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The 83-year-old "nuclear weapons" meritorious testament swipes the screen! Son is intellectually disabled, daughter is schizophrenic: sorry, this is not the most cruel
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Two days ago, the "Journey" column of Phoenix.com released a short documentary "The Daily Life of an 83-year-old Nuclear Bomb Scientist and a 53-year-old Mentally Disordered Daughter".
While the film was swiping on major platforms, a strong sense of contrast instantly invaded countless people:
It turns out that in reality, there is another meritorious person who is so helpless in his old age......
This is a dialogue in the film, and even if you don't know the background, you will be shocked.
83-year-old Wei Shijie asked his son, who has a gray beard but is only six or seven years old:
"If I'm not there someday, who will take care of you?"
Wei Gang replied:
"When I'm gone, I have to find food on my own, and I eat something cheap at home all day."
Saying "helpless", this word is really indescribable.
I'd prefer to use "no solution".
Because this is not a personal problem, but an unanswerable social problem that millions of people are facing.
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▼ Let's talk about Wei Lao's "dilemma" first
How good is Wei Lao?
He has won numerous awards, but there is only one certificate hanging on the wall of his home.
The seal at the bottom right of the certificate is the unit "Committee of the Ninth Academy of the Communist Party of China" (Chinese Academy of Physics and Engineering).
In 1978, he received the National Science Congress Award for his research on "Temperature Field Distribution and Stress Field Distribution of Explosive Components with Internal Heat Source".
That's all there is to it.
We have heard a lot of familiar names about the study of "nuclear weapons".
The name Wei Shijie should be placed alongside them.
In the fifties and sixties of the last century, Wei Lao stepped on the train to the Qinghai-Tibet Plateau.
Incognito, he participated in the development of China's first atomic bomb, hydrogen bomb, and missile nuclear weapons.
Over the course of 26 years, he led 17 research projects on first- and second-generation nuclear weapons.
Dreaming of becoming a writer since childhood, he has also written a large number of popular science articles and published long non-fiction novels reflecting the development of nuclear weapons.
In 1970, Wei Lao met and fell in love with his colleague Chen Weiying.
Three years after marriage, two children were born one after another, and both children were born.
Although he can't be with his children, Wei Lao's family is the envy of those around him.
Such an excellent person also deserves everyone's respect.
However.
There are highs and lows in life.
Soon after getting the certificate, Wei Lao found that his son Wei Gang had some problems with his intellectual development.
When her daughter Haiyan reached her teenage years, she was also diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia.
To add insult to injury, his wife Chen Weiying also suffered a mental disorder in her later years, which is related to perennial hard work and mental pressure.
It is so hard, too hard, too much to take care of such two children!
Another personality of Haiyan is called "Old God".
The "old god" often tells Haiyan to do something.
As a result, she may do a lot of things out of the ordinary.
Like suicide.
Haiyan committed suicide twice, once by jumping into the sea, and once swallowing 100 sleeping pills.
This big girl has to be watched all the time.
Someone around her reminded Wei Lao that if she wanted to commit suicide, let her go.
It's also a relief, isn't it?
Wei Lao felt very uncomfortable after hearing this.
Wei Gang is fine.
He can now take care of himself basically, and what makes him happiest is getting the 5 yuan pocket money every day.
Then he can go buy snacks and eat and drink.
Wei Gang had a lot of food, and diabetes found him.
Wei Lao tried to help him control his food intake and quit the habit of drinking drinks.
But it's hard.
His soul is a child after all.
With no one around, he can't survive.
There is a scene in the documentary that truly records Wei Lao's embarrassment:
Haiyan has severe obsessive-compulsive disorder.
It was so serious that she had to find the "right place" every time she took medicine.
Wei Lao also had to find the right position to stand still, and then he could open the medicine box and take out the medicine.
After taking the medicine, Haiyan still has to ask, "Is the medicine box closed?" ”
Wei Gang is 50 years old this year, and Haiyan is 53 years old.
When it came to the grade where he should have enjoyed family fun, Wei Lao had to raise these two gray-haired children like a baby.
So.
What should I do if Wei Lao is gone?
Wei Gang's answer was to find food by himself.
Even if Wei Lao has already written a will and arranged the future.
But what parent can listen to such words?
He found two guardians for his two children and bought two insurances, one for medical insurance and the other for pension insurance.
The property in his name was also left to his children so that they could have a place to live.
And the books he wrote, which are also part of the legacy.
The love of parents is far-reaching.
This is probably the best outcome.
