My friend's aunt married her uncle when she was young, because he looked "honest" and felt like a good person, and she took care of her family and children after she got married. Unexpectedly, a few years after marriage, the aunt found out that her uncle had been raising a junior outside, and he fell below everyone's glasses.
Regarding "affairs", many people are actually full of false myths, and "a good husband will not cheat" is one of them.
An affair is not just a "superficial betrayal", it involves a deeper psychological motivation, and if you don't understand the real motivation for the affair, you will be trapped in false myths, and there is no real possibility of repairing the relationship.
Here are the 13 most common myths about "affair":
Myth 1: People who have a sense of responsibility for marriage will not have an affair?
A responsible person doesn't have an affair?
Too many people who are "good partners and fathers" in the eyes of their families may still have affairs, which will lead to affairs, sometimes related to the psychological turn at the time.
Myth 2: Can Harmonious Sexual Relations Really Prevent Extramarital Affaires?
If the sexual relationship between partners is not good, it can lead to an affair and an unhappy marriage.
The truth is that many couples who have had an affair have quite coordinated sexual relationships, and the relationship is very harmonious and loving, so the better the partner relationship, the greater the impact of discovering an affair.
Myth 3: Marriage really doesn't need to emphasize sex?
Sex and marriage have little to do with each other, and old husbands and wives are like this.
This is a big myth, but the fact is that there is a significant correlation between "sexual relations" in marriage and "satisfaction" in marriage, especially for men, and that the prerequisite for marital happiness is "sexual satisfaction", which is interrelated with satisfaction with "marital quality".
Myth 4: Can sexual relationships resolve conflict in marriage?
Sex can produce a sense of intimacy, the fact is that sex can create a sense of physical intimacy, but can not close the psychological intimacy, feeling good is especially important for women, many husbands are used to resolving conflicts through sexual relations, but the other half often do not appreciate it, or to understand, take care of the partner's emotions and feelings.
Myth 5: Can a happy marriage really solve the problem of sexuality entirely?
There will be no sexual distress in a happy marriage, the fact is that work pressure and child upbringing will cause sexual distress, and it is important to care for each other's physical and mental conditions.
Myth 6: Can the frequency of sex truly reflect the harmony and happiness of a relationship?
The frequency of sex will show whether the relationship is harmonious and happy.
The fact is that the frequency of sex can be affected by the emotional state and the level of physical fatigue, for example, if the child is crying and making people feel uneasy, or if the child spends too much energy to manage the sexual relationship, the frequency of sex alone cannot be used as the only reference for the "emotional happiness indicator".
Myth 7: Are "liberal arts men" more likely to have affairs than "science men"?
Stereotypes often portray "liberal arts men" as sensual and open, while "science men" are perceived as rational and reserved. Based on these labels, some people would think that a "liberal arts man" is more likely to have an affair, while a "science man" is less likely to do so.
But in reality, people who work in science parks know that this claim is actually a big myth.
Myth 8: Can loyalty in love predict a life without an affair after marriage?
The fact is that many partners who firmly believe that they will not have an affair may have a relationship due to some special circumstances.
Myth 9: Can a partner's dress predict whether they will have an affair?
Dress-conscious partners are more likely to have an affair, and scruffy and unkempt partners are less likely to have an affair.
The truth is that a partner who does not pay attention to appearance may have an affair due to other factors, such as getting along with a third party every day, or a third person who is very good at taking care of people.
Myth 10: Do those who oppose extramarital affairs really not have an affair?
People who hate family affairs and don't agree with extramarital affairs are less likely to have affairs. The truth is that many people who have an affair feel annoyed and blame themselves for doing "their most hated behavior".
Myth 11: Are honest and simple people really having fewer affairs?
People with honest personalities and simple lives are less likely to have affairs, and the fact is that many injured people feel that they have been deceived by their partner's appearance, and never think that their partner will betray them, so it is difficult to accept the facts.
Myth 12: Is cheating just for sexual relationships?
Many people think that their partners will have an affair because of "psychological fatigue" to their partner, that a new partner can bring freshness and arouse high passion, that emotional cheating is for sexual relations, and that there are also some affair situations that are limited to chatting, eating, and accompanying each other, and that there are third parties who just want to get attention but refuse to have sex.
Myth 13: If you take precautions in advance, will an affair really not happen?
If you pay attention early and prevent it early, there will be no affair, the fact is that many partners think that they are very careful to prevent it, and they also believe that their partners dare not have an affair, and finally find out that their partner is having an affair.
An affair is not just a single event,
Behind it are more complex psychological needs
From the above "affair myth", we can see that the affair is not a purely linear phenomenon, but a complex behavior with multiple aspects and multiple factors. Affaires often have a wide range of motivations behind them, ranging from seeking emotional connection and affirmation, to escaping reality stress or finding ways to self-actualize.
The diversity of these motivations reminds us that when dealing with an affair, there can be no generalizations, let alone the blame for the individual or lack of charisma. Instead, we should dig deeper into the root causes and find solutions together through self-reflection and open communication as a couple.
Additionally, it is important to recognize that one should not blame oneself or indulge in despair in the face of an affair. Rather, it can be the beginning of a turnaround, an opportunity to take care of yourself, rebuild your sense of self-worth and, where possible, explore new possibilities in your relationship with your partner.