Writer Liu Tong has a sentence that is impressive:
"Don't pin your hopes on others in anything, whether it's feelings or work, otherwise the only result is to be caught off guard."
Yes, when I was young, I thought that all over the world were friends, but when I encountered difficulties, I found out:
No matter how big someone else's umbrella is, it can't stop the rain on our heads.
Instead of counting on others, you should elevate yourself.
The military ministers in the following historical materials understand this truth very well.
(1) Historical stories
"Zizhi Tongjian" Qin Ji
The first year of Emperor II (壬辰, 209 BC)
Chen Sheng sent Zhou Wen to the west to attack the Qin state.
Zhou Wen recruited troops all the way, and before he arrived at Hangu Pass, he already had thousands of chariots and hundreds of thousands of foot soldiers.
Hearing the news, Qin II finally woke up and hurriedly asked his ministers about the coping strategy.
Shaofu Zhang Han suggested: "The army of the anti-thieves is approaching, and there are many of them, and it is too late to recruit troops from the surrounding counties.
However, there were many prisoners serving sentences in Lishan, and it was suggested that His Majesty pardon them and issue them weapons so that they could go to fight the rebels head-on. ”
The others did not speak, and Qin II only had this one plan.
So, he gave amnesty to the world and ordered Zhang Han to take an army of prisoners to fight against the Chu army.
Zhang Chujun was defeated.
At this time, Zhang Er and Chen Yu had just arrived in Handan, and heard that Zhou Wen had been defeated and retreated, and at the same time heard that many generals who had attacked the city and plundered land for Chen Sheng had been killed for slander after returning to Chen County.
So, the two persuaded the military minister to establish himself as king.
In August, Wuchen established himself as the king of Zhao, appointed Chen Yu as the general, Zhang Er as the left prime minister, and sent people to report to Chen Sheng.
When Chen Sheng learned of this, he was furious and planned to kill Wuchen's family and send troops to attack Zhao.
Shangzhu Guofang Jun dissuaded: "At the moment when the Qin State has not yet been destroyed, killing Wuchen and others will only establish another enemy, which is no different from establishing a Qin State.
We might as well push the boat down the river, congratulate him, and urge him to send troops to attack Qin as soon as possible. ”
Chen Sheng felt that it was very reasonable, so he brought the families of Wuchen and others into the palace, and named Zhang Er's son Zhang Ao as the king of Chengdu, and sent a messenger to congratulate the new king of Zhao and urge him to send troops to attack Qin.
Zhang Er and Chen Yu said to King Zhao: "It was not Chen Sheng's original intention for you to become King Zhao, and it is just a ploy to congratulate you now."
Once Zhang Chu eliminated the Qin State, they would definitely point the finger at the Zhao State.
Therefore, we hope that the king will not march westward, but to occupy the lands of Yan and Dai to the north, and Hanoi to the south to expand our territory.
In this way, Zhao had the Yellow River as a barrier in the south, and Yan and Dai in the north, even if Zhang Chu destroyed the Qin State, he would not dare to make a move against Zhao easily.
If Zhang Chu can't destroy the Qin State, then Chen Sheng will need to rely on us even more. ”
Wuchen was deeply impressed, so he suspended the attack on Qin and sent Han Guang to attack Yan, Li Liang to attack Changshan, and Zhang Huang to attack Shangdang.
(2) Analysis
Wu Chen's decision was quite wise.
It's better to rely on others than on yourself, not to mention, Chen Sheng has already told him with practical actions that he can't be trusted.
In the early stage, he killed the loyal minister Ge Ying, as well as more unknown subordinates who listened to slander and killed.
Chen Sheng's actions have already made people feel cold.
Wu Chen's choice to go it alone at this time was a helpless move, and it was also the best way out.
The idea of Zhang Er and Chen Yu's plan is actually the same as the idea of Kong Kui in the previous article.
"If you don't rely on the enemy, you can't attack me, and you can't attack if you don't trust me."
Kong Kun's suggestion was to tell Chen Sheng that he couldn't think that the Qin State would not attack me, but that I would do everything I could and not be afraid of him coming.
When I got to Zhang Er and Chen Yu, I changed the subject.
I can't think that Chen Sheng won't attack me, but I have done everything I can and am not afraid of him coming.
Chen Sheng didn't listen, but Wu Chen did.
Therefore, the attack on Qin was stopped, the main force was placed in the north, and the attack on Yandi began.
It can be seen that Wu Chen still has discernment.
He understood this truth: don't leave the choice to others, it is better to rely on others than on yourself.
In this world, no one is responsible for your life, except yourself.
It's okay to be poor, but people can't be short-minded.
Friedrich Nietzsche famously said, "He who cannot obey his own orders must be ordered by others."
This sounds a bit harsh, but when you think about it, it makes sense.
To be attached to others means to act according to the faces of others.
So, if you don't work hard, don't blame others for casting contemptuous glances.
After all, life does not favor anyone who does not work hard.
In this life, you should never expect to rely on others.
If someone else helps you, then you will have a personal debt, and it will be difficult to repay it in the future.
A lot of people put too much emphasis on connections.
In fact, when you haven't reached a higher level, networking is not valuable
The so-called connections are by no means obtained by pursuit, but attracted by their own talents.
It's like a magnet, you have enough charm for others to want to approach you.
The real network is how many people want to know you, not how many people you know.
If you're not good enough, how can others want to look at you more?
Therefore, the network is not in other people's bodies, but in one's own body.
Only by making yourself strong can you gain real connections.
In this life, the only person who can accompany us to the end is ourselves.
Therefore, the best investment object is yourself.
Write at the end:
Lu Xun wrote in "Little Miscellaneous Feelings":
The man downstairs was sick to death, and the family next door was singing on the gramophone; On the other side is to get the kids. There were two people upstairs laughing maniacally; There is also the sound of playing cards. There was a woman on the boat in the river crying for her dead mother. The joys and sorrows of human beings are not the same, I just think they are noisy.
Yes, there is no real empathy, no matter how good other people are, it has nothing to do with us.
The only one who can be relied on is himself.
May we:
At all times, you can strive to shine on your own, not be illuminated.
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