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▼Let's talk about the group represented by Wei Lao
Seeing this, you may want to ask, isn't this a human suffering?
Yes.
And that's not it yet.
Wei Lao has made outstanding achievements, and his children will definitely be able to get good protection.
The significance of this documentary is not just to let everyone see the plight of individuals.
The real suffering is tens of millions of ordinary families.
Let's say a terrifying number:
There are roughly 20 million mentally handicapped people on the mainland.
Since they are not often seen in public, the public will ignore their presence.
After all, this world has always been designed for ordinary people.
But they also grow up, grow old, and die......
If these "children" were without their parents, would they be able to survive?
Yimeijun remembered her childhood playmate Beibei.
The first time we met him was in kindergarten, but by then he was already a head taller than us.
The children around him are all five or six years old, and only he is eight years old.
Later, I heard that he was humble because he was sick when he was a child, and his head was cured.
Every time he went to school, his parents would tell us to "play with him more".
However, he has not been able to fit in.
After some time, he was taken home.
I gradually forgot about him.
A few years ago, my mom asked me if I remember Beibei?
I asked my mom how he was.
My mom said he was in his 30s, and he was still like a child.
I suddenly remembered that there was such a mentally handicapped person around me.
Moreover, he is not only 3 years older than me.
Over the past few years, his parents have been working very hard to make money, save money, and have a second child.
The reason is simple:
Paving the way for Beibei's future.
Hearing these words made my heart sour.
Although it is unfair to the second child to do so, there is nothing better for them to do.
Similarly, Bei Bei is also the relatively lucky one.
At least his parents didn't give up on him.
There is a very niche old movie - "Sun Umbrella":
Dumb was abandoned at birth.
His grandparents picked him up on the side of the road and took him home to raise him carefully.
But Dumb grew up to three years old, and he couldn't speak a complete sentence.
It turned out that he was a "problematic" child.
His grandparents didn't dislike him and still loved him.
Dumb is growing up so healthy and happy.
But grandparents are too old.
Grandpa is gone, and grandma's health is getting worse day by day.
In desperation, my grandmother began to teach Dumb to sell newspapers.
She just wants to let Dumb learn to earn some pocket money before leaving.
When she leaves, Dumb won't starve to death.
From then on, Dumb would carry a bag of newspapers and a bench every morning, walk through the familiar alley to the street corner, and shout "newspaper".
Although he didn't make much money, he was very happy every time he sold a copy.
He held the money high above his head, looked at the money in his palm in the sun and smiled stupidly.
Dumb seems to have "grown up".
But grandma is also leaving.
That day, he used all the pocket money he earned from selling newspapers to buy a bowl of instant noodles and two apples for his grandmother.
It was the best thing he could make for his grandmother.
Dumb bites the apple into small pieces and feeds it to grandma's mouth.
Grandma's eyes were full of tears.
Grandma is not afraid of death.
I'm afraid that this stupid grandson can't take care of himself.
Grandma is gone.
Dumb is the only one left in the family.
Fortunately, Aunt Wu, who was selling fruit next to the newsstand, saw that Dumb was sensible and took the initiative to take care of him.
……
This story is full of suffering, and only Dumb is the one who is favored.
But.
Reality is not a fairy tale.
People with mental disabilities are not as well-behaved and cute as Dumb, and people in the world are not as kind as grandparents and Aunt Wu.
Dumb's fate has been predestined from the beginning-
Abandoned.
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▼ Written at the end
Therefore.
Yi Meijun said "there is no solution".
Most people who don't know the truth, the first reaction when they see these "children" is curiosity, fear, and avoidance......
They can only rely on their parents.
There are also those who can only be relied upon by their parents.
Only parents will take the trouble to take care of them and love them wholeheartedly.
Love is never a problem.
Love will not dry up.
If possible, they are willing to keep their children in their arms at all times.
Time is their worst enemy.
In the past two years, I have met many parents of people with mental disabilities.
What touched me the most were:
Anyone can say that there is no solution, but they can't.
They call this self-help.
Like what:
Teach your child to take the bus on their own;
Teach children to control their emotions in public;
Seek a simple job that will support them......
Do you remember the "Xihaner Car Wash"?
That's a type, a model of self-help.
Parents.
Really the greatest character in this world.
Greatness that cannot be described in words.
This is especially true for parents of people with disabilities who are conscientious.
In addition to paying respects.
We look forward to your understanding and help.
Even if it's a kind look.
Through this perspective, I believe that every parent and child will understand.
This has never been a niche care, but the most simple love in the world.
Author | bronze
(Excerpted from WeChat public account Yimei Media)