Now everyone's minds are also open-minded, and it is not strange for the woman to run to the man's house to live before marriage. But the post I saw today still shocked my three views!
➤ The title of the post is "Do you want to pay for living expenses when you live at your boyfriend's house"
↓Another note from the poster↓
▽The situation is like this: The owner of the post (female) went to live at her boyfriend's house after graduating from junior college last year. My boyfriend's parents are not at home, and I have grandparents living with my grandparents at home. My grandparents have a pension, and they usually buy vegetables and cook (by the way, they do laundry and housework).
In a few months, the poster is going to work, and the boyfriend's parents call and ask the two young people to take the initiative to pay some living expenses, such as 500 yuan per person, but the poster is unwilling to give.
▽ It is said that in order to create an illusion for his parents that he is at work, the previous poster asked his boyfriend to transfer 1,000 yuan to his mother every month.
>> I really call it a good guy! <<
If you don't get married, you go to the man's house to live, is it not self-love, let's not evaluate this matter first! After all, they are all adults and can take responsibility for their actions.
▽Let's just say that a girl in her early 20s, good hands and feet, even if she can't find a particularly good job with a college degree, but it's definitely not a big problem to support herself, so willingly be a 'rice worm'?
If it's if her parents are used to letting her mess, forget it, the key is that she runs out to gnaw on other old people! And after gnawing for a month or two, people may put up with it, but she has been gnawing for a year!
>> asked her boyfriend's elderly grandparents to cook and wash her clothes, and then she was reluctant to pay 500 yuan for food. This kind of thing can't be done by people with a little face! I seriously doubt that the owner of the post really doesn't know how to write "courtesy, righteousness and shame".
➤↓ Netizens commented one-sidedly, and the words were very sharp↓
▽ The scolded poster even felt that he was very aggrieved. She replied to netizens' comments: I really want to be his (boyfriend) wife, so go to live at his house! His stepmother had a cold attitude when she saw me for the first time! Her grandmother is also very hypocritical, it was she who first said that it would be good to put the clothes in the shower, why did she turn her head and sue! Speaking of which, I still have fire!
↑I'm not in a hurry to get married, so be it! Swipe videos every day and play with your phone, and wait for the weather to cool down before thinking about work. ↑
▽ This statement makes people even more annoyed! No wonder some netizens said: If my daughter is like this, I will drag it out and beat her!
➤ Now there is a lot of discussion on the Internet about "whether a woman lives in her boyfriend's house or not".
Some people may think: If the man's parents ask Fang for living expenses, they mean that they don't look down on her and don't treat her as their own! Otherwise, why don't they ask their son for living expenses? It's just a matter of having one more pair of chopsticks, and who can't afford it at home now, it's deliberately responding to people!
>>Yes! What if it's deliberately diaphragm? <<
If the woman takes the initiative to go to the man's house to live (if the man runs to the woman's house is the same), you have to make various psychological preparations in advance: for example, your own living habits are in conflict with the man's family, such as the "upside down behavior" of the other party's family who dislikes the son and daughter's object in terms of ideological traditions...
▽It's just the identity of boyfriend and girlfriend, whether you can become a family or not, how can you be embarrassed to live in someone else's house? I think that this money must not only be given, but also taken the initiative to give, even if others don't want it, they have to change their ways to repay this favor.
➤ If the young couple (adult) is really inseparable, you can rent a house and go out alone. Completely enjoy the world of two people, and don't have to "send people under the fence" to see the faces of each other's families, how good! Why do you have to run to each other's house?
To put it bluntly, it's not independent!
Either they are not financially independent, have no money and cannot afford to pay rent, or are unwilling to pay rent; Either they are not mentally independent and cannot endure life without the care of their parents and family.
➤ People are greedy, and most people want and want.
> not only envy others for spending their parents' money to buy a house or a car, but also want their parents not to interfere with any of their choices;
> want someone to carry the burden of life for me, but also hope that no one will point fingers at me;
> the main post is "not only to enjoy the beautiful life of eating to open your mouth and clothes to stretch your hands, but also to straighten your waist without pulling out a dime"... Expect others to pay in line with her heart and without conditions!
But how can there be such a good thing in the world? Or if there is such a good thing, will she be able to catch it?
▽ Many times we need to make trade-offs, and if you choose the path A, then there may be some things that cannot be avoided. If you choose the B path, there will be some inevitable things.
But no matter how you choose, if you want to live with dignity, you must have a little backbone.