As the Mid-Autumn Festival in 2024 approaches, it seems that every family should be reunited and happy.
But in real life, it is inevitable that some unexpected family conflicts and disputes will occur.
For example, in the case described in the article, the will left behind after the death of his father became the source of the dispute between the eldest sister Wen Hui and the second sister Wen Yan.
The father divided the family property equally among the two daughters, but this was contrary to the wishes of the mother who left first.
The mother had hoped to leave the entire inheritance to her eldest daughter, Wen Hui, because she gave the most care to her mother in her later years. On his deathbed, the father suddenly changed his mind and decided to divide the family property into two shares.
Although the father made this decision out of filial care for his second daughter Wen Yan in the last years of her life, it was obviously difficult for the eldest daughter Wen Hui to accept this.
As soon as the father's memorial service ended, the two sisters had a violent quarrel and conflict over this testamentary issue.
In the face of this family dispute, Wen Jie, as the youngest son in the family, felt a lot.
On the one hand, he knows that the dispute between his sisters is not simply about the distribution of property, but more about the different understanding of his parents' wishes before his death.
On the other hand, he also hopes to resolve conflicts and restore harmony between his family.
On that breezy night, Wen Jie tries to separate the two sisters and persuade them to calm down and think about each other's positions.
He reminded the sisters that their parents' wills were nothing more than an interpretation of their children's last love, and that we should not lose our minds because of this.
Although the dispute was temporarily subsided by Wen Jie's dissuasion, the haze that permeated the air could not completely dissipate. The sisters' relationship has since become particularly strained and distant.
In the days that followed, Wen Jie has been trying to repair the rift between the eldest sister and the second sister. He has managed to arrange family gatherings, dinners for three, etc.
Hoping to bridge the gap between the two, each time it ended in failure. The sisters are like strangers, and they can't avoid each other.
Just when this kind of family conflict is not resolved, the Mid-Autumn Festival is quietly coming. The traditional Mid-Autumn Festival family reunion dinner has naturally become a problem.
The eldest sister and the second sister respectively invited Wen Jie to their respective homes for the holiday, which put Wen Jie in a dilemma.
After careful consideration, Wen Jie and her husband finally made a compromise decision: go to the eldest sister's house at noon and the second sister's house at night.
While this arrangement is undoubtedly a bit tiring, at least it doesn't completely snub either side.
Sure enough, in the process of going to the two families separately, Wen Jie felt a deep embarrassment. Although the eldest sister and the second sister prepared sumptuous holiday delicacies for them in their respective homes, they always avoided the topic of sisterly disputes intentionally or unintentionally during the conversation, and the atmosphere was particularly rusty.
Wen Jie sincerely hopes that the sisters can let go of their prejudices, let go of their past misunderstandings, and regain their family affection. However, the reality of the moment makes this expectation seem more and more elusive and unattainable.
So, on the night of the Mid-Autumn Festival, Wen Jie silently prayed for the eldest sister and the second sister: I hope that one day, they can truly understand each other's positions, resolve differences, and regain the deep affection of sisters whose blood is thicker than water.
Family strife is truly heart-wrenching and helpless. On the face of it, this is just a trivial matter about the distribution of inheritance.
However, careful and in-depth study often stems from everyone's different understandings and pursuits of family affection, responsibility and love.
As presented in this article, the eldest sister and the second sister had a disagreement because of the discrepancy in the wishes of their parents before their deaths.
This disagreement does not only stop at property, but also reflects their different perceptions of the family ties of parent-child and siblings.
Family conflicts are often not solved overnight, and each party needs to have an open mind and a tolerant attitude to be resolved. The key is to understand each other and tolerate each other's differences.
As outsiders, we don't have the right to comment too much on the merits. But if we look at this from a neutral perspective, we may be able to see some opportunities to break the impasse.
The eldest sister Wen Hui is certainly dissatisfied with her father for going against her previous mother's wishes, but we cannot deny that her father's decision is out of affirmation of the filial care of the second sister Wen Yan in her later years.
As the eldest daughter, Wen Hui naturally has the right to claim inheritance and other rights and interests, but she should also think about whether her father has other intentions in deciding like this?
And although the second sister Wen Yan won her father's approval and received half of the inheritance, should she also reflect on whether she also hurt Wen Hui's feelings as the eldest daughter while claiming the inheritance?
After all, the source of the will is the father's personal will, but in the process of implementation, is there more room for communication between sisters to reach a consensus?
From this, we can see that the reason for the dispute between the two sisters is largely due to the failure of both parties to fully understand each other's situation and psychology.
Wen Hui adheres to traditional concepts and ignores reality, and Wen Yan is too rigid to insist that the original text of the will is not modified.
Perhaps, if the two can be more considerate and compromising with each other, and reconsider the details of the implementation of the will in a calm and pragmatic manner, they will have the opportunity to find a solution that best of both worlds and avoid falling into endless quarrels.
What is more important in life than harmony between family members? Whether a family is harmonious or not is directly related to everyone's mental health and quality of life.
Therefore, as the youngest son in the family, Wen Jie should play the role of a mediator, patiently and meticulously guide the two sisters, so that they realize the value of family harmony, and take the initiative to make some concessions and efforts for it.
After all, the material heritage will eventually be endless, but the love of family is an eternal and precious spiritual wealth that should be cared for.
As relatives, we should have more love and mutual understanding in our lifetimes, and less quarrels over small losses.