There are about 100 million leftover women over the age of 25 in China, which is quite an astonishing number!
It's not that they don't want to love, but that their love is too illusory, and a considerable number of older leftover women over 25 years old have lost their way on the road of love. According to data from a large dating platform, more than 90% of the older leftover female members over the age of 25 can't find a suitable partner within 3 years, and even some older leftover women spend a lot of money and return empty-handed after 5 years of diamond membership qualifications.
When the number "90%" jumps on paper, it is not only a cold statistical result, but also the resonance of countless women's voices. In this society bound by age labels, older leftover women often inadvertently fall into a carefully woven web of fantasy with their desire and longing for love.
They are either looking forward to the romance of love at first sight, or firmly believe that "the right person will always appear at the right time", but they ignore that the road to love also requires down-to-earth efforts and self-growth. In my opinion, it is these 5 major fantasies that make so many older leftover women over 25 years old linger on the road of love.
1. Fantasy 1: The blueprint of the perfect companion
"He should be tall and handsome, gentle and considerate, have a successful career, and be obedient to me." This is the perfect companion portrait in the hearts of many older leftover women. However, reality is like a mirror, reflecting that this is nothing more than a self-woven dream bubble. Ai Qing once said: "Love is not about looking for a perfect person, but learning to appreciate the imperfect person with perfect eyes." "What we pursue should not be a preset template, but the mutual fit and common growth of two hearts.
2. Fantasy 2: The adventure of love at first sight
"In the vast sea of people, we can identify each other with just one glance." Such a plot seems to exist only in movies and novels. But in real life, love at first sight is beautiful, but it often lacks a deep foundation and understanding. More often, love is an emotion that gradually accumulates through getting along bit by bit in ordinary days. Just like Ai Qing's poem: "Love is the companionship of a long stream, not a moment of lightning." ”
3. Fantasy 3: A fairy tale waiting for the prince to be saved
"One day, there will be such a person, riding a white horse, through the sea of people, just to save me from fire and water." Such a fantasy, although extremely romantic, also reveals a kind of underestimation of self-worth. True love is not waiting to be saved, but two separate souls attracting each other and going hand in hand. Women should learn to be their own knights and bravely face the storms and challenges of life.
4. Fantasy 4: Love can heal all wounds
"As long as you find true love, the pain of the past will disappear." This is the belief that many older leftover women hold when they are looking for love. However, although love has magical powers, it is not a panacea. It is not a substitute for personal growth and self-healing. As Ai Qing said, "Love is a part of life, not the whole thing." It can make life better, but it can't solve all problems. ”
5. Fantasy 5: Marriage is the end of love
"When you get married, you find a happy home." This concept makes many older leftover women regard marriage as the ultimate goal of love. However, marriage is only an important stage in the love journey, not the end. True happiness lies in how two people continue to manage love in marriage and face the joys, sorrows and sorrows of life together.
Over-indulging in fantasy will only lead to a loss of true happiness. As one netizen said: "Love needs dreams, but it needs to be down-to-earth." ”
So, for older leftover women, what is the future path? Perhaps, the answer lies in everyone's heart. We should learn to let go of those unrealistic illusions and face love and marriage with a more mature and rational attitude. True happiness is not waiting and fantasizing, but being brave enough to love, to live, and to become a better version of yourself.
Have you ever been lost in these fantasies in your quest for love? Now, how are you going to adjust your pace and move on?