As the saying goes, "the girl who marries out, splashes the water", and when the spring is married, the "water" is splashed out.
"Water" poured into the Sun family, and Yingchun's father, Jia Yu, married Yingchun to Sun Shaozu. This Sun family is a person from Datong Mansion, his ancestor was born as a military officer, and he was a protégé of Ning Rong Mansion that day. It is also a family friend. In other words, the Sun family and the Jia family are comparable, which is called a good match.
The family formed by this kind of marriage is relatively stable. Theoretically, we are opposed to the so-called right door. Marriage pays attention to true love, two people love each other, and the family formed by this kind of marriage is truly stable. But reality is not taken for granted, life is not all woven of sweetness and happiness. The children of a common people's family, because of true love, marry the children of a wealthy family, and the resulting family is relatively less stable. "True love" has a shelf life, and as time goes on, the so-called "true love" will pale and weak. What's more, in feudal society, marriage is determined by "the order of parents and the words of the matchmaker", where does "true love" come from?
Sun Shaozu and Jia Yingchun had never met before they got married, let alone getting to know each other, let alone saying anything about "true love". As Jia Yingchun, she can only "marry a chicken with a chicken, marry a dog with a dog".
Is Sun Shaozu a "chicken" or a "dog"? There is only one person in the Sun family in Beijing, that is, this Sun Shaozu, he is currently the commander of the Beijing Division, he is born with a burly appearance, a strong physique, a skilled bow and horse, a change in social power, less than thirty years old, and a wealthy family, and now the military department is vacant and promoted.
Sun Shaozu is not only "rich and handsome", but also waiting for promotion, and has an excellent "political future". It is said that a "political youth" like Sun Shaozu, who proposes marriage or proposes marriage in front of the door, should form a long queue, but why did he just fall in love with Jia Yingchun?
"Gao Fu Shuai" should be matched with "cold whitening". Yingchun is cowardly, rarely talks, does not talk to people casually, and has a three-point "cold" factor in his character. If you want to say "whitening", Yingchun has slightly plump skin, a middle figure, new lily cheeks, greasy goose fat, gentle and silent, amiable to watch, is the sixth hairpin in the twelve hairpins of Jinling, of course, it can be regarded as "beautiful".
On the other hand, it can be said that there are not a few beauties who are "queuing up outside the door" of Sun Shaozu, who are as beautiful as welcoming spring, or even more beautiful than welcoming spring. From this point of view, Sun Shaozu is not greedy for the beauty of Yingchun, and he has never seen Yingchun before marriage. He should be tempted by the family power and status of the Jia family, and the later facts are enough to prove this - Jia's house was raided, the knight was cut, Jia pardoned the prison from afar, and the snobbish Sun Shaozu was not allowed to return to his parents' house to bid farewell to his father, saying that he should not stain the bad luck of the Jia family. Yingchun couldn't twist it, and cried for two or three days at Sun's house. When he learned that Jia Zheng had attacked again, Sun Shaozu agreed to go back to his parents' house for a walk.
In other words, at that time, the power and status of the Jia family could play a role in Sun Shaozu's promotion. In Sun Shaozu's plan, he believed that the Jia family would have a good influence on his political future.
As for Jia Yu, seeing that Sun Shaozu was the son and nephew of the world, and his character and family were commensurate, he chose Qingmu as the son-in-law of the east bed. How do you know that Jia Yu married another secret story, he borrowed 5,000 silver from Sun Shaozu at the beginning, but in fact, he used his daughter to pay off the debt of 5,000 silver.
As for Mrs. Xing, Yingchun is not her biological daughter, and besides, she was already afraid of Jia Yu, and she didn't even dare to disobey Jia Yu's desire to take Mandarin Duck as a concubine, but personally matched her husband. Now that she encountered this matter of marrying a daughter, of course, she didn't dare to disobey in the slightest, so she could only completely let Jia Yu manipulate her.
With such parents, what will be the good outcome of the marriage in the spring?
Originally, the person who took the helm of this marriage should not be an outsider, even if Yingchun's parents and Yingchun themselves should be in charge of their fate. But in feudal society, women are like a withered leaf in the water of the Taotao River, and they can only let the wind and waves blow, who knows where they will drift? Like the lotus flower in the autumn wind, the "red jade shadow" will eventually be buried deep under the frost.
Of course, the parents of Jia Yu and Mrs. Xing can only be regarded as an exception. The sky is so big, most parents still hope that their children can live a good life, or hope that their children can have a happy marriage. Both parents are from the past and know the importance of the family to their children's marriage and family. In real life, many children who do not pay attention to the right family and follow their personal wishes to choose marriage, the family after marriage is not happy, and the relationship between husband and wife is not lasting, so they regret not listening to their parents at the beginning and choosing a family with a comparable family.
However, this is not a sufficient reason for parents to interfere in their children's marriages. Once parents interfere with their children's pursuit of "true love" in marriage, the tragedy caused is immediate. Children will be martyred for "true love", and once it develops to this point, it must be the parents who are referred to by the thousands of people, and such parents will pay for their involvement and arrangement. On the other hand, if the parents fulfill the marriage in which their children pursue "true love", the misfortune after the marriage will be a matter of the future.
Obviously, Yingchun's marriage is the result of Jia Yu and Mrs. Xing's rampage and arrangement.
For this family business, Jia's mother is not very satisfied in her heart. Jia Zheng hated the Sun family, although the two families were world friends, but Sun Shaozu's grandfather admired Rongning's momentum back then, and there was something that could not be resolved, so he worshiped under Rongning, and Sun Shaozu was not a descendant of the famous family of poetry. Jia Zheng also persuaded twice, but Jia Yu didn't listen.
Baoyu heard that Yingchun was going to marry into the Sun family, and the day of marriage was very urgent, and saw that Yingchun had been taken out of the Grand View Garden, and became more and more disappointed, demented every day, I don't know what to do, and I heard that I had to accompany the four girls to the past, and I fell to the bottom and said: "From now on, there will be five less pure people in this world." He came to Zilingzhou to welcome spring, saw that the window was lonely, the screen tent was bright, and people went to the empty house, and couldn't help but sigh: "The pond is cold in autumn overnight, blowing away the red jade shadow of the lotus." The knotweed water chestnut leaves are not sad, and the frost is heavy and the stalk is pressed. "Qingwen's death has dealt a big blow to Baoyu, and now that Yingchun is going to marry again, how can he not be sad?
However, the marriage is "ordered by the parents", and the feelings and attitudes of others do not matter, and the wishes of Jia Yu and Mrs. Xing are the key to determining this marriage. Like most children who have been arranged in marriages, Yingchun did not resist. She was powerless to resist and could only resign herself to fate.
married to the Sun family's Yingchun, of course, life is unbearable, and he often "wipes tears from his eyes behind his back". Her nurse came to greet Mrs. Wang, and suggested that Yingchun "take her home and wander for two days", and Mrs. Wang also had this intention.
The unhappy marriage is sympathetic, and the nurse who welcomes the spring, Baoyu, and Mrs. Wang all sympathize with the spring. Sympathy is sympathy, and who of them can do it? The only thing that can be done is to take Yingchun back for a few days, and hide for a few days, and nothing else can be helped.
But even if it was to take back the Spring Festival, it was also Mrs. Wang's worry about the arrangement, and Jia Yu and Mrs. Xing didn't pay attention to it. Yingchun, who was picked up, only regarded Mrs. Wang as a relative, and she cried and complained about her grievances in Mrs. Wang's room, saying that Sun Shaozu "is blindly lustful, gambling and drinking, and all the daughters-in-law and girls in the family will be lewd." Yingchun persuaded her two or three times, and Sun Shaozu scolded her for being "twisted out of the vinegar juice wife", "Don't be a lady with me, your old man made me 5,000 silver and sold you to me at a discount." Okay, take a beating and fall asleep in the lower room. ”
It seems that Yingchun suffered humiliation in the Sun family. Until now, not to mention that the mother's family will definitely not follow, it will have already made a big fuss at the in-law's family, and it is estimated that the son-in-law will be beaten; The daughter-in-law alone can't be provoked, once the trouble starts, unexpected means will be used, and even more often threaten divorce at every turn. Today's divorce rate remains high, which may be one of the reasons.
Yingchun's mother's family has no one to be angry for her. Under the poison of the feudal ideology of "one woman does not marry two men", the already cowardly Yingchun never thought of resisting in order to change his fate.
Mrs. Wang could only use words to persuade to welcome the spring. The wood is already in the boat, what can she do, she can't instigate Yingchun to divorce, right? In feudal society, there is only the theory that a husband divorces his wife, and there is no precedent for a wife to abandon her husband. Even if there is, Yingchun can't take this step, and Rongguo Mansion doesn't allow her to take this step, and the Jia family "can't afford to lose this person". Even in today's society, most outsiders are persuaded to agree and not to leave. Therefore, Mrs. Wang said, "Young couples, fighting teeth is also a common thing for ordinary people."
Yingchun returned to her Zilingzhou house and lived for three days, and then went to Mrs. Xing's side for another two days, and Sun Shaozu's people took her back. Yingchun returned to Sun's house and returned to the demon cave. Mrs. Xing acted like nothing and didn't take it to heart. If it wasn't for the flesh on her body, how could she pity and sympathize with Yingchun? It was Mrs. Wang, who raised the Spring Festival, but she was very sad, but she could only sigh once in her room. Although the power of the Jia family is still there, she can't do anything.
Only Baoyu had a whim, he told Mrs. Wang: "Let's simply go back to the old lady, take the second sister back, and call her to live in Zilingzhou, still our sisters and brothers eat together and play together, so as to save the anger of the Sun family's bastards, and wait for him to pick her up, we won't let her go." He will pick it up a hundred times, and we will keep it a hundred times, just say that it is the old lady's idea. "Baoyu seems to be a native of Peach Blossom Spring, detached from the real society. But if he has such a "beautiful" idea, there will be no one else, which may be regarded as his anti-feudal consciousness.
In feudal society, the fate of women seems to be as it should be. After Jia Zheng learned about the situation of Yingchun, he sighed: "I knew that it was not the right one, but the eldest master had already made up his mind, and he couldn't teach me." It's just that the girl has been wronged. The sentence "suffer some grievances" has become a grandiose reason to ignore Yingchun, which is also the embarrassing situation of women in feudal society. As Jia Zheng said: "It's not good to give birth to a daughter, and it's still someone else's family." In other words, when the daughter gets married, the water spills out, and it is difficult to collect the water. He turned to Baoyu and said, "If you don't have a good child, the relationship is not shallow." In other words, daughters and sons are not only different, but worlds apart. Daughters, sons, people from other people's families, and people from their own families, it is obvious which is more important. It's no surprise that Yingchun doesn't get real love.
In addition, Sun Shaozu's nature is like this, he is a wolf in the mountains, a ruthless head, blindly arrogant, lascivious, greedy and happy. Looking at that, Hou Menyan is the same as Pu Liu; is cheap, and the daughter of the government seems to be obscene. According to the person who married in Jiafu: "There was a fuss before, the girl cried all night, yesterday the phlegm was blocked, and they didn't invite a doctor, and today it is even worse." "Welcoming spring, this piece of dead leaves floating in the river and sea, I don't know where it will sink in the end; This "red jade shadow" in the autumn pond will eventually suffocate in the frost and dew.
Yingchun died, and it seems that he died of illness. But "they didn't invite a doctor", which shows that "there was a fuss before" must have been ravaged and tortured by Sun Shaozu in the Spring Festival. In this case, what kind of disease can only be seen by heaven. Yingchun's verdict is: "The sub-line is a mountain wolf, and the ambition is rampant." Golden boudoir willow, a load to sorghum. ”
In the Spring Festival, a princess married into the Sun family, but was abused to death by her husband Sun Shaozu. Her fate is the epitome of the many women with thin lives in "Dream of Red Mansions", and at the same time the fate of oppressed and destroyed women in the entire feudal society.