In this fast-paced society, there are always subtle differences between men and women. Especially when it comes to emotional and physical needs, there always seems to be some misunderstandings and blind spots. Today, I'm going to take you inside the inner world of the protagonist through a story that explores these pervasive issues.
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My name is Li Ming, I am 32 years old and I was born in an ordinary family. My parents were both teachers, and I was trained to be rigorous from an early age. Although I don't have a lot of money, I always feel that having the support of my family is enough. After graduating from university, I worked as a programmer in an internet company, and I had a stable job, but it was also stressful. Day in and day out, writing code, debugging programs, life is boring and monotonous.
Recently, there have been some cracks in my relationship with my girlfriend Xiaoya. Xiaoya is a 26-year-old copywriter in an advertising agency, and her work is full of creativity, which always brings me a lot of surprises. But during this time, her mood was always low, and she was often angry for no reason. I really don't understand, am I doing something wrong?
On a weekend afternoon, I decided to have a good talk with Xiaoya. We sat in the café, the sun shining through the windows on the tables and the aroma of coffee filling the air.
"Xiaoya, what's wrong with you lately? Is there something you're hiding from me? I asked cautiously.
She raised her head, with a little grievance in her eyes, "Li Ming, I didn't mean to hide it from you. I was just...... It feels like you're always busy with work and don't have time to spend with me. Sometimes I'm really lonely. ”
When I heard this, my heart was shocked. It's true that I've been working a lot of overtime lately, and when I get home, I just want to sit on the couch and ignore her feelings. I tried to understand her feelings: "I know I've been busy lately, but you also know the pressure of work, sometimes I really can't take my breath. ”
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She sighed softly, "It's not that I don't understand you, it's just that women's physiological needs are always different from men's. I need more than just physical satisfaction, but also a desire for emotional connection. ”
I froze for a moment, realizing that I had never thought about it. I remember when we first started dating, we were full of enthusiasm on every date and shared the moments of our lives with each other. And now, this passion seems to be worn out by the trivialities of life.
"Xiaoya, can you tell us more about your needs? I want to try to improve. I said seriously.
She looked at me and seemed relieved, "Actually, I wish you could spend more time with me, even if it's just to walk and chat together." Of course, I want to go with the flow of physical things, but more importantly, the relationship between us. ”
At this time, I felt a warm feeling in my heart, and I also understood the difference between marriage and love. When we are young, our love is full of passion and desire, but as time goes by, these things seem to be gradually swallowed up by daily trivialities.
"I see, Xiaoya. In the future, I will try to find time to spend with you and not let work occupy our lives. I assured her.
Next, we talked a lot, even about our respective physiological needs. She mentioned that the current pace of life is tiring, and many times what she wants is not a simple physical contact, but a spiritual fit. I also began to reflect that maybe my attention to her was only superficial, and did not really touch her heart.
As the conversation deepened, it occurred to me that I had a similar problem. While pursuing career development, do you ignore the deeper desires and needs of your heart?
That night, when we got home, I tried to change my habits. took out my mobile phone, put on a song we liked, took Xiaoya's hand, and gently swayed it on the sofa. A smile gradually appeared on her face, and the gloom in her heart seemed to dissipate.
After a few days of adjustment, I found that life was starting to change for the better. We go to the gym together, cook together after a workout, and even go on a trip together on the weekend. Gradually, I found myself not only in her company, but also in the enjoyment of this interaction.
This interaction made me understand that physical and psychological needs are intertwined. Men tend to focus on the physical level, while women want more emotional attention and understanding.
So, I began to learn to manage the relationship with my heart, pay attention to her emotional changes, and give her enough trust and security. Whenever she encounters setbacks in her work, I listen patiently and encourage her. It's a good cycle that brings us closer together.
Time is quietly passing, and in the blink of an eye we have been together for two years. That night, Xiaoya and I had a hearty dinner with a table full of her favorite dishes. Seeing her happy appearance, I felt a warm current in my heart.
"Xiaoya, thank you for your tolerance and understanding all the time. I will also work harder to make our lives happier. I said from the bottom of my heart.
She smiled slightly, and her eyes gleamed with affection. Our love has become more and more tenacious through delicate care and real communication, and our physical needs seem to have been sublimated in psychological nourishment.
In this journey of love, I deeply realized that the common diseases of men and the physiological needs of women are not opposites, but need to find a balance between mutual understanding and tolerance. A truly happy life is not only about having good physical contact, but also about being able to listen to and understand each other's hearts.
Ultimately, I appreciate every moment in the relationship that has allowed me to grow and taught me how to love and be loved.
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In this story, we see the difference in the emotional and physical needs of men and women. If you have experienced similar confusion, you may wish to look back on your relationship, and perhaps in the delicate care, you will find that deep happiness and warmth.
I hope that everyone can find the person who is willing to work together to spend the wind and rain in their lives, so that each other's hearts can blend and create their own happy stories together.