On the edge of the ancient Chinese Empire, there is a quiet and quaint town called Taoyuan Town. The people here have been farming for generations, and the people are simple and simple, and they attach great importance to etiquette and religion, especially the marriage between families, which is regarded as the bond of friendship between the two families. In such a context, the Li Mansion and the Zhao Mansion are closely connected by a marriage, but also because of the subtle interaction between the in-laws, a moving story of understanding and respect is staged.
First, the joy of marriage, the undercurrent surging
Li Haoran, the eldest son of the Li Mansion, is gentle and elegant, and has outstanding talents; Zhao Wanru, the only daughter of the Zhao Mansion, is gentle and virtuous, talented and beautiful. The two families are right, and the words of the mediators have become the good of Qin and Jin, and for a while, Taoyuan Town has been spread as a good story. However, as the wedding date approached, there were some subtle differences and misunderstandings between the two in-laws, and an undercurrent gradually arose.
Second, the first meeting of the in-laws, if you say too much, you will lose
On the eve of the wedding, the two in-laws met for the first time according to the number of ceremonies. Father Li, a strict and upright businessman, attaches great importance to the honor of the family; Zhao's mother, a gentle but slightly strong eunuch, has high hopes for her daughter's future. During the banquet, the atmosphere was originally harmonious, but a few casual words quietly planted the seeds of estrangement.
"Brother Li, it's really admirable to hear that your family's business is all over the north and south. It's just that this way of businessman is inevitably contaminated with some copper smell, and I hope that he can guide Haoran more in the future, so as not to let him forget his duty as a scholar. Zhao's mother's words were originally intended to hope that the two families could complement each other's strengths and weaknesses, but they inadvertently touched Li's father's sensitive nerves.
When Father Li heard this, his face changed slightly, and although he was dissatisfied in his heart, he also suppressed his anger and treated him politely: "Mrs. Zhao is reasonable, although the businessman is profitable, he also knows righteousness. Haoran has been taught by famous teachers since childhood, and he will definitely understand what the way of a gentleman is, so he doesn't have to worry too much. ”
Third, misunderstandings deepened and conflicts erupted
After marriage, Li Haoran and Zhao Wanru were in love as husband and wife, but the relationship between the two families broke out completely due to a misunderstanding. It turned out that when Zhao Wanru returned to her parents' house, she mentioned trivial matters at home and inadvertently revealed some difficulties in the operation of the Li Mansion. After hearing this, Zhao's mother mistakenly thought that Li Fu intended to conceal it, and was worried that her daughter would be wronged, so she bluntly mentioned it at a family gathering.
"The Li family seems to be beautiful now, but in fact, it is already strong on the outside, Wanru, you have to be more mindful, don't be blinded by the prosperity on the surface." Mother Zhao's words pierced the hearts of everyone present like a sharp blade, especially Father Li, whose face was blue and furious.
"Mrs. Zhao's words are wrong! Although my Li family is not rich and noble, they have never treated them badly. Difficulties in business are the norm in the business world, so why do outsiders need to beak? Father Li finally couldn't hold it back, and the case was taken, and the atmosphere of the two families instantly dropped to the freezing point.
4. Reflection and reconciliation
In the aftermath of this conflict, relations between the two families have reached an unprecedented impasse. Li Haoran and Zhao Wanru are caught in the middle, in a dilemma, they know that only by resolving the contradictions between the two families can this marriage be long-term and happy. So, the two began to plan secretly, hoping to find a suitable opportunity for the two in-laws to sit down and talk calmly.
Finally, at a spring flower-viewing banquet, the two carefully arranged a "peace banquet". At the banquet, Li Haoran spoke first and sincerely apologized to Zhao's mother, saying that as a junior, he failed to communicate in time, which led to many unnecessary misunderstandings. Zhao Wanru also followed, gently persuading her mother, hoping that she could understand the difficulties of the Li family, and grateful to the Li family for their care and care.
After hearing this, Zhao's mother had mixed feelings in her heart, and she realized that her words were indeed too sharp and hurt the other party's feelings. Under the persuasion of her daughter, she finally put down her body and apologized to Li's father: "Brother Li, it was my inappropriate words that hurt the peace. Wanru has married into the Li family and is a member of the Li family, so I naturally hope that she can be happy. In the future, the two of us should communicate more and seek common development. ”
When Father Li heard this, the ice in his heart melted instantly, and he was full of emotion: "Mrs. Zhao can be so generous, Li deeply admires. Between in-laws, they should support each other and tide over difficulties together. Today's events have taught us all to cherish and understand, which is a blessing. ”
5. Perception and hope
After this incident, the relationship between the Li Mansion and the Zhao Mansion has been sublimated like never before. They deeply understand that there are three sentences that must not be said in the relationship between in-laws: first, if you belittle the other party's identity or occupation, it will hurt the other party's self-esteem; the second is to spread unverified rumors, which can undermine mutual trust; The third is to bring personal emotions into family conflicts, which will exacerbate the escalation of conflicts.
What really maintains the relationship between in-laws and families is mutual respect, understanding and tolerance. As Li Haoran and Zhao Wanru showed, as long as both parties can treat each other with sincerity and communicate with heart, there is no knot that cannot be untied, and there is no hurdle that cannot be overcome.