#长文创作激励计划#昨天看了一篇文章, it shocked me to say that my menopausal mother committed suicide. Because I am also in menopause, and I have been writing articles about menopause, a netizen once left me a message, encouraging me to keep writing and speak up for women, and also said that female friends who have menopause committed suicide because they could not get the understanding of their families.
I have seen female friends who commit suicide in menopause again and again, which shocks me and makes me feel sorry.
Why am I writing about menopause? That's because last year I was tormented by menopausal symptoms, and I wondered if I had something serious. But I didn't know that this was a symptom of menopause, and no one gave me the knowledge of menopause, and I was worried every day, and I scared myself half to death.
I am 54 years old, and it has been four years since I entered menopause at the age of 50, and it was the first stage of menopause, premenopause, and the second stage of menopause, and now I have been out of menopause for six months, probably the third stage of menopause, postmenopause.
Looking at my four years of menopausal syndrome, but it was last year, when I was 53 years old, the menopausal symptoms were the most severe, when morning stiffness was the most severe, and the most critical thing was that I didn't know about menopause at that time.
The first stage of menopause was premenopause, that is, when I was 50 years old, when I was 50 years old, when the epidemic of the Spring Festival in 2020 was closed.
In February, my menstrual period was disordered, and that month's menstrual period did not stop for half a month, and my menstruation had never been like this before, it ended in a week, but it has been half a month and there is no sign of stopping.
What can I do? I can't go to the hospital again, is there any gynecological disease? It was also accompanied by a slight numbness of the hand, and I thought it was playing with my mobile phone, but it was very annoying to menstruate every day, but I was afraid that there was some gynecological disease.
That night, I had a whim, try moxibustion? I tried moxibustion Shenque acupoint Guan Yuan acupoint, purely a blind cat caught the dead mouse, and the result was as I wished, and menstruation stopped the next day.
Since then, menstruation has returned to normal and the slight numbness in the hands has disappeared.
Until the end of 2022, menstruation did not come in December, and menstruation began to be disordered from this time, that is, at that time, the menopause, the second stage of menopause.
Menstruation stopped for a month in December, menstruation came normal again in January and February 2023, menstruation stopped for another month in March, menstruation stopped for another month in April, and menstruation stopped for a month or two months, and came and went and stopped and stopped until menstruation was completely messed up.
With the disorder of menstruation, I don't know when I started to get up in the morning with numbness in my two hands, at first the numbness of the hands was slight, and then the numbness of the hands became more and more serious unconscious, and when I found out, the hands were numb and almost unconscious.
Last year, I was still working in the store, and every morning when I woke up, my hands were numb and stiff, so I rubbed my hands, clenched my fists, and let go of the back and forth activities, and I couldn't move.
Washing your face and brushing your teeth in the morning is a big project, raising your hand and raising your arm, your right hand is so numb that you are almost unconscious, and then it is connected to the small arm and then extended to the big arm, and then to the shoulder, and the pain and numbness of this line are presented.
The symptoms on the left arm are milder, and the numbness and pain on the right arm are not my arms, and they just want to cut off the arm, and the arm is not strong, very, very uncomfortable, and the heart is very anxious, and this symptom lasts until the summer of August.
Because of the discomfort of my arm, I was very irritable, and the symptoms could not be alleviated by daily activities, so I began to think crankily, is it hemiplegia or cerebral infarction? What can I do? This body is so good, why is it suddenly like this?
What if something is serious? What am I going to do? I can't worry all day long, I scared myself half to death, the main thing is that I still didn't know menopause at that time.
Physically uncomfortable and psychologically stressed, I became more and more irritable, and my husband urged me to go to the doctor every day.
But I'm afraid to go to the hospital, what department should I go to? What should I do if I get seriously ill? Am I still young? Why is this all of a sudden? I'm not reconciled.
Just when I was hesitating to go to the hospital for a check-up, I suddenly found out on the Internet, and an expert said that this is a menopausal symptom.
"Menopause is not a disease, menopause will heal itself."
I am skeptical of this sentence, after all, those symptoms are uncomfortable in the body, how can they say that they will disappear and disappear?
My husband is still urging me to go to the doctor, I am still hesitating, I am afraid to go to the hospital, I am also afraid of taking medicine, I said to my husband: "Give me a week, I will try to see if I can reduce it, if it is not light, I will go to the hospital immediately."
What I thought at the time was that since menopause would heal itself and get better, I would try cupping if my shoulder hurts, so I would cupping my shoulder and arm at home every night, only two or three at a time.
Calm down, after a few days of cupping, the symptoms have been reduced, I don't know if it is the effect of cupping, or it should heal itself, and then it really gradually improved.
It was because I lacked knowledge of menopause and didn't know anything about menopause that I scared myself half to death.
In the second half of 2023, these symptoms of pain and numbness have not completely disappeared, and all kinds of inexplicable emotional problems have rushed in, such as depression, lack of desire, self-doubt, and short temper.
Symptoms such as depression, worry, lack of desire, self-doubt, and irritability will continue until the Spring Festival in 2024.
If at this stage, the self is not rescued, and the family no longer understands the blow, it is really easy to suffer from depression and even commit suicide.
People who have not experienced it can't feel that kind of pain, because those depression and unhappy emotional problems are different from usual, it is because of the physiological phenomena brought about by menopause before and after, not their own reasons, but if they are not careful, they will lose everything.
I also fell into depression last year, and I also felt that life was boring, I was depressed every day, I was not interested in anything, and I was very annoyed by what I saw.
My husband didn't understand me either, I remember that I had a big fight with my husband, and we were so quarrelsome that no one paid attention to anyone for a few days, and I felt that life was really boring.
At this time, it was my son who stood on my side, comforting me and persuading me, my son didn't know about menopause, but he stood in my perspective and said that his father made his father understand me more and care about me, at that moment, I felt that my son was with me and cared about me.
Under the persuasion of my son, my husband was no longer aggressive and showed a very tolerant attitude towards me, really at this time, the attitude of the family is very important.
What did we quarrel about, but then I thought about it was actually my reason, my husband's relatives got married, and my husband didn't have time to go, so he asked me to go to the wedding, but I was in the menopausal symptoms, I didn't want to see anyone, and I didn't want to see anyone, so I didn't want to go at all.
If I usually go to the wedding, but last year I had serious emotional problems, so I didn't want to go out, no one wanted to see it, what bothered me, why would I go to the wedding?
If it weren't for my son in the middle of the persuasion, I really don't know what the consequences would be? I just wanted to go out and hide in the mountains and forests.
The care and understanding of the family are very important at this moment, and a heart-warming gesture can save lives.
My son is unconditionally on my side, saying that if I don't go, I won't go, so what's the matter, his father said that we won't go to other people's weddings, and people won't come when you get married, and my son won't come if he says he won't come, and I won't say anything.
It was precisely because my son was unconditionally on my side that my husband and I reconciled, really, at that moment my son was warmer than my husband.
After the severe menopausal symptoms last year, I can really understand those menopausal female friends who commit suicide, and when she has all kinds of inexplicable problems, her family should give more care and love.
Even if you can't understand it, don't hit it, and don't stimulate it. People who haven't experienced it can't experience that kind of pain, but just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
But some people ridicule menopause as idle, some people ridicule it as too hypocritical, and some people say that people in the past have never heard of menopause every day.
However, menopause varies from person to person, and some people just have no symptoms, but that is a very small minority, most people have some menopausal symptoms to a greater or lesser extent, and of course, there are a small number of people who are unwilling to admit even if they have menopausal symptoms.
Just like me, I never thought that there would be such serious menopausal symptoms, and I was complacent about my late menopause, I heard that women with late menopause look young, but I don't know that the more menopausal women are, the more serious the menopausal symptoms, that is to suffer a lot.
When my sister was in menopause, her insomnia was very serious, her body was very, very poor, her face was black and blue.
It took more than a year to stop taking Chinese medicine from a doctor, and at that time, my sister couldn't go to work, so she had to quit her job and go home to rest.
My sister's second sister-in-law suffered from depression during menopause, and she also took medicine for several years.
But I only know about female friends who commit suicide in menopause on the Internet, I haven't seen it in reality, I was really surprised to see such a thing yesterday, for the first time, a netizen left me a message, encouraging me to insist on writing articles about menopause, to promote menopause more, to have more people understand menopause, that is, someone committed suicide, I didn't care much at that time, but when I saw the article about suicide due to menopause yesterday, I was very shocked and very uncomfortable.
Because I am also a victim of severe menopausal symptoms, I have this article to show up, and I hope to be more tolerant of the women around me who are about 50 years old.