On my boyfriend's birthday, my wife asked me to pay for it, and I decided to divorce! This thought was like a sudden pebble that threw itself into my originally calm heart, stirring up layers of waves. Lin Yue and I have been married for five years, and I have always thought that the relationship between us is as solid as a rock and can withstand the ups and downs of life. However, this simple request is like a mirror, reflecting the hidden rift between us.
It all started one weekend evening, I was preparing dinner in the kitchen, and my phone suddenly rang, it was my wife Xiaoya calling. Answering the phone, her voice on the other end was a little eager: "Husband, your boyfriend Xiao Li is on his birthday today, hasn't he been unemployed recently?" I want to give him a gift to show my concern, can you ......" I didn't finish speaking, but I understood what she meant. I had mixed feelings in my heart, on the one hand, I understood her kindness, and on the other hand, I was puzzled and dissatisfied with her approach.
"Xiaoya, you don't know our economic situation, we just paid off the mortgage last month, and there are still a bunch of expenses waiting for us this month. Of course, it's okay to give a gift to Xiao Li, but you also have to do what you can, right? "I try to express my opinion as calmly as possible.
However, Xiaoya's tone became a little impatient: "Why are you so stingy?" Xiao Li has been our friend for many years, and he is now in the most difficult time, so what's wrong with us helping out? Besides, it's not for you to pay all the money, we can share it. ”
I was stunned, and a feeling of being misunderstood and slighted came over me. In my opinion, it is important for friends to help each other, but it should also be based on one's own actual situation, and one should not blindly sacrifice one's own interests to meet the needs of others. What's more, the money should have been used for our family expenses, not to please others.
That night, the atmosphere between us dropped to freezing point. I lay in bed, tossing and turning, my heart filled with disappointment and anger. I began to question whether our marriage was really as strong as I thought it would be. Did Xiaoya really consider my feelings and needs?
The next morning, I got up very early, didn't say good morning to Xiao Ya as usual, and went straight to the company. Throughout the day, I was so immersed in my own world that I couldn't concentrate on my work. I know I need to have a good talk with Xiaoya, but I don't know how to speak, let alone if I can change anything after talking.
The turning point came one night a few days later. Xiaoya suddenly proposed to go for a walk together, and although I was skeptical, I agreed. As we walked through the quiet streets, we could occasionally hear laughter and dogs barking in the distance. Xiaoya broke the silence: "Husband, I know I was impulsive that day, and I didn't take into account your feelings. Actually, I didn't want to force you to pay for it, but seeing Xiao Li so sad, I couldn't help but want to do something for him. ”
I stopped and looked at her sincere eyes, and a trace of warmth welled up in my heart. But I still stuck to my position: "Xiaoya, I understand your feelings, but we also have our own lives to live." We can't always sacrifice ourselves to fulfill others, especially when that sacrifice takes a toll on our own lives. ”
Xiaoya nodded, as if seriously thinking about my words. Then, she suddenly laughed: "You're right, I'm too impulsive." However, I've already figured out a solution. I contacted a few friends and planned to hold a small party for Xiao Li together, and everyone pooled money to surprise him. This not only expresses our concern, but also does not put too much financial pressure on ourselves. ”
After listening to this, most of the resentment in my heart instantly dissipated. I realized that Xiaoya wasn't trying to embarrass me, she was just helping her friend in her own way. And I, because of impulsiveness and misunderstanding, almost made an irreparable decision.
The climax occurred at Xiao Li's birthday party. On that day, we invited a few mutual friends to work together to set up the venue, prepare food and gifts. Although the scene is not large, it is full of warmth and joy. Xiao Li was deeply moved by everyone's enthusiasm and care, and he said with tears in his eyes: "Thank you for not giving up on me in my most difficult time." It's my greatest luck to have friends like you. ”
Looking at Xiao Li's smiling face, Xiao Ya and I looked at each other and smiled, and all misunderstandings and estrangements disappeared at this moment. We understand that marriage is not only about two people supporting each other, but also about the integration of two families and two social circles. In this process, we need to learn to understand, tolerate and communicate in order to face the ups and downs of life together.
Since then, Xiaoya and I have cherished each other more and paid more attention to communication and understanding in marriage. We have learned to think from each other's perspective at critical moments, and we have learned to work together in the face of difficulties. And that "divorce crisis" has also become a valuable growth experience in our marriage, which has strengthened our determination to go on together.