As the old saying goes, there are clouds, and thirty stands. Whether in terms of personality or spirit, in short, a person at this age is already an adult, and society will no longer look at it as a child.
It stands to reason that if you reach 30 and don't have a stable career and a certain amount of savings, then it's too sad.
In fact, the biggest sorrow of a family is not that there is no money and no success in the career, but that people are still doing these two wrong things in middle age:
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People are still dependent on their parents in middle age
It's really hard for young people today! On the one hand, the competitive pressure of the job market has intensified, and it is difficult to find a stable job and gain economic independence. On the other hand, housing prices have soared in the past 20 years, and the pressure on housing loans has been overwhelming; There are also rising prices, rising living expenses...
In this reality, many people who should be independent at the age of 30 have no choice but to rely on their parents in order to "survive".
Parents provide them with financial support, buy them a house and a car, and even have to settle the wedding bride price and banquet.
If young people are only in trouble for a while, it doesn't matter if their parents lend a helping hand, and they will be able to be independent in the future. The most feared thing is that I grew up in a doting and conniving educational environment, and I have a misunderstanding of life values, and it may be even more difficult to change this situation!
In the eyes of some people, as long as my parents have the ability to raise me and give me money, it is all right, anyway, I am the only child in the family, who does not hurt me? In the future, theirs will be mine.
Not to mention, there are still many people in real life who are hot with this kind of thinking.
For example, a post-90s woman in Anhui can be called a "demon ceiling for her younger brother", selling cakes for 12 years to buy a house and a car for her younger brother. She wakes up at 4:30 a.m. every morning and stays busy in the store until 10 p.m. to rest, with little rest throughout the year.
Behind such hard work, there is only one dream, that is: to buy a house and a car for my younger brother.
There is another shocking news, the sister of the "Brother Demon" bought a house for ten years and gave money, and was slashed and killed by her younger brother in a rage, and the reason for the murder was that the money given by the sister was not enough to spend.
And have you found that the younger brother demon, the brother demon who is helped, and the people who are supported are all boys, which is enough to see: ordinary people's families have a serious patriarchal thinking.
There are many reasons why these "boys" are never "weaned":
(1) Being too protected from an early age, many young people still do not have the courage to face difficulties and challenges even when they reach their thirties, so they lack the ability to solve problems and live independently.
(2) Sometimes, in order to protect their children from harm, parents will intervene excessively in their children's lives, which also leads to the inability of children to be independent in adulthood.
(3) The popularity of social media may also be a reason why children have become dependent on their parents. Virtual networking gives children a sense of satisfaction and security that is different from the real world without having to actually face real-life challenges.
Such dependence leads to their inability to adapt to the requirements of real life and the development of independence.
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When a man reaches thirty, he is not responsible
In fact, when a person reaches 30, no money is not a big deal, but irresponsibility and lack of responsibility are very serious.
After all, everyone has what kind of identity at what stage, so as to complete such identity responsibilities, you are worthy of being a person at this stage.
For example, if a person in his 30s already has a wife, then he should learn to love his person well. If you have children, you should learn to accompany and educate them. If your parents are alive, you should be filial to them and not let them worry about it.
Otherwise, at this age, you don't know the basic responsibilities, and you will be out of step with your age. It's a child, but it's been alive for decades; Let's say it's an adult, adults don't do anything responsible, how can this identity and role not be embarrassing?
To put it bluntly, a 30-year-old person, not to mention having a lot of money, even if he can't make any money, his life is not rich, but at least he can be regarded as a reliable person and a responsible person.
Not being able to earn money still does not prevent you from loving your wife and daughter, and having no money still does not affect your care for your children, let alone obeying your parents' teachings.
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Start now and be a reliable person
In fact, if you have passed 30 and still haven't been able to accomplish anything, and you have found that the past is unreliable, it doesn't matter, it's not too late to change yourself from now on.
If you are in debt, then find a way to earn a little more, and you will not be afraid of hard work, and you will be able to get through it slowly.
If the family is not in harmony, calm down and communicate with each other, talk more, talk about your inner thoughts, listen to their thoughts more, and learn from each other to change.
If your career is not going well, then learn more new skills, improve yourself, and increase your competitiveness in the workplace.
Take more time to spend with your parents, even if you make a phone call and care about a few words, or sit down and quietly watch a TV he loves with your parents and taste a pot of old tea they love, which is also a kind of reliability.
In short, it's never too late to start over, as long as you're willing to change and take action. Don't wait until you can't do anything in time to regret it.
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Wan Ziwen said:
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