Are you an i-person or an e-person?
MBTI testing that has taken the world by storm
It has become the "new business card" for many people
The so-called MBTI
Simply put, it is a test with a series of questions
Describe a person's personality in 4 letters
The MBTI classifies personality traits into:
Inversion (I) - Extraversion (E)
Sensation (S) - Intuition (N)
Thinking (T) - Emotion (F)
Judgment (J) - Perception (P)
4 sets of independent tendencies
On this basis, 16 types are formed by arranging and combining
There are for every type
Unique character traits and strengths
In addition to the MBTI test
Cartel 16PF, PDP, Enneagram, etc
It is also more popular online
Personality test
At first, the participants tested
Most of them are just treated as a little game
"Just play, don't take it seriously"
The test results are also mostly used in informal social settings
For example, sharing with friends
Finding "like-minded" on the web
But in recent years
The "value" of personality tests is constantly magnified
Like what
There are many fresh college students who have reported this
Found out during the job search process
In addition to setting up written examinations and interviews, many companies have set up written exams and interviews
Participation in a personality test is also required
Many students failed the test results
And miss out on the job you want
"I passed 3 rounds of interviews, and I ended up stuck in the personality test"
"I just finished the test and was notified that it does not meet the requirements of the intended position"
"The test results showed that I lacked motivation and ability to work under pressure"
……
△ The ideal career corresponding to the MBTI type 16 personality
Now, even children are being "pulled" in
Many self-media began to vigorously publicize it
With personality test results
Instructing parents to "improve the efficiency and effectiveness of parenting"
Should I let my child take a personality test?
Can personality tests really provide scientific parenting guidance?
Addressing these issues
There are different voices of discussion in society
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Personality tests lead to better "cognition"
One view is that personality tests can help parents get a general idea of their child's personality traits, so as to guide and educate them "with half the effort".
According to the test results, parents can follow their children's characteristics to help them better form habits, play to their strengths, and become the person they want to be.
For example, if a child is tested as an e-person, the following traits are met:
1. Socially active: likes to communicate and interact with others, and is socially active.
2. Be willing to express: express your thoughts and feelings through oral expression.
3. Learning through interaction: In a social environment, learning and absorbing knowledge is effective.
Then, parents can appropriately adjust parenting strategies to help children "get energy through interaction":
1. Support social needs: Encourage participation in social activities that are appropriate for them and provide them with more opportunities to interact.
2. Cultivate cooperation skills: help them learn to communicate and cooperate effectively with others.
3. Encourage verbal expression: Encourage them to think more and share their opinions and experiences.
4. Provide timely feedback and rewards: They love to get attention and praise, and timely feedback from parents is good for motivation.
In the same way, if the child is an I-person, it means that he is more accustomed to "obtaining energy through himself", which is mainly manifested in life, such as liking to be alone, talking less, loving introverted thinking, and concentrating.
Based on these characteristics, parents can adopt another set of ideas, such as valuing the establishment of intimate relationships with their children, giving them a sense of security and support, and making them feel understood and accepted; Encourage them to express their thoughts and feelings through writing, drawing, etc., and cultivate creativity and intrinsic motivation; Respect your child's pace of growth, give enough time to adapt to changes, and provide a quieter learning environment.
Children who are not defined can go further
But another argument is that children should not participate in personality tests.
From the perspective of psychology, "character" is a kind of behavioral tendency within an individual, which has the characteristics of holistic, structural, and lasting stability, which is unique to each person, and can provide a unified and internal explanation for the individual's explicit behavior and attitude.
And these so-called personality tests, which divide all people in the world into 16 types, are undoubtedly an oversimplification that lacks scientific validity.
At the same time, a person's personality is gradually formed, developed and changed in social practice activities on the basis of physiological qualities. For children who are still in the growth stage, their personality traits are not qualitative, and if they are only tested at a certain stage, the conclusions obtained are naturally one-sided and inaccurate.
What's even more dangerous is that personality test results can easily lead a person into a "fixed mindset".
Carol Dweck, a psychologist at Stanford University, coined the terms "fixed mindset" and "growth mindset," with the former seeing themselves as "immutable" and the latter not defining themselves in terms of who they are now.
In other words, a child who undergoes a personality test is tantamount to being "labeled" prematurely.
When parents look at their children in a fixed way of thinking and label their children as Type XX personalities, they may really be molded into the so-called "kind of people" by us. For example:
1. The child took a personality test, and after the test, he was identified as an "introverted personality".
2. As a parent, you have also begun to consciously pay attention to some so-called "introverted personality" manifestations on the Internet, and you have found that many of the descriptions are consistent with your child's usual behavior. As a result, you think that the child is really an "introvert".
3. In this mode of thinking, you will over-"interpret" some of your child's behavior, questioning your child's ability to socialize and learn. This kind of "distrust" will also exacerbate the child's wrong view of himself, believing that he is indeed an "introvert", so he is more and more reluctant to interact with others and gradually close himself.
It is difficult to "change" oneself with test results; But it's easy to "label" with test results.
The consequence of "labeling" is that children will become blind or ignorant of all the wrong labels, do not think about their "future self" and strive to grow, but are prone to justify their current mediocre performance by saying "I am a xx".
So the question is, why should children see themselves in a fixed way of thinking?
Children's personalities vary greatly: some children are gentle and quiet by nature and like to play on their own; Some children are naturally active and need to be accompanied by others and love to communicate with others......
As parents, we may not have to forcibly change their personalities to create a psychological burden of shame and guilt on our children.
Not bound by the labels of I people, E people, "social cows" and "social fears", any character can find the most suitable development path for themselves.
Do you give your child a personality test?
Do you think the test results are indicative?
Feel free to comment and discuss!