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Whoever does things according to human nature wins in the end; Whoever puts feelings first loses in the end
Many people often have the wrong idea that when interacting with others, as long as they lower their posture and give more, others will be grateful for their good and will treat themselves with the same attitude.
This is to put feelings first, believing that feelings can solve problems in relationships.
But the reality is that when you put yourself in the dust, keep giving, and keep emptying yourself, others will look down on you more and more.
Human nature is strong.
Nowadays, people talk about loving themselves, in fact, it is based on this characteristic of human nature.
Achieve yourself first, strengthen yourself, make yourself awesome, and most interpersonal problems will be solved accordingly.
Almost all of life's sufferings stem from not understanding human nature.
People who can do things according to human nature face fewer setbacks and are often more likely to succeed.
02
Always put yourself in the right position, this is the foundation for becoming stronger
I saw an article the other day with the title: People become stupid when they are stared at.
There is a sentence in the article:
"In quantum mechanics, a photon collapses when it is stared at, and a person collapses when it is gazed."
Looking back on life, there is indeed such a phenomenon:
Walking down the street in a new outfit makes you feel uncomfortable, as if many people's eyes are on you.
When you are asked to toast during a banquet, you will feel flustered, and you will forget the sentences you have thought of in an instant, let alone give a speech in front of the public.
Usually when a person feels that he is being stared at by others, his thinking is no longer clear and his language becomes confused, which is a very stupid state.
In fact, it is putting oneself in the position of an object, a position to be judged by others.
If you want to regain your subjectivity, you must have a stable enough kernel.
No matter what the circumstances, you can make yourself the center of your life.
I wore new clothes because I liked them; Toasting in a banquet is because you want to sincerely express your blessings to others; I speak in front of people because I want to make a point of view.
When one regains the subjectivity of life, one will have the foundation to become stronger.
03
If a person wants to do something, he must first skip the emotional hurdle
I've been writing for almost a year, and I'm often asked: How do you keep doing it every day?
After thinking about it, I think I did one thing: I skipped the emotional hurdle.
Anyone who wants to do something for a long time will have emotional distress in the middle, and I often face this situation when I am writing.
For example: I am depressed today and am not in the mood to write an essay; Today is too little time, and I am afraid that the articles I wrote in a hurry will be disliked; If you're not feeling well today, or give yourself a day off.
Such thoughts and emotions often come to my mind, and I almost give up a few times.
Now I think that after deciding what to do, no matter how the matter comes, how to turn the river and the sea in my heart, I will act first.
The action itself is positive feedback.
When you complete the task, you will find that all the worries and emotions are actually internal friction generated by a person's thoughts, and they are a bunch of emotional garbage.
Being able to not be swayed by emotions and focus on your own rhythm is the key to personal success.
04
When you're weak, be high-profile; When you're strong, keep a low profile
A lot of people often do the opposite.
If you mix it well, you will show off everywhere, and as a result, you will be jealous of others and secretly excluded and suppressed.
When you are too weak, you will be humble and respectful, and you will be considered weak and bullied by others.
Because the vast majority of people like to pick up soft persimmons and pinch them.
Only when people become stronger, have the ability to protect themselves, grow hard teeth, and have all the humility and courtesy, will they be respected by others.
In the same way, when you are strong, you will restrain your words and deeds everywhere, and life will be smoother.