My husband and I have been married for many years, and our relationship has always been quite good. Although there are occasional small noises in life, overall, life is dull and happy. Recently, however, I've noticed some subtle changes.
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That day, my best friend came to me crying, her eyes were red and swollen, and her face was haggard. I took her hand in distress and asked her to sit on the couch and speak slowly. She choked up and told me that she found out that her husband was cheating, and the evidence of all this was found from checking the phone. Looking at my best friend's heartbroken appearance, I couldn't help but mutter: If you want to be married for a long time, women really have to check men's mobile phones from time to time?
When I got home, I looked at my husband who was busy in the kitchen, and I had mixed feelings in my heart. He wore an apron and skillfully stir-fried the dishes in the pot, and his serious appearance used to make me feel extremely relieved. But now, what happened to my girlfriend makes me wonder if our happiness is just a superficial peace.
In the evening, when the food is served, my husband keeps serving me food and cares about my day's work. I was absent-minded and just responded perfunctorily. My husband noticed my strangeness and asked, "Honey, what's wrong with you today?" Is it too tiring to work? I hesitated for a moment and tentatively asked my husband, "Honey, do you think there should be a little secret between husband and wife?" My husband added soup to my bowl and said, "If there is any secret, shouldn't husband and wife be honest with each other?" ”
But somehow, since then, the idea of wanting to check my husband's mobile phone has taken root in my heart. Finally one day, while my husband was taking a shower, I couldn't help but pick up his phone. His fingers trembled as he turned on the screen, and his heart thumped. As soon as I unlocked it, my husband came out of the bathroom, he still had undried water droplets on his body, looked at me in surprise, and asked, "What are you doing?" I panicked and said, "No, nothing, it's up to you to see if you have any new news." My husband frowned, walked over quickly and took away the phone, and his voice raised slightly: "Don't look blind, trust me." ”
At that moment, I felt like something was blocking my heart, and I was so uncomfortable. In the days that followed, I was always thinking about checking my phone, and my husband seemed to be aware of it, and the atmosphere between us became a little strange. I used to talk and laugh when I ate, but now I often fall silent; They used to sleep in each other's hugs at night, but now they have their backs to each other.
Another weekend, we snuggled up on the couch and watched TV. There is a TV series about marriage on TV, and the husband and wife in the show are in trouble because of trust issues. I hesitated, but I still said: "Husband, I've been trying to check your phone lately, but it's either that I don't believe you, or I'm a little scared about my best friend." My husband was silent for a while, turned off the TV, then held my hand and said, "Honey, checking your phone doesn't really guarantee a long time for a couple." What really matters is our daily relationship with each other, our care and understanding. If you have always had this pimple in your heart, then you can check it, but after checking, we have to talk about it. ”
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I looked into his eyes, and there was helplessness and sincerity in them. I lowered my head and whispered, "Husband, I know it's wrong for me to do this, but I just can't control my thoughts." My husband hugged me into his arms, patted me gently on the back and said, "I understand your worries, but after so many years of relationship, is it not worth a mobile phone?" ”
For the next few days, I was thinking about my husband's words. I reminisce about the moments when we met and fell in love, the good times we spent together, the hard times we supported each other. I realized that true trust does not come from checking your phone, but from inner firmness.
So, on a warm evening, I made a table of my husband's favorite dishes. When he came home from work, I sincerely apologized to him: "Husband, I'm sorry, I shouldn't be cranky, I shouldn't want to check your phone." I should trust our feelings. My husband hugged me with emotion and said, "My dear, in fact, I also did something bad and didn't give you enough security." In the future, I will pay more attention. ”
Since then, I've stopped worrying about checking my phone and focused more on managing our relationship with my husband. We do chores together, go for walks together, and share the joys and sorrows of life together.
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Once, when I came home from work, it was raining heavily. I didn't have an umbrella with me, and when I was about to rush home in the rain, I saw my husband waiting for me at the door of the company with an umbrella. His clothes were soaked with rain, and when he saw me, he smiled warmly. At that moment, my heart was filled with happiness and emotion.
Another time, when my husband was sick and hospitalized, I accompanied him in the hospital every day, cooking for him, feeding him medicine, and chatting with him. Watching him get better day by day, I feel that this is the most precious moment between husband and wife.
As the days passed, our relationship grew deeper and deeper. I finally understood that trust and understanding between husband and wife is to be built and maintained through daily bits and pieces. Rather than relying on the superficial means of checking mobile phones. As long as there is love, trust, and mutual support in the heart, the marriage can be long and happy.