Author: Wen Qiusheng
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01. Introduction
Love is like a rose, beautiful and delicate, and the fragrance is overflowing, so that you can't help but get closer.
However, if you are not careful, you may be pricked and cause severe pain.
Women, if they want to manage love well, they must know how to maintain a sense of proportion and distance. Because, love is not that the more you give, the more he will love you.
When a man neglects you, doesn't love you, and hurts you, it can be solved through this matter: take back ninety percent of your love and love yourself.
02. Men snub you, probably because you pay too much
Once, I went to a buddy's house for dinner, and he kept chatting with us and entertaining us.
While eating, his wife was still busy in the kitchen. After everyone was seated, he did not leave a place for his wife.
I asked him to call his wife along, and he said, "Let's eat, leave her alone." When someone comes to the house, she just eats something in the kitchen. ”
When we finished eating, he shouted at the kitchen door, and his wife immediately came out and cleaned up the table.
After that, the man kept directing her to do this, do that, and keep her from resting for a moment.
Women, being neglected in marriage is probably because you are used to giving.
You take all the work on yourself, habitually dedicating, sacrificing, putting yourself in the humblest position.
Gradually, men get used to enjoying and ignore your feelings.
There is a sentence in "Human Disqualification": "No matter who you are too enthusiastic about, it increases the probability of not being cherished." ”
When a man neglects you, he takes back his love and gives less. Spend more time improving yourself and loving yourself.
When you give less, men will start to pay more. When you are excellent and attractive, men will be more willing to pay for you.
03. Men don't love you, mostly because you love too much
Before, I watched a TV series "The First Half of My Life", after Luo Ziqun gave birth to a child, her husband never went out to work.
While taking care of her children, she tried her best to borrow money to maintain the family's life.
Whenever her sister and mother accused her husband of not working well, she would protect him, turn to him, and help him talk.
However, her husband took her care as a matter of course, did not shoulder the burden of the family, and kept her alone to carry the burden.
A man doesn't love you, probably because women take too good care of him and give too much love.
As a result, men forget to give back love, forget to give, can't shoulder responsibilities, and forget to take into account their wives' feelings.
There is a sentence in "The Godfather": "Soft-heartedness without boundaries will only make the other party gain an inch; Unprincipled kindness will only make the other person do whatever he wants. ”
When a man hurts you and snubs you, take back some love. Don't be obedient in everything and take care of him too well.
As a woman loves herself, a man will treat you as she would have been.
If you don't let yourself suffer, don't wronged yourself, and have your own bottom line, then men will respect you and take into account your feelings.
04. A man hurts you, probably because you don't cherish yourself
Women, men snub you and hurt you, mostly because you don't feel sorry for yourself and don't cherish yourself.
Ruby · Kaul said, "How you love yourself is teaching others how to love you." ”
In a relationship, if you are too active, love him too much, and are used to wronging yourself and ignoring yourself, then men will also ignore you and wronged you, so that you have endless suffering.
You don't care about anything, you don't ask for anything, you give blindly, and you let yourself humbly please.
Men are accustomed to taking, but they will also become arrogant and presumptuous, demanding more and more from you.
He knows that you are coaxing, what he has done wrong, just pretend to be pitiful and symbolically apologize, and you will forgive.
Many times, men don't love you because you are too used to him, you are too bottomless, and you like to wronged yourself too much.
Don't always complain that men have caused you a lot of grievances and hurts, you have to love yourself first before you can teach him how to love you.
Give a little less, let him feel your dissatisfaction, let him care about your feelings and needs, in order to make love happier and happier.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message
Love is mutual, just like playing table tennis, both parties have to exert their strength in order to continue.
No matter how much you love a man, women should not enter the mode of one-way giving, blindly wronging themselves, and will only feed the greed of big men.
Women, if you love a man again, you have to love yourself too.
When you understand this and start to shift your focus to yourself, you will find that everything will be different and it will be easier to get along.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.