A psychological counselor takes you into your own inner world, like the attention of it!
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Many people have a bad problem when they are depressed, that is, "anxiety in advance".
Because they always feel that only by thinking of the worst outcome can they not be afraid, and they make themselves frightened all day long for the so-called sense of security.
In fact, psychology believes that thinking about the worst in advance will not only not give you a sense of peace of mind, but will also worsen depression and anxiety.
Talk show actor Fu Seoul said:
If you are anxious in advance before something bad happens, it is equivalent to you encountering two bad things.
I remember a visitor who had a serious anxiety problem more than ten years ago because he always lost money, and as a result, he was scared to death every time he went out, and then he thought of a way, which was to give himself a "preventive shot" every time he lost his money, but in the end, instead of relieving his anxiety, he also let himself have frequent panic attacks.
In fact, it's not a good idea.
There is a classic experiment in psychology called the "worry box".
Ask the subject to write down their recent worries and throw them in the box, and then wait a while to look back at them.
Unexpectedly, most of the feared things did not happen.
You see, most of the things we worry about are superfluous.
In fact, many people are just too scared of their anxiety and always want to get rid of it. As a result, the more we deal with it, the more troublesome it becomes, and it is our nature to worry that we are not good, but we never want to hedge against it.
Psychologist Karen Ho has a quote from your book "Our Inner Conflict":
No one can maintain peace of mind all the time. The more we face up to our conflicts and seek solutions, the more we can gain inner freedom.
Learn to face and deal with things when encountered, instead of blindly escaping, many people always hope that they have no anxiety and no pain. To understand the nature of anxiety is to impose a certainty on the uncertainty of the future.
But you know, is there really a sure thing in this world? Probably the only thing that is certain is that the world is inherently uncertain.
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There is a typical negative thinking model in cognitive therapy – "catastrophic thinking".
It makes people think about the worst, as psychologist Albert · Ellis said: "Emotions are not the problem, irrational thinking is." ”
This kind of person, like putting an emotional amplifier in his heart, will exaggerate inconsequential and trivial things, and his emotions are often out of control because of this.
As the People's Daily once wrote: "Catastrophic thinking" is a kind of generalization of anxiety.
So, don't think about the worst in advance, it won't ease your anxiety, but it will make you more miserable.