1. In 1976, Xia Yu was born in an ordinary family in Qingdao, Shandong. However, there is something special about the composition of this family. His father was a theatrical performer, not only good at drama, but also at drawing. My mother was an ordinary woman with no education, who made a living by selling small parts on the side of the alley. The couple has little common language with each other and often argues over trivial matters
The burdens of life and frequent quarrels quickly drain the feelings between husband and wife. When Xia Yu was only three years old, his parents divorced. After the divorce, Xia Yu's whereabouts became a thorny issue. The mother was anxious to remarry and did not want to take this "drag oil bottle" with her; In order to chase his dream of being a painter, his father went north early, leaving his young son behind.
In this way, the little summer rain was sent to my aunt's house. However, my aunt's home was not a warm haven. My aunt has a short temper, and even if she treats the young Xia Yu, her attitude is not good. There, Xia Yu was often scolded by her aunt, feeling aggrieved and not understood.
The young Xia Yu longed for his father's love and often wrote letters to his father who was far away, hoping to be reunited. However, these anticipatory letters were never answered. In the dead of night, Xiao Xia Yu always thought: "When I grow up, I must stay away from this old witch, she is too eccentric." In his young heart, his aunt only scolded him, not her own daughter, which is a clear proof of partiality.
However, as she grew older, Xia Yu gradually realized her aunt's good intentions. Although the way may be a little rough, the aunt is really doing her best to take care of this "superfluous" child. This experience at his aunt's house has become an indelible memory in Xia Yu's life, and it has also deeply affected his future personality and way of doing things.
This broken childhood experience left a deep scar on Xia Yu. The lack of parental love, the bitterness of being forced to send people under the fence, and the longing and disappointment of family affection have all become shadows in his heart and affect the trajectory of his future life.
In 1994, 18-year-old Xia Yu ushered in a turning point in his life. This year, the famous director Jiang Wen cast for the movie "Sunny Day". In order to find a suitable young star, the crew launched a huge national "recruitment".
Xia Yu's father, Xia Chaochen, who was studying painting in Beijing at the time, was attracted by this recruitment. He found that his son's conditions fit perfectly with the recruitment requirements, so he sent Xia Yu's photos to the crew with the mentality of giving it a try. Unexpectedly, because Xia Yu resembled director Jiang Wen when he was a teenager, he was caught by the crew.
Second, in this way, Xia Yu, who has been studying alone at his aunt's house, came to Beijing under the urging of his father and began his acting journey. However, when Xia Yu came to Beijing with great expectations, hoping to cultivate a relationship with his father, Xia Chaochen suddenly went to Japan. This has added a layer of estrangement to the already estranged father-son relationship
Although he was hit hard by his family relationship, Xia Yu's acting career is booming. "Sunny Day" became an instant hit, and Xia Yu won many awards such as Best Actor at the Venice International Film Festival, Best Actor at the Singapore International Film Festival, and Best Actor at the Taiwan Golden Horse Awards with his outstanding performance. The sudden success made this teenager who lacked love since childhood find a sense of accomplishment.
In order not to let himself continue to be muddy, Xia Yu set a clear goal for himself: to act to the extreme and shoot the TV series perfectly. With such ambitions, he was admitted to the Central Academy of Drama, hoping to further hone his acting skills.
However, fame doesn't all bring benefits. During his studies at the Central Academy of Drama, the teachers often compared Xia Yu, who became famous at a young age, with other students who had not yet become famous. This made Xia Yu feel pressured, he was afraid that he would disappoint the teacher by not acting well, and he was also worried that he would lose his friends because he was compared.
The joy of fame and the pressure that comes with it left the young Xia Yu confused. He began to think about his life path and find the true desire of his heart. It is in this contradiction and confusion that Xia Yu gradually grows up and shapes his own unique character and way of life.
This experience not only established Xia Yu's status in the entertainment industry, but also made him realize himself more clearly, laying a solid foundation for his future career development and personal growth.
In 1999, Xia Yu's life ushered in an important turning point. By chance, he met the most important woman in his life - Yuan Quan. However, when they first met, Yuan Quan was not interested in this overly thin boy. But Xia Yu was not discouraged by this, and he launched a passionate and persistent pursuit.
After experiencing drama rehearsals, walking in the rain, and Xia Yu's sweet words from time to time, Yuan Quan's heart was finally moved. After months of getting along and pursuing, the two finally came together. This relationship was not easy to come by, and Xia Yu cherished it even more.
3. However, the good times did not last long. In 2003, there was a crisis in the relationship between the two. The media broke out ambiguous photos of Xia Yu and Fan Bingbing, although Xia Yu quickly came forward to clarify, but this incident still cast a shadow on the relationship between the two. Immediately after, an even bigger storm struck. Xia Yu was photographed by Zhuo Wei having close contact with Gao Yuanyuan, and this time the impact was even greater
Although Gao Yuanyuan quickly stood up to explain, emphasizing that he "did not interfere with others", Xia Yu's silence made the outside world speculate. In the end, the news of Xia Yu and Yuan Quan's breakup spread, and Gao Yuanyuan was also infamous as a "little three". However, Xia Yu's relationship with Gao Yuanyuan did not last long, and after only three or four months together, the two parted ways.
This relationship experience brought deep reflection and growth to Xia Yu. He began to realize his immaturity in his feelings, and also understood the importance of cherishing the person in front of him. After the breakup, Xia Yu chose to be single and focus on career development. And Yuan Quan has never had a new relationship, as if he was waiting for something.
Time flies, and in the blink of an eye it is 2007. After four years of precipitation and thinking, Xia Yu and Yuan Quan came together again. This time back together, both of them have become more mature. They have learned how to value each other and how to manage a relationship. Yuan Quan's tolerance and understanding have become a harbor in Xia Yu's emotional world, allowing him to gradually unload his guard and learn to trust and give.
Yuan Quan's feelings for Xia Yu seem to be true love, because since they broke up in 2003, she has remained single, as if waiting for Xia Yu to change her mind. And Xia Yu's choice to return to the arms of his first love also proves his deep feelings for Yuan Quan.
This tortuous relationship experience not only made Xia Yu cherish the happiness in front of him more, but also made him more mature and stable in dealing with emotional issues. He began to learn how to balance career and relationship, how to maintain sincerity and trust in intimate relationships. This experience undoubtedly laid a solid foundation for his future married life.
In 2009, Xia Yu and Yuan Quan decided to enter the palace of marriage. However, when preparing for the wedding, Xia Yu made a surprising request: "Don't invite my parents on the wedding day!" Let my aunt be a witness. This decision shocked Yuan Quan. Born into a happy family, she couldn't understand why her husband rejected his parents so much. After Yuan Quan's persistence and persuasion, Xia Yu's parents finally came to the wedding scene.
On the wedding day, Xia Yu's attitude was chilling. He was cold to his parents the whole time, and even clinked glasses with his aunt during the toast. This scene made Yuan Quan feel distressed, and she began to realize how deep the trauma of her husband's childhood experience was. At the same time, Xia Yu's attitude towards her aunt is completely different. Not only did he not resist his aunt, but he also respected her very much. Once, when her aunt was seriously ill, Xia Yu even put down all her work, rushed back to take care of her overnight, and paid all the medical bills.
Fourth, in 2010, Yuan Quan became pregnant and gave birth to a daughter, which brought new hope to the family. Xia's mother, who was far away in Qingdao, rushed to take care of her when she heard the news, but Xia Yu still kept her distance and hardly communicated with her mother. After Yuan Quan was able to get out of bed, Xia's mother had to leave gloomily, leaving a pair of gold bracelets as a gift for her granddaughter. However, Xia Yu even cashed the bracelet back to his mother, a move that further highlighted the estrangement between him and his parents
Soon after, Xia's father, who was far away in Japan, also returned to China to visit. He was full of expectations and wanted to stay at his son's house, but Xia Yu arranged a hotel for him. In the end, under Yuan Quan's persuasion, Xia's father was able to stay in his son's house. Even so, the atmosphere between father and son was still cold, and there was little communication. Whenever Xia's father spoke, Xia Yu remained silent; Whatever Father Xia wants, Xia Yu just doesn't give it. This indifferent attitude made it difficult for Xia's father to ease this frozen father-son relationship.
During this period, Xia Yu achieved great success in his career, but he was clumsy in handling family relationships. He worked hard to manage his relationship with his wife and daughters, trying to give them enough love to make up for the lack of his childhood. But for his parents, he couldn't let go, and still treated them with indifference.
Yuan Quan saw it in his eyes and was anxious in his heart. She hopes to help her husband repair his relationship with his parents and make the family more complete. However, years of estrangement and pain did not come overnight. Xia Yu's attitude makes people feel distressed, and it also makes people think: what kind of opportunity is needed to make this man who was shrouded in the shadow of childhood accept his parents again?
The experience of this period not only tested Xia Yu's marriage, but also profoundly affected his understanding and attitude towards his family. It shows the confusion and struggle of a successful actor in the face of complex family relationships, and also lays the groundwork for a possible reconciliation later.
Fate always likes to joke. An ordinary ski trip has become an important turning point in Xia Yu's life. While skiing with friends, Xia Yu suffered a serious accident. He fell from the air and fell heavily on the snow, breaking several ribs.
Friends immediately contacted Yuan Quan, hoping that she could come and take care of the injured Xia Yu. However, the clever Yuan Quan saw this opportunity. Under the pretext of taking care of the child, she cleverly arranged for her father-in-law to go to the hospital to take care of her son. This decision became an opportunity for Xia Yu to improve the relationship with his father.
In the days when he was forced to get along with his father, Xia Yu gradually saw another side of his father. Xia's father stayed in front of the hospital bed inch by inch, helping his son turn over every few hours and feeding him carefully. In order to take better care of Xia Yu, Xia's father even built a bed next to the hospital bed and accompanied him day and night.
5. This accident became a turning point in the improvement of Xia Yu's relationship with her parents, paving the way for reconciliation between them
After this accident, Xia Yu's relationship with her parents has improved substantially. He no longer treats his parents with indifference, but learns to understand and forgive. This experience made Xia Yu deeply realize that life is short, and it is more important to cherish the people in front of you than to cling to the pain of the past.
Today's Xia Yu is trying to balance career and family. He cherishes his relationship with Yuan Quan and manages his marriage with his heart; He took good care of his daughter and gave her enough love to make up for the lack of family affection in his childhood; He also learned to reconcile with his parents in an attempt to bridge the years of estrangement.
Xia Yu's story tells us that no matter what kind of difficulties we go through, as long as we have hope and keep an open mind, we will always have a chance to rebuild our happiness. As he said, "The most important thing is not to take revenge." Instead, take good care of your family. Learn from your parents and use love to tolerate your wife and raise your children. "