Jane Eyre", when faced with Rochester's snubbing, she uses her free and useless actions to tell Rochester that she is not a person who can be easily ignored by others.
Eventually, Rochester was attracted to her charm and returned to her, and that's where the charm of a woman comes in.
03
Ruthlessly cut off contact with him for a while and give him some space
When he snubs you, you can ruthlessly cut ties with him for a while and give him some space to think about your relationship.
During this time, you can focus more on your life and work to make yourself more fulfilling and interesting. When he finds that you are no longer revolving around him, he will instead begin to reflect on his actions.
In books related to emotional puzzles, we often see the word "disconnection". In fact, disconnection does not mean that you should completely cut off contact with him, but to leave him some time and space to think about your relationship.
During this period of disconnection, you can still learn about his dynamics through social media or mutual friends, but you must not take the initiative to contact him.
In real life, many people rediscover each other's enthusiasm after a period of disconnection. They both found that when they were no longer so dependent on each other, the other person began to take the initiative to care for and pursue them.
04
Hang out with friends of the opposite sex who have a good relationship, and there are also people of the opposite sex
Why do you say that he is cold to you, and you still have to hang out with friends of the opposite sex who have a good relationship?
This is to let him see that your life is colorful, that your life does not only revolve around him, and that it is not impossible without him. When he realizes that you don't just focus on him, he will start to pay attention to you again.
And in the process of expanding your social circle, you can not only meet more like-minded friends, but also let you unconsciously improve your social skills.
Just like a friend of mine, when faced with her boyfriend's neglect, she did not choose to sink, but chose to actively expand her social circle.
She participated in various events and parties, met many new friends, and her career took a big turn. Eventually, her boyfriend was attracted to her change and came back to her.
05
Invest in upgrading yourself and keep yourself fresh
Whether it's love or career, never stop investing in yourself. Whether you're learning something new, developing a new skill, or changing the style of dressing, keep yourself fresh.
When he finds that you are getting better and better, he will naturally look at you again.
Many successful ladies know how to invest in themselves. They are constantly learning new knowledge and developing new skills to stay ahead of the curve in every aspect. Such women tend to attract more good men to pursue them.
Finally, remember: love is a two-way street. When you give for yourself, you also get more in return.
So, when a man snubs you, don't humbly please him, but learn to deal with it in the right way. Only then will you be able to rekindle his passion for you.
In short, love must pay attention to ways and means, rather than rushing forward with your eyes closed, so it is inevitable that you will fall and be injured, so no matter what point of view, everyone must learn to use the right way to manage their feelings.