#头条创作挑战赛#
Social cleaning: blackmailing, breaking off relationships, withdrawing from groups, and reshaping the refreshing interpersonal circle of middle-aged people
Life is like a boat, and it is difficult to move forward if the load is too heavy. In the same way, when our social circle is too large, we also need to do a cleaning at the right time to maintain inner peace and lightness of life. This is not only a kind of self-reduction, but also a kind of in-depth combing and optimization of interpersonal relationships.
1. Block the "garbage people" around you and stay away from negative energy
In life, there are always some people, they are like "garbage people", not only carry a lot of negative energy, but also constantly transmit it to the people around them. They may not have any real abilities, but they are good at causing trouble and strife. Socializing with such people will not only consume your time and energy, but it may also make your mood terrible.
Just like the martial arts in Mo Yan's novel "The Late Bloomer: The Fighter", although he seems ordinary, he can always bring trouble and trouble to people in various ways. For such a character, the wisest thing to do is to stay away and block him. Doing so is not an escape, but a wisdom to protect yourself.
2. Break off relations with "toxic" relatives and protect the bottom line of family affection
Relatives should have been in a relationship of mutual support and mutual help. However, in real life, there are always some relatives who make people feel stressed and helpless. They may not be poor, but they are always looking for ways to get out of you. They may not be busy, but they are always interrupting your life for a variety of reasons. Socializing with such relatives will not only make you feel exhausted, but it is more likely to make your family relationship strained and complicated.
For such relatives, severing ties may be a necessary option. This is not a callous approach, but a protection of self and affection. Only when you dare to let go of these useless family entanglements can you have a more refreshing and peaceful living space.
3. Exit useless group chats and regain the tranquility of life
In this era of information explosion, we always seem to be surrounded by all kinds of group chats. From work groups to family and friend groups, from interest groups to regional groups, we are overwhelmed by all kinds of group chats. However, in these group chats, there are not many truly meaningful, valuable exchanges. On the contrary, many group chats are filled with small talk, complaints, and negative energy, which makes people feel depressed and irritable.
For such group chats, quitting is undoubtedly a wise choice. This is not an escapist practice, but a cherishing of one's own time and energy. When we are freed from these useless group chats, we can have more time and energy to focus on the things that really matter, such as family, career, and personal growth.
Fourth, remove the turnip and reshape the refreshing interpersonal circle
After some rectification, such as blocking, severing diplomatic relations and withdrawing from the group, we will have a more refreshing and peaceful social circle. The people in this circle are truly worthy of our association and cherishment. They may not be perfect, but they bring us positive energy and support. They may not be rich, but they are willing to share the bits and pieces of life and joy with us.
We feel relaxed and happy to associate with such people. We no longer need to worry about being haunted by negative energies or getting caught up in useless relationships. We can focus more on our lives and goals and pursue a better life.
5. Learn to refuse and guard personal boundaries
In the process of rectifying our social circles, we also need to learn to refuse. Reject meaningless invitations and requests, and reject those ways of interacting that make us feel uncomfortable. By refusing, we can better guard our personal boundaries and dignity.
At the same time, we need to learn to accept. Accept those who genuinely care about us and support us. Establish a deep friendship and trust relationship with them, and share the joys and sorrows of life together.
6. Cherish the people in front of you and build a harmonious interpersonal relationship
Finally, we must cherish the people in front of us. Cherish those friends and family who have always been there for us. They are one of the most precious treasures of our lives. Establish harmonious interpersonal relationships with them, support each other, understand each other, and work together through every stage of life.
In this process, we need to keep learning and growing. By improving your emotional intelligence and communication skills, you can get along and communicate better with others. At the same time, we also need to maintain an open and inclusive mind, accept different people and things, and make our lives more colorful.
7. Adjust in a timely manner to maintain social activity
Of course, the reorganization of social circles does not mean that we have to isolate ourselves completely. Instead, we should maintain a certain level of social activity and actively participate in beneficial activities and exchanges. Through these activities, we can expand our horizons and knowledge, and make more friends and partners.
At the same time, we also need to learn to adjust our social strategies in a timely manner. According to different occasions and needs, flexibly choose the right way and object of communication. This will not only improve the efficiency and quality of our social interactions, but also allow us to better adapt to the development and changes of society.
In short, it is a necessary and meaningful job for middle-aged people to straighten out their social circles. By blocking, breaking off relationships, withdrawing from groups, etc., we can remove those useless negative energy and interpersonal entanglements, and make our lives more refreshing and peaceful. In this process, we need to maintain a rational and firm mindset, and not be affected by external disturbances. At the same time, we also need to cherish those who truly care about us and support us, and build a harmonious and beautiful social circle with them. This will not only improve our quality of life and work efficiency, but also allow us to better enjoy the good times of life.