In the second brush of "The Story of Rose", seeing Fu Jiaming and Huang Yimei, the soulmates, made me smile like an aunt throughout the whole process, their love, handsome men and beautiful women, playing the piano, painting, traveling, beautiful like paintings.
But after thinking about it carefully, these two people will one day, get married, and when they land on firewood, rice, oil and salt, they will probably become a pair of resentful couples.
Even the life of Yishu, the author of "The Story of Roses", is no exception. When she was young, she fell in love with the painter Cai Haoquan, she was crazy in love, regardless of the strong opposition of her parents, she had a big belly, and she was forced to die.
After being beaten by reality, Yishu experienced it carefully, so he wrote in the original book "The Story of the Rose": How can the life of two people be an art, it is simply building the Great Wall, a difficult project.
That's why Fu Jiaming passed away, Huang Yimei couldn't do it because of love, playing the piano left by Fu Jiaming, riding Fu Jiaming's locomotive, and locking Fu Jiaming in her heart for the rest of her life. In fact, this is the screenwriter's biggest malice towards Huang Yimei.
Many women will ask, what exactly is a soulmate?
Soul mates are probably similar souls, have the same three views, and have the same interests, emphasizing a deep fit and emotional resonance and attraction. It's like in love, or lovers who can't love it, or extramarital couples. There is no firewood, rice, oil and salt, there is no triviality of life, only wind and snow, you and I are nong, and the sea and the mountains are alliance.
But when soulmates are truly implemented into a specific married life, they will face various challenges in reality, and sometimes it seems that they are really "chicken feathers". Because soulmates start out in a love relationship, soulmates enter marriage and become a social relationship.
To be honest, marriage is a complex social relationship, involving the differences in family backgrounds, educational experiences, living habits, values, communication methods and problem-solving, and the pros and cons of human nature.
Indeed, after getting married, it is difficult to have the state of soul mate.
Many people will also ask, then it would be good if I had money?
Our family can hire a nanny and a driver, the two of us are still soul mates, maybe everyone overestimates the value of money, money can play a little role, but it really can't play a decisive role, just like many celebrities, many rich people, isn't it also because of love into marriage, because of the triviality of marriage and fall apart?
Many women will ask, so what should I do?
There are no great people by the pillow, and there is no scenery nearby! Since there is no soul mate in marriage, women should maintain a great mentality towards marriage, that is, no desire is rigid.
Learn to respect each other's unique personalities and embrace each other's differences, rather than trying to change them. Allow the other person to have their own social circle and interests. It is necessary to communicate frequently, continue to express love, and cultivate common interests and hobbies, rather than excessive pursuit of material comforts.
However, this is easier said than done!
It's not easy! Even Mr. Zhou Guoping said: "Love is only a matter of feelings, marriage is the result of the cooperation of feelings, reason and will, and the ideal relationship between husband and wife is a lover, a friend, and a partner in one, with the warmth of a lover, the tolerance of a friend and the thoughtfulness of a partner." If one of the three is missing, it is a bit of a fly in the ointment. However, since many marriages in the world are all three, if you can have one of the three, you should be content!
Women, once they enter love and marriage, no matter at any time, do not have the thinking of the weak, the general committee is bent and complete, eager to pay attention to affirmation, hope that others will provide emotional value, and habitually find external causes. The best way to live is to enrich yourself and please yourself, as for men and love, then cherish fate and do not climb, this is the true taste of love and marriage